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okay I need some help, there is this guy who I went out with twice. The first time we went out I was in the tenth grade and he was a senior, well we broke up for a very stupid reason. Anyways, we started going out again in like 2003, which was afer i had gone to college for two years. We ended up breaking up because his parents kept trying to control our relationship and stuff like that. So needless to say, we didn't talk much after we broke up. But he works at the mall which I go to alot and I always found myself staring at him and I caught him staring at me a few times. We have hung out a few times and I can't seem to get him out of my head. I know he likes me still but he has a girlfriend and she is extremely controlling. He wants to do stuff with me and although I really want to, I won't because he has a girlfriend and I know how it feels to be cheated on. So, my question is, how do I get him to dump his gf and come back to me? I love him so much. please help, any advice is great. (link)
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Hi There,
It sounds like your feelings for this guy have overwhelmed you, and prevented you from viewing the situation objectively. From what you've said it's clear he has some commitment problems, but was prepared to play with your emotions while making his own interests a priority.
Right now, however, it's understandably hard for you to accept this. It will take time to get over him, and the way forward is to surround yourself with friends and family. By all means talk about what happened to people you trust, but also focus on the fact that you're a free agent now with a life of your own to lead.
What you're feeling won't go away overnight. In many ways you need to grieve for the loss of what you had. But slowly you'll learn to accept that what happened is in the past, and move on feeling stronger for the experience.
However its upto you in whatever you decide to do, I think you deserve better and he already has a girlfriend anyway.
Goodluck
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yes, I never thought about that until I read your response. Thanks so much for your advice.
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