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this is long. i rate high for good advice ;D
okay, i've known my best friend for about 4 1/2 years. were extremely close. i can tell her anything and shes the same way. were practically sisters. im a year older than her.
shes been going out with her boyfriend for about a year (they had their anniv. last weekend) , but theyre not that close at all. they only saw eachother twice over the summer, and each for like maybe an hour at the most. and i was there too. they dont act like bf & gf at all. they never go out, hang out, or even call eachother. yet, they act like their sooo in love. hes cheated on her like 3 times, and shes known about it. he even liked me before. she doesnt realize that she can do sooo much better than him. he always talks to her about getting married and stuff .. ( theyre in EIGHTH grade ) and i know she doesnt want that. shes not ready for a serious relationship. she still has years ahead of her to date and everything else. also, she wont stand up to him. if he does something to make her mad she wont say a thing about it. and after it gets bad enough, i will. im not the type of person to sit back and let people run over me, or other people. which causes fights, because he thinks its not my place to give him advice on his relationship, which i agree that its not. but if shes not going to do anything about it and shes not happy with him, then its just making her feel worse. i honestly think the reason she wont break up with him is because shes afraid of change. she'll feel empty or something when she knows shes not 'dating' him. also, practically all of his friends are girls, and he'll invite them to hang out before he will her. they've only been on one date without any of her or his friends. and they've barely kissed. and he doesnt even save her a seat at lunch, or talk to her between classes, or anything. hes so mean to all of her friends too, me in particular. once, he told her that if they got married and i came over that he would shoot me and tell the police i was breaking in. immature, i know. then he had the nerve to ask her if she'd divorce him after that. why would she want to be with him after that? hes really controlling. i want the best for her, and i know this isnt it. she knows i dont like their relationship, and no one else does either. i dont know why they stay together.. (link)
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Wow, okay, well...
It seems to me like your friend won't break up with him because she thinks she won't be able to get another boyfriend. I agree that she's WAY to young to be talking about marrage, but you REALLY need to let your friend know that there is someone else out there for her, and she doesn't have to stick around with him. He seems way too controling.
I'll say again, I think she's just afraid she won't find anyone else, and you need to prove to her that she can and will. Good luck!
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great advice.
i dont think thats the problem though.
shes rather popular with the guys.. lol
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