Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance!
Let me see if I can tackle this one. lol. Ok, first of all, I think that your boyfriend does trust you. My boyfriend was in a play once and he had to pretend to be dating this girl onstage. Now, they didnt kiss or anything, but she slapped him on the butt. Now, I know this sounds dumb, but I freaked! So, I would say that if he didnt make an issue out of that, then he probably trust you. As far as your guy friends. If you know that they like you, then they have obviously told you that they like you. I dont think that is appropiate considering you have a boyfriend! It sounds like they need to back off a litle bit. Secondly, if this is your senior prom, WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU GOING WITH ANOTHER GUY FOR??? That has to be the most inconsiderate thing I have heard. You wanna know why your boyfriend has a problem with it? Its not that he dont trust you, he has proven that he does. ITS BECAUSE HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU AT PROM. This is supposed to be a special night. You should spend it with your boyfriend not some guy. I am totally with your boyfriend on that matter. Sorry! Lastly, I dont think that you should be engaged to this guy if you cant treat him right. He has told you that your going to prom with another guy is a problem and you dont care. All you talk about is how to "fix the tension". You need to be more considerate of how he feels about this because I think he is right. YOU NEED TO GO WITH HIM AND NOT SOME OTHER GUY!!!! I know my answer sounds harsh, and I am sorry for that. Dont be offended. Its not meant to be like that. I just think that you needed someone to give it to you straight and to be honest. I struggle with this myself because my boyfriend pretty much has all girl friends, but I trust him and love him. Hope I helped!
Sidenote: In responce to your comment. I DID READ THE QUESTION!!!! I guess it was just the way it was worded. And why did you say that I thought you were an inconsiderate bitch? I didnt say that. But, even if it is another prom, if your boyfriend has a problem with it then it IS inconsiderate to not think of his feelings. I dont know why you took offence to my question. You should have been prepared to take an honest answer if your going to post it. But, I wish you all the best! Good Luck!
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Um, sweetheart, if you read my question better, you would've noticed that I said MY OLD SCHOOL'S PROM. As in, not my school's prom. Our prom is next weekend. I appreciate your answering my question, however, I'll thank you to actually read it before assuming that I'm an incosiderate bitch, because I'm not. I love my guy, I treat him like a king, and I don't even look at other guys anymore.
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