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All right, I need help... I went out with this guy for 3 months... But we were friends 2 months before we started going out... He had a crush on me, and I ended up liking him and we went out (like I said) so our relationship was more like 5 months it's just, for the first 2 months we didn't do anything, and everything was going great, or, so I thought... He broke up with me ON our 3 month anniversary, and yesterday WOULD HAVE been our 6 month anniversary and, it made me really sad... The thing is, is that he verbally abused me... He would say something and I wouldn't understand how he meant it, so I'd get upset, and he would call me stupid and tell me it was all my fault. After he broke up with me he got drunk and messed around with this that liked him, but, he didn't really like her because, he never talks to her anymore... Well, we still talked after he made out with that girl but, about a month ago we got into quite a few arguments and he told me I am not worth it, I can't handle anything, I don't deserve him talking to me, and a lot of other things that really hurt. He's friends, that I am also friends with, tell me he doesn't care about me AT ALL... But yet I still care about him, and everything that happened still REALLY hurts... Oh, and now he likes the school slut and thinks she is "amazingly hot" and wants to do stuff with her... But, my question is, why? Why does it still hurt when I know he is a really mean person, and it's been 3 months since we broke up, so why can't I shake this? Please help... (Yes, I will rate high for serious and helpful answers. Thanks in advance and, sorry for making this so long.) (link)
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Boys. What are they like. Well you've spotted yourself that this guy is a complete moron so there's your first step to getting over him. Unfortunately some guys are going to have this effect on you no matter how bad you know they are for you and you will chase them over and over and allow them to hurt you over and over.
It sounds like this is the first guy to treat you like this so it might take a while for you to get him out of your system and realise that the problem is all his and that nothing you could have done is likely to have change the way he acted. In the mean time, go out with your friends and try to avoid talking about him or this situation- it'll remind you how insignificant this little boy really is in the scheme of your life. Just concentrate on doing things that make you feel good about yourself and give yourself a break.
His actions aren't your responsibility and after a while you'll shake this feeling and find someone who'll treat you properly and maturely. Promise.
Take care
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Yeah he was the first person to ever treat me like that. Thank you so much for the WONDERFUL advice. Thank you...
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