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hi i've been with my boyfriend for quite a few years now, but unfortunately, everyday i start to think to myself that i should leave him. why is because every single time we get into fights, he never is willing to stay and work it out. he either hangs up the phone and ignores my phone calls/messages or says "just drop it" with an attitude. he also calls me names like bitch when he loses his temper, and personally, i've had enough.
but as you can imagine, i have grown emotionally attached to this guy. i fell in love with who he once was, a sweet, considerate, man. but now it's like i don't know who he is anymore and lately it's just the only thing i can think about is how the quality of our relationship is slowly crumbling beneath us.
i personally do want to call it quits, or at least take a break from each other for a little while, but he refuses. he says things like he can't live without me, and if i leave him he'll kill himself. in a sense i feel that i'm forced to stay in this relationship because i don't want to live knowing i made someone commit suicide over me.
it's a really sticky situation, and i don't know what to do anymore. i do love this guy, but i feel as though i'm falling out of love with him for the person he has become.
please help...
I unfortunately understand part of what you are facing. That hardest part of any relationship is letting one end. If he is not willing to meet you halfway, then there is no way for you to heal this. You do need to inform one of his close friends or his family about his suicide threats and cutting, but there is nothing else you can do for him. You need to get out of this relationship before he distroys all the love you have for him. It will happen. I would have died for my husband, but after 4 years of emotional torment anything I'd felt for him had died. That is the saddest part of all. I have not one spark left to give to him even in friendship or anger. Had we parted even a year earlier we may still have been friends. Think about it, and don't let his depression make you think you have to stay.
(Rating: 5) thanks, it's nice that i can have someone to relate to