hey! im a 16 yr old female from south east wisconsin. i been thru quite a bit of stuff and i have problems of my own...who doesnt have problems right? well anyways talkin is my thing. i kno that i love to have sum1 to just spill my heart out to whether im really close with them or not. if u have anything u want to ask me about pretty much anything feel free to. im always gonna be here if u need some help on something so juss give me a buzz....~!~xoxo~!~
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I met Mary, 20 years old, about 10 months ago. We hit off and started dating. It’s been about 7 months now. Her family life is a complete mess. Her parents divorced a little over a year ago. Now, her mom hardly returns her calls and her dad quickly got re-married and now lives about 2 1/2 hours north of her. With his new life he rarely makes time for her either.
After dating for about 4 months, she visited her doctor. Her stomach was bothering her. The doctor discovered a cyst. She had tests done and that day she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer – stage one.
She refused to have a hysterectomy and started chemotherapy. After 3 weeks of chemo, its stage 3. The doctor tells her it’s terminal. She tells her dad. He asks her not tell anyone on his side of the family. Meanwhile, he never calls her to ask how she’s doing. As far as her mom goes – she hasn’t told her yet.
Three weeks ago, Mary’s doctor said she needed to stop chemo because her organs were swelling as a result of her diabetes. At this point the cancer had stopped spreading. Last week she blew off her doctor’s appointment because she needed to work to make rent. She was scheduled to restart chemo. Mary works full-time on her feet. She smokes and has a glass of wine now and then. None of which her doctor agrees with. So as a result, the cancer has started to spread again.
Watching her suffer has taken a lot out of me. More than half the week she sleeps at my apartment. And on cue in the evening her pains skyrocket. Lying in bed she twists and shakes until she passes out. All I can do is hold her. She wakes up and the pain goes another round or two until she finally falls asleep.
I don’t agree with how she’s handling her sickness. Missing doctor appointments, smoking, and drinking. Just the other day she was planning to go to the beach with friends. I told her she’s not suppose to go in the sun while on chemo; that’s when I found out she missed her doctors appointment earlier that day.
I want to be there for her, but as a friend. I do all I can so that she feels like a beautiful woman. But I might just have to just walk away. I feel like I need to do something to get her to take this illness more seriously. I’m frustrated.
What do you think?
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i'm very sorry to hear that Mary has cancer. im personally not religious but my aunt who just read this is...and she says that she will pray for the both of you...best wishes....i dont kno what to really tell you...if you love her do not leave her...if you dont love her than you shouldnt be with her im guessing that you do realli love her...talk to her about taking her illness more seriously..tell her that she is scaring you when she misses doctors appointments and dismisses the doctors advice that could eventually save her life....im sorry i dont kno wut else to tell you...best of luck
~nichole~
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Thanks for your thoughts. I do love her but not in a boyfriend sort of way. And I guess that's how I've slowly discovered where I stand in that respect. Talking to her is tough, since she's tired or not feeling well most of the time. I'm a spiritual person. I've been doing yoga for about 9 months now and have tried to get her to meditate with me. Just to focus and be positive. I know this will help her and I don't plan I giving up. I know friends of hers who also do yoga. That's a side-door but if more than one person is suggesting it maybe it will sink in. Thanks again for your help. :)
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