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OKay. Make a long story short. I went out with this Varsity football player for like 5 days! But he's either at work or football so i called him to break up with him (Cause i never saw him) n he was like hey call me abck in 20 i'm almost home. so i did and he didnt answer. it was almost 12 and i had to get up in 5 hours so i was like uuugh n left a voicemail asking if we could be friends! i know it was mean but it was like 5 days i didnt think it'd be a big deal. so like 2 days later i called n he was cool said he got the voicemail said he didnt hold grudges then had to go. so i saw him today (like a week later) and he was cold. like my sis drove off so i walking with him back to his work from the liqour store next door n said she was yelling at me for being a caddy bitch and i was really sry bout the whole voicemail thing, n he shrugged n walked inside.
I FEEL TERRIBLE AND I STILL LIKE HIM i need to talk to him asap!! but he works till 11!!! how?!?!|
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Hi There
Ok he is one confusing guy - and maybe he's confused himself aswell. He probably likes you and thinks your pretty etc. but just doesn't want an actual relationship. It sounds like he wanted your friendship and he was pleased with you liking him, but didn't really want anything more. Despite that he was flirting with you (he's probably attracted to you) which was a bit out of order if he didn't actually want to talke things further. Maybe he liked the attention from you and didn't want to loose that?
Maybe he doesn't even want a proper relationship at a moment (you know too much effort). He may feel a little awkward because he knows you fancy him which explains why he won't talk to you now. He could also feel a bit guilty because he never phoned you.
Possibly he doesn't know what he wants right now. He's probably not sure whether he wants your friendship or something more... and because of that he's opted for the easy option of ignoring you completely.
I think you have 2 options:
1) You talk to him and sort things out.
or
2) You get over him.
I'd say try out option 1 if you can because otherwise you may regret it. See if you can have a chat with him (best in private!) about your realtionship. Ask him why he's ignoring you - because you deserve to be treated better by someone who was once your friend. See if he wants to be friends again. If he doesn't then get on with option 2 because he's not worth it. If he does then try and make things work out this time. Keep things friendly though - don't phone him until your close again and give him his space. Maybe he just felt a little pressurised before? Let things progress at there own pace. Hey, maybe one day you'll go out and if not it'll be for the best.
Option 2 - Getting Over Him - is hard but very important. I suggest that firstly you try and get all your emotions out (down on paper or to a mate) and then just try and forget him. Tell yourself he's not worth your thoughts (because he isn't!) and keep yourself busy to help you forget him. Go out with mates and socialise - meet new people... and new boys. Before you know it i'm sure you'll meet someone way more worthy of your attention.
About your sister - I suggest you don't let him know who you fancy in the future if he's going to spread it around like that. It was unfair of him to tell your guy's sister and so if your sis talks about you in the future then I think you should firmly say that it's none of her business. This sister does not sound like the nicest person in the world, but maybe she's just over-protective of you - whatever, she has her facts competely wrong but don't blow up at her, just deny the things she accuses you of and try and keep out of her way. Your guy probably wouldn't want you fighting with your sister every 2 seconds!
Maybe this football player just isn't worth all the trouble. It seems like he might just be as confused, or more confused, than you are. I'd make sure that he knew you'd be there if he ever did want to talk, but don't push anything. Look around for someone new, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
Good Luck!
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it was really good... but i think u must of read it wrong, or i wrote it wrong, thanks ne waz
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