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well my BF broke up with me 2 weeks ago, i am upset that he did that and i miss him a lot but i'm still going out and gettin on with things.
my question is, is it right for me to look for a new BF now, when i'm still thinking about my ex? or should i wait? (link)
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Hi there,
Breaking up with a loved one is a hard thing to get over. It takes time. For a while you'll wish you were still together and you'll still like him. But in time, you'll have moved on and gotten over him.
There's so many other guys out there, you'll find the right one. It takes time to find the right guy. There will most likely be other break ups in your life, but you'll overcome them and in the end it will be worth it because you'll find the right guy and you'll be happy.
I know what this is like, but I think you've just got to try once more to get him back and if that doesn't work start to get over him. It's hard enough as it is to get over people, so it'd best to start as soon as possible instead of dragging your emotions out for ages.
I'd say try to get him back one final time first because you never know and you'll just regret it if you don't. Don't try and buy him back with icecream etc. (even though i'd love it if someone did that for me!) instead have a talk with him. (on the phone or even instant messaging if that's easier). Tell him you still like him and that you think you could make it work. Ask him how he feels and whether he wants to make another go at the relationship again. If EITHER of his answers are negative then you have to try to forget him. If they're both positive then great, go for it! And really try and make it work :)
OK so if you're only left with the option of getting over him then lets try and go about this the best way. So, he was your first kiss - that's always special, but girl, you have so many more of those coming your way. Don't limit yourself to one guy! OK, he'll always be special to you; but nothing is going to change that - keep the memories but now move on. A good way to start getting over someone is to get out all your emotions about them to a friend/down on paper. Once they're out of your system... let them go.
Now try and forget him. Think of him as a mate and a mate only. If you find yourself thinking of him push those thoughts out your head. Sometimes jokingly insulting him in your head (you know all his little flaws - he can't be perfect) helps. Keep yourself busy, so you can't get down thinking of him. Go out: socialise, join new clubs, meet new people... even meet new boys!
The best way to cure a broken heart is to fall for someone else. Ofcourse you can't force yourself to do this, but it will come in time and hopefully the next guy you like will be just as lovely as this one. So have fun, flirt and get over this guy!
Good Luck!
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Thanks, you gave brilliant advice and you really helped a lot!! He made it clear he didnt want to be with me, and i've already told him in an email i miss him loads, so he knows i still have feelings for him. I'm not gonna sacrifice my dignity by asking to get back together. I've told him to not contact me for at least 2 months. Thanks again
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