|
|
Ok so here is my problem i have a really low self eestem i sould nt cause i hear that i am pretty alought and tons of people like me [cheak our my advice column to see pic] but my self- eestem is still really low i hate the way i look and i am never happy i feel like i can't so anyhting right and everything i do i screw up. please help me.
Reality.
Here are some things you can do to help your self-esteem:
1) Give yourself positive messages, and stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself. Allow yourself to feel pretty, to recognize that you are a good person, to understand that you have a right to feel good about yourself. If you find yourself thinking bad thoughts, like "God, I'm so fat," tell yourself "NO!" Turn the bad thought off.
2) Understand that you are the only person who has control over your feelings, thoughts, and opinions. No one else can "make" you feel happy, sad, or anything else. People can certainly invite you to feel a certain way, but only you can decide how to react to their input.
3) Identify your needs. What do you need to feel good about yourself? Do you need to feel appreciated for your own self, no strings attached? Do you need to feel appreciated for the work you do, for it to be recognized that you've done a good job? Do you need to feel that your time is structured, that you must know what is happening and when? Do you need to feel that your beliefs are respected? Do you need alone time and privacy? Do you need excitement and a sense of thrill? Do you need a cozy, nest-like environment? These are examples of fundamental, psychological needs that people may have. Figure out what your needs are.
3) Once you have identified your basic needs, learn how to satisfy them by yourself. For example, if you need to feel appreciated, you can get this from yourself by telling yourself, "That was a good thing I did." or "I really look good in these pants!" If you need a lot of structure in your life, make lists and do a lot of planning, put yourself on a schedule.
Basically, taking charge of your life, your actions, and your feelings, will help you feel better about yourself.
[view]
(Rating: 5)
thanks i will keep that in mind
| |
