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Q: I'm a sixteen year old girl.

Ok. Well last summer I went on this camping trip with this Chrisitan club I go to. I decided to sit next to a friend who I had met about 7 days before we got on the charter bus to head to Colorado. Well I got on the bus and ten minutes later my supposed friend was hitting on me and trying to kiss me and such. I kept telling him no but it didn't seem to get into his head. He would try to rub my stomach, rub my legs, massage my back, and more. I was so scared. I tried to yell for the adult supervisors on the bus but he would always pull me to him and try to kiss me when I did that. I was terrified. I had been sexually harrassed twice before in my life so I knew what might happen if I didn't get him to stop. Well we got off for a break and I switched seats with someone and sat next to my friend Jessica but he convinced her to move and so he was next to me again. Well when we got there he started leaving me alone and everything was fine but then these three others guy started coming on to me too and I was scared again. I didn't know what to do. I told all the leaders I knew would listen and they said they would try to keep them away from me but they were never around when the boys were. Well I'm of course back from camp now and I haven't seen those three guys but my supposed friend won't leave me alone. I'm afraid of telling my parents because my dad will blow up and try to fatally injure him. I just don't know what to do. What can I do?

That's a SERIOUS problem... and what's worse is that you told the leaders and they didn't confront him about it! Something is wrong with that camp if they'd allow that sort of thing to go along.

Write everything down... the dates, the times, the stories, so you'll have it on record. Write down who you've told and what their responses were. Don't be alone with this guy and let all your friends know that you can't be alone with him, and they shouldn't be alone with him, either. He has a problem learning the word "No". If your club has any leaders, they should know too. I understand not wanting to tell your parents, because parents can be somewhat irrational, but it might come to that if the adults around you can't figure out how to manage it. Some way or another this guy needs to learn that his behavior is unacceptable, and if he won't take the hint from you it's your responsibility to get an adult to talk to him. Keep going up the ranks until you find one.

Any guy who'd kiss you when you're obviously trying to get away has major issues, and you can't deal with it by telling him nicely or calmly. Some things are too disgusting to be calm about.

Rating: 4

I have told my parents but they didn't seem to be angered by it at all. All my dad said was "Keep him away from you then." It has been too long from then to remember everything that was said on the bus. I have told the leaders but now it doesn't seem to worry them very much. It is like since we have returned from camp that they have completely forgotten what I told them.

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