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I feel like you might be me at 17, I also described it as tripping in love :)
I'll tell you some things what I really wish I knew back then and I hope you find it helpfull.
If you are anything like me, the treating women with the highest respect and dignity, might be a tad overdone, just treat them with the respect and dignity, BUT you must treat them this way because you treat yourself likewise!!!!
Bible says something I like "What the the heart is full off, the mouth overflows off"
What you are full off you will automatically give other people.
If she is being unreasonable towards you, treat yourself foremost with respect AND her with the same, so tell her and don't try to kiss her ass.
First off, she is smiling and laughing when talking to you, might be wrong but it's pretty safe to assume she likes you in SOME way.
Ask her out on a date (for coffee,... whatever you enjoy doing, or would enjoy doing with her), most women won't ask a man, no matter what, so assume the man role. REMEMBER to say WHEN and WHAT, YOU MUST TELL HER WHEN!!! find out what times are good for her and you decide when it will fit you best.
Now when you go on the date, be yourself, joke around with her, tease her (those 3 rules will get you far, its fun for women). Find out what she likes and enjoys. If this would happen to include strawberries or whatever and you have the opertunity to buy them then and there, don't. Buy it for her next time you go on a date, this is good advice never get women what they want imidiatly, give it a tad later, this shows that you were paying attention and that you are giving cause you want to give.
For now you MUST think of yourself as interviewing her, NOT the otherway around. Shes out with you, so now it's your turn to decide if anything going to happen from this FRIENDSHIP.
Try not to kiss her on the first date, no matter how much you want to. Go home have a cold shower and consider what you like about her, AND WHAT NOT, no matter how trivial, espesially if you have a crush on her!!!
A couple of days later 3 or 4, tell her you had fun the last time and if she wants to go out again, if she enjoyed the last time she might say yes, but then she might be busy...AGAIN you decide when and where...don't ask her.
You may later find out that she enjoys tenpin bowling, don't take her imidiatly, a tad later.
This time do the same, maybe get her the strawberries/flowers/cookies she likes...
You should start looking out for interest from her side from the 2nd to 4th date, not teribly good at reading women i'm in company with but I found the hair test to be uncanny. Sitting/lying... next to her, get her to talk, look in her eyes, reach over and play with her hair CONFIDENTLY. don't be "may i please touch..." women in general don't like weak men, touch her cause you want to.
If she don't like it she'll tell you.
If there are no objections reach over and kiss her, again CONFIDENTLY and cause YOU want to, again she will always tell you when she doesn't like anything. DONT be apologetic about kissing or whatever she don't like, respect her wishes tho and try again later :)
Then kiss her at regular intervals, when you want to. If she wants to kiss you, tell her that you will but only after a backrub or the like.
Lastly, if you were yourself things will happen because she does or doesn't like YOU, don't take it personally though.
Always stand up for her!
Always try to supprise her, very little of this includes gifts!
Be confidant in yourself and that you can make her happy!
DON'T COME OFF AS NEEDING HER, i've made the mistake plenty of times of telling women i have a crush on that i love them..., BAD MOVE. I'd say if you love her after 3-6 months (and you're still involved with her) tell her.
Take the lead in the relationship, it's like a dance anyway.
Might be a good idea for you to watch "Hitch" if you havn't yet, pretty damn good movie.
Hope you the best my good man, remember it's always a risk to try.
PS. have confidence in yourself that you CAN build a very long relationship out of any relationship you choose to, don't be a airhead about it, just love youself a litle too. :)
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