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Q: Well Lately people have been spreading rumours about me that I am easy and a slut and stuff. And then one of my really good friends called me easy and a slut and it really hurt meh! And I really hate rumours like this! it hurts meh really badly. And also lately my parents have been yelling at me about stupid phone bills! And my dad pushed my sister about it and it really scared meh! I used to be abused when I was little but my family got help and its ok now but when he pushed her it just brought back all the bad memorys! Also for about two yeaars up until around march I was suicidal but then I got the cops called on meh and they came to my house and it was really scary so I stopped cause I didnt want that to happen again! Also I was anerexic and balimic on and off for about 2 years also. Lately alot of things have been happening that have made me want to result back to cutting but I don`t want to and I find myself going into the bathroom alot staring at blades just thinking about it and wanting to but then I come in my room and stay here. Also Sense the rumours I have been feeling useless and like I`ll never find a guy that will treat meh good and Ive just felt like I wont ever be special to anyone and its been getting me really depressed. Wanting to work out heavely to make myself look prettyer. I dont know what to do! I Want to know ways to look prettyer and maybe get guys to like meh and I need advice on my cutting and all the other stuff I wrote about! please help
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love maddie

first of all, that thesinger guy is a shit head, check that he has been telling other people. but he serves as a perfect example of how fucked up MOST people are.

Those rumours are there no matter who you are,
the sooner you start to ignore them the better.
You should hear the ones about me, if I actually started to take them to heart I'd also be staring at blades.

Most guys (i respect, and decent ones) I know don't like extremly skinny girls, they complain that those girls are too skinny and bony.

You really need to get to know yourself, guys are not the awnser to your happyness, you need to make yourself happy.
A healthy relationship is about two people who are capable of living on their own, but choose to be together.

Shit there are too many thing I want to tell you but I'll be going on for hours, PLEASE read "The road less traveled" by M. Scott Peck, thats the best advice I can give you.