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Hi guyz, i was just wondering if it was true that if you have some kindof weird shape mole that means you have cancer, cuz thats what my friend told me and she is really afraid cuz she says she has a weird shaped mole.
Is it true?
~Steph~
I'll try to put all the good advice given into a more usable format.
In people, there are three types of moles. There are normal moles, dysplastic nevi, and melanomas.
Normal moles are small, light brown or flesh-colored, and symmetrical; they are smaller than a pencil eraser. Its normal to get new moles into your twenties, but if they come in normally you should be fine. I have one of these on my face, and you can barely tell it's there.
The "intermediate kind" of moles are called Dysplastic Nevi. They are dark and very large, or sometimes asymmetrical. I have several of these, and I plan on getting them checked out next time I visit a doctor; I have a friend who is practically covered with them. Dysplastic nevi are more likely to turn into cancer than normal moles, and most of the time they're quite ugly anyway (although not always; Enrique Iglesias looked really good with his :p). They can be miscolored, and they're usually very large. Many doctors advocate having these removed.
Melanomas are usually large, dark brown, black, blue, or red, and assymetrical--often, a lot like dysplastic nevi. They change shape or size, bleed, hurt, etc. Melanoma is a VERY DEADLY, very FAST form of cancer. If you catch it early, then survival rates are good, but once it metastisizes (I may have spelled that wrong), it's OVER. They removed one of these from my grandfather, but it had already spread and he died a few years later. With dysplastic nevi and melanoma, it's important to act quickly, but there's no need to worry--at your friend's age, it's probably just a dysplastic nevus.
The biggest thing to look out for is change. Some of that intermediate kind of mole are weird, but they stay the same. It's when they begin to change that you're likely to have a melanoma on your hands (or trunk, or face...).
With dysplastic nevi, they have a very high risk of turning into cancer, and should probably eventually be removed, or at the very least checked out by a doctor.
It is my recommendation that you have your friend talk to her GP (or general practitioner; basically her regular doctor) about the mole. He or she can examine it and tell her what to do next better than I could.
If you're wondering how I know so much about this, it's becuase melanomas run in my family; in the last 20 years two members of my family got melanomas, and one of them died. The victims in my family were in their 60s and 40s respectively, but melanoma does occasionally happen in teens and twenty-somethings, so it's important that your friend get that mole checked out the next time she has the chance.
(Rating: 5) Wow!! That was a lot of info, and very very specific, best info i have heard yet!!
thanx so much for ur help!! i will ask my friend about it~
~Steph~