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I'm Alyssa. I am 16, about to be a junior in High School, bi-sexual, and been through A LOT. I am willing to answer anything and everything.I am looking into becoming an ER Nurse or EMT and i'm taking Anatomy and also basic Health Science. Plus I have an insane amount of health problems.
I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and also I know alol about eating disorders, as I have had one, and gay/bi issues I know a lot about! I'm also a computer whiz and know loads of HTML and that kind of stuff. Basically ANY kind of question-- I can answer! Hope to you help you.
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(15/f)Well my life is really hectic right now. Some things have happened recently that are really stressful for me...well i just havent been myself lately && my boyfriend has noticed it. Things arent the same like they used to be. Dont get me wrong i love him a lot but idk if i can handle a relationship anymore. All we do is fight now, and im just always moody now and he deserves way better than me. With everything going i just cant handle the whole bg/gf stress. Yes ive tried talking about it to him but he doesnt get it... I told him we were over last night (that was deff. the hardest thing ive ever done)...its just horrible that i had to do that because its like now all i feel is like sh**.. First i was just like "I have to do this" and now i feel like I need him more than anything. Weve been dating for 7 months, and its like i just blew it. He told me that if i did this that he was never gonna take me back && i did it, so i lost him :(. Idk what to do im so confused. And i cant take a break because those things never work out and besides he said he wont take me back anyway. Hes online right now and he nor I have imed each other. he was really hurt when i told him and he was seriously about to cry :(. Now all i can do it cry because i feel like such a low-life loser. I do love him but its just difficult, really really difficult...If anyone can help me out with this i would really appreciate it..xox
I would say, if this guy doesn't understand what your going through and says up front that he won't take you back, you would be wasting your time and energy trying to get him back. I would say that you should'nt waste your time with him now and that all you can do is move on. To be honest, he sounds like a jerk anyways. I know it's VERY hard, but you just need to move on. Honestly, there isn't hope. You would just be torturing yourself if you wasted anymore energy with him.
Okay, so now to the point. You are going through a time, yes? Maybe what you need to do is just go on a walk a try to figgure things out. Walks are nice-- especially during the sun rise or sun set. I'm not saying that will fix everything, but you may get more insight to the situation.
Of course there is always a possibilty that you have chronic depression. If this is the case, I would highly recomend that you talk to your parents or guardians about seeing a phsychiatrist. They will be able to diagnose the depression and give you proper treatment. Treatment will include Therapy if you choose, and Medication if your willing to take it. (I have depression and have been through that process so I know.)
You may not have depression, though. I am not saying that you defenitely do. It could be Anxiety disorder, which your constantly worrying. In that case, you would go through the same process mentioned above.
There is a high probobility that you have neither of those. You could just be going through the same teenage hormone shifts that we all are going through. It's extremely hard, though, I know. Trust me, I know.
The best thing you can do right now about your stressful situation(s) is just be strong. Don't let him make you cry so much and feel so bad. Relationships come and go, sister. He is obviously not the "one" for you. It was meant to be-- just remember that.
One thing i've learned recently is that friends are great. When i'm at home, i'm stressed. But when i'm with friends and just having a good time, I forget everything. Friends are wonderful for talking to about things, as well. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have are amazing. Feel free to lean on your friends after something like this-- if they don't let you, they're not a good friend. What are friends for, after all?
You say you haven't been yourself and life has been hard recently... that happens to everyone occasionaly. It honestly does. Take a long bubble bath and just relax. Watch a silly movie, or heck call a grandparent up and just chat. I love talking with my grandma, but that's just me.
If you're still not feeling better in 2 weeks or so, I would say that it's time to look in to weather or not you have a chemical imbalance.
p.s. no problem, babes. =) glad I helped. send me something in my inbox and tell me how it works out!!
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