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Got nothing to say. What I say about me doesn't matter, I didn't come here to talk about myself. My advice is based on what I think of your situation and what I think you should do. Duh. I'm not here to sympathise when you're wrong or sugar coat anything. I'm honest, and yes, I have been an 'asshole' before - I try to wake people up to the best of my ability, thanks. If you really want to know anything about me you can drop one in my inbox.
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I'm 17 and a senior and I have a serious problem with my dad. I have an older brother who doesn't live at home any more, but when he did, he wasn't exactly the best student. I remember every time interums or report cards would come out, I would hide up in my room listening to him crying as my dad screamed at him. I don't know everything that my dad did, because I never saw it, but I only remember my mom sticking up for him ONCE. He would always tell anyone who would listen what a loser my brother was and how he would never amount to anything. The first time I got a C in math was when I was in the 10th grade. My dad screamed at me and then told me to get out of his face because he didn't want to look at me anymore. He gets pissed off at little things, has thrown chairs across the room and has no clear desire whatsoever to control his anger. He has never hit my mom, little sister or me but he yells a lot and my mom hardly ever says anything to him. He's trying to force me to go to the college he wants me to go to by threatening not to give me any financial support. For a while, I was cutting myself because he made me feel so worthless, but I haven't done so in over two years because my mom walked in on me once. She doesn't believe me when I say I think I'm really depressed. My brother was diagnosed with chronic depression and my dad flipped when he found out because he doesn't believe in psychology, which is the field I want to go into. I really hate him and am sick of putting up with him and I don't know what to do.
Get the big bugs out, and prepare for a battle cause if you want to live your life and get away from this guy, you're going to be pretty much on your own. I'm sorry, but if your mom is making no effort to help and your brother is...lost, then you've gotta take a stand for yourself. Look at it this way - you are a senior. You wont be home for much longer. As for him trying to pick a college for you - girl, fuck him. No, seriously. My dad had that thought in mind at one point in his life, what to do with my future, but I made it clear to him he doesn't have shit to do with my future. So since he's taking the coward road like my dad almost did - blocking you financially, I say, you get a loan if you want to do what you want in your life. Or go his way.
Talk to guidance councillor[s], or find out what kind of financial help you can get at banks in your area. I think you are entitled to financial help for an education, but I'm not sure. What I'm saying is - dont.give.up, kay? Ignore him, like Rahzie said, dont yell back, and just keep telling yourself you'll be out of there soon. I know its not as easy as it sounds, I KNOW, but it depends on just how much you want this for yourself.
(Rating: 4) I'm pretty sure that financial aid is determined by how much money ones parents make because colleges expect parents to be supportive, but I sure as hell am going to do all I can to make it through. Thanks for your help. :)