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Ok soo i live with my dad 9 months out of tyhe year ad i really miss my mom. Well i just got back today frm visting her and my dad picks me up at the airport, we get home the house is a complete pig stie like theres his cloths everywere and there liek ants of the counters and the only clean rpoom is his. Rigth after he drops us off( not seeing us for 4 weeks) he leaves and gose to work. He self employed soo like its not like he has a boss telling him- oyur fired- hes the boss! ok sooo also he went out ot party tonite and left us with our aunt!! now am i the wrong one for being kind of mad andsad, likei miss my mom soo much, nd the only thing holding her back from coming here is the money for mthe divorce, she said once he agreess on a price thta i actually acurate which he thinks is too high she bee out here in 5 mis. Now im really buggign my dad ot just give my mom what he owes her, and he slams nad locks his dorr to his room, im starving but im scared ot eat the food b/c of the ants! am i rong for feeling this way, i just had a 8 hours plane ride- boston to las vegas got home and he leaves! withmy mom i feel loved but eith my dad i feel as thought the only reason he has us is ot prove a point ot my mom. I love thme both reallly alot, but i just think me and my sister should be with my mom not my dad. Please i just dnt no i miss my mom and i just dont think i can put up with living with him anymre!!

Just calmly approach your dad and tell him the bugs are kind of grossing you out, and ask if you can get ant traps for them. Also, offer to help him clean up, even if it isn't your mess, have a little mercy on him. I'm sure he really loves you, and maybe you should leave issues between your mom and him for them two to discuss. In the mean time, talk alot to your mom on the phone, and send her emails if you can. And if he goes out frequently on nights and it becomes a steady pattern, tell him you feel hurt when he leaves you home all the time, and ask him if he can maybe cut down a little bit on his nights home. You have to try and be rational and hope for the best response from him! Good Luck!

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