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Q: I know this might not sound like that big of a deal but it is for me!

Well my mom and me have been fighting a lot lately..........almost like every day. But its never my fault like i would say " Mom there's no more laundry detergent." the she would blow up and say " Of course we dont because you have to use so much" and then she would start yelling at me bacause i ask for so much stuff and that she has no money to spend and i hate! I really dont want to hear about her problems then when i say that i don't want to hear it then she starts yelling at me again! please help me and tell me what to do! im going to start school on tuesday, and i dont want this to mess with my head so please help !
Sorry man, there is no easy way.
Sounds like your moms under alot of stress and so are you. You'll need to be a friend to your mom.
Sounds like you guys have money trouble, and on a perant I sure that it might well be the biggest part of her stress, try to distract her from it by telling a joke from time to time.
It sounds like she needs your support, try to see it from her side. You'll need to be mature about this.

I was fourteen when I started waitering cause my perants went bankrupt the year before, I also had fights with my dad and also the same type of scenarios you are descibing, to the extend where I told him "fuck you", and he hit me in the face. I was pretty fucked up and at school nobody understood. I wasn't making it easier on them.
that year I paid for my sisters matric-farewell dress (suppose thats like the graduation dance the americans have). IT SUCKED, but sometimes thats the way life is.

You could try to relieve some of the stress your mom has or you could be part of it. By trying to relieve some of hers, you may well relieve some of your own. In the end family is ALL you really have.

Thanx you really helped its nice to kno im not the only one!

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