I live in Central Wisconsin. I am married and we have two daughters. In 1997 I earned my degree in psychology from the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. In my spare time I study psychology and philosophy.
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Location: Stevens Point, WI
Occupation: Phlebotomy Coordinator (Clinical Laboratory)
Age: 35
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soemone i kno died and im really bad at dealing with it its been awhile and i still get thoose days that i just miss them so much is there anyway i can cope better?has this happened to you?if so howd u deal?
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You are coping just fine. There will be days when something reminds you of your friend and memories of his/her life and death will well up from within, and COPING means allowing these feelings to surface and be experienced. From your description it sounds as if you are in the final phase of grief, that of ACCEPTANCE. (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Acceptance). You can expect to occasionally have dreams in which your friend is still alive, or has come back from "heaven" to visit you. These dreams are also a perfectly normal means of accepting your loss. Sadness is a natural emotion in the fourth phase.
So, just continue to cope as you have been, allowing yourself to miss your friend and be sad. In time, your grief will subside, but the happy memories will always remain, bringing peace to your life.
We aren't meant to forget those who pass before us. The best way to honor someone's life is to be thankful for the time you had together.
Dr. Chad
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Thank you so muuch i have had dreams about her and i wake up cring everytime i have told anyone because i didnt want to sound like a freak
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