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Okay, has anyone out there been in a situation where you think you're getting a crush on someone and you really don't want it?
That's kinda the situation I'm in right now. He's my guy friend...I refuse to like him. I have a boyfriend whom I adore to absolutely no end. My guy's perfect for me, and he has plans, and he loves me, and I'm safe with him.
My friend, though, has recently been hinting that he likes me, and he knows I have a boyfriend - so he won't try anything. Some little part of me, though, almost wants him to.
What the heck is wrong with me? I think part of it is because he's a good friend, and we have a lot in common...but I know for a fact that it wouldn't work - I've tried relationships where I had almost everything in common with the guy, and they REALLY didn't work. Especially not with someone as competitive as I am. I'm majorly into music, and those guys were too. (So is my friend I'm talking about here)
How do you kill a crush without making yourself hate the guy? (That's what I've done in the past, and I don't want to hate him 'cause he's a sweetheart...)
GAH.
Help? Lol. (link)
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Of course. Happens to most people at some point or another. This is all about will power and trying to constantly keep in mind the effect it would have on your boyfriend if anything happened. Focus on the boyfriend if you are truly happy with him.
At least you realise that the grass isn't necessarily greener on this music guy's side- that'll give you more control than you think if you hang onto that thought.
I'd say try not to get into what could be deemed "romantic" situations if you think this guy might make a move or if you don't trust yourself not to get carried away in the heat of the moment (e.g: sitting in a dark cinema together may not be the best idea).
Other than that, business as usual, trying not to think about this crush at all. Try your best not to lose your friend in the process. Sounds like he means a lot to you and good friends are damn hard to come by (even harder to keep).
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Good friends are hard to come buy and harder to keep especially if they're guys.
I trust myself and him, so there's nothing to worry about there...thank you. =)
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