I'll start by expressing my utter joy that I'm no longer a fifteen year old boy.

Here's the real deal. Must fifteen year old boys (and for that matter, most 16, 17, and 18 year old boys) are frankly terrified of the of the female of species. You frankly scare the hell out of even the most cocky of the boys in your age group. They don't know how to talk to you, they don't know how to act around you, and they surely haven't figured out how to be around you and not look like total clowns. Seriously, think about the guys at your school, then name five that have the first beginning of a clue how do deal with women on anything even remotely resembling a rational, adult level. (If you can, these are guys you want to hang out with, btw. Even if one of them is not Mr. Right, one of them will surely lead you to him eventually.)

What does a guy like most about a girl? Well, everybody, male or female, likes one thing - someone who puts them at ease, that they don't have to wear a false face around. Just be up front about who you are and what you want; in a friend, a relationship, and out of life. Even if the boys don't come running you're going to feel better about yourself for doing so, and that self-respect will show through and draw people with that same self-respect to you.

In short, don't worry about what the guys like, worry about being someone that you like. That's what the best guys like anyway.

Thank you so much for your help!!!

~Melissa~

First, I am a rationalist.

If you ask me a question, prepare to have it examined under the cold and sometimes harsh light of reason. I'll do my best to provide the best and most rational answer.

Beyond that, I'm a musician, an armchair philospher, sometimes computer programmer, student of many subjects, and all around swell guy.

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