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Q: Recently, I've become very, very good friends with this girl named...Leslie. We have many friends but a close-knit group of 4 consisting of me, 'Leslie', 'Nicole,' and 'Ashley.' We are all close friends and really nothing can take us apart. In my PE class is a girl named 'Melissa' who I cannot stand for some reason. She just annoys me so much, and now Leslie and Melissa have become pretty close. It aggravates me everytime I'm excluded from their conversations, everytime I'm left out and it's so frustrating to hear Melissa call 'LESSSLIIIIEEE' everywhere I go. Ashley actually feels the same way as I do, but none of my friends know how I feel. I've always been the nice one and the one who's always accepted people...but somehow Melissa just broke me down. My frustration didn't even come from her becoming friends with Leslie...it just grew larger from that. In the beginning of the school year, when I saw her, I knew from the start that for some reason I would not like her. She said something to Leslie and I (while we were working out in class) that implied that Ashley was fat. I was so shocked that I just got up and left them. I don't know what's wrong with me but I just cannot STAND her. She irritates me and just makes me feel insane; and it's not as if she did anything wrong. Sometimes when Ashley and I are late to lunch, she pulls Leslie and Nicole away from us and drags them to lunch without us. During lunch she'll come up and pull Leslie away from us while we're still talking, or sit in between Leslie and whoever is sitting next to her. I know it doesn't seem like much, but the small things have always been what really matter to me.

I really need advice. I know talking it out with my friends would be a good choice but I wouldn't know how to bring it up and how they would respond to me. I've always been nice and trying to be friends with her but somehow it's just not working. Am I doing something wrong? ... This seems really childish but I can't help this feeling. gahhh!

Thanks so much in advance!

No, you are not doing anything wrong. It is not possible for you to be nice, friendly or even like everyone that you go to school with. At least you gave forth the effort of trying to be friends with this girl, even after she insinuated that your best friend was fat. You are right. The best thing for you to do would be to talk to your other friends and let them know how you feel about her. Explain to them that you don't want them to stop being friends with her, because you would never try to choose their friends, but that you would be more comfortable around them if they did not mention her as much. Maybe your friends have already sensed your dislike for Leslie, and that is why they do not include you in the activites they conduct with her. If this girl is really such a bad person, your friends will be able to see through her charade soon.

Rating: 5

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