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Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
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I think that the term "true love" is ridiculous. There's just too many types of love to have such an umbrella phrase for. Too often "true love" is used as some elitist term by people who believe their feelings for someone are more pure, deep or important than someone else's.
The fact is, every relationship is different and incredibly difficult to judgaccurately from the outside. Not to mention the fact that in todays world sometimes there are practical reasons that make it impossible to stay together. Which would you say was a better example of "True Love"?: A couple who sort of fall into their lives, get married, have kids, bowl along fairly happily until they die or a couple who realised that although they adored one another, practical things (i.e.:one wants children and the other does not) means they could never make each other happy and so lets the other go even though it hurts them, to give them a chance to be truly happy.
Love can end, move on, and happen more than once without its being any less valid. Seize and live the moment.
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Hmm... good question... Maybe this is rehortical, but I think that the couple who breaks up is identified as true love, but it would've been better if they had come to a compromise. However, the couple DID stay together for the rest of their lives. So shouldn't they have to fall in love with each other at some point in their relationship?
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