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Q: this is gonna seem like no big deal, but here's the thing: i think i'm ugly. i never really thought of it that much until i got to middle school...i looked at how much weight i need to lose... how ugly my eyebrows are...how my braces make my smile look like crap (actually, they don't let me smile right). the thing is that my friends say "how can you say you're ugly? i think you're pretty! not drop-ead googeous, but sooooooooo NOT ugly!" i know that girls are like that a lot, that we all look in the mirror and don't look at how pretty we are but how we need to fix hte bad stuff, but i need help on that. i don't see myself as the kind of girl a guy would like, or even how my guy friends can stand having a friend like me. i just always wonder what guys think when they see me... any way, my question is how do i see myself prettier? this may not seem like a problem, but i need to feel better to look better, but for that i need to be able to see myself better. i wanna know how my friends can see me as pretty. please don't tell me to focus on my personality because i don' see a personality when i look in a mirror. thanks to everyone just even if you don't answer it but for at least reading this huge thing!!! thanks!

Choose one thing about yourself that you like a lot. It doesn't have to be anything big, your nose, your eyes, a birthmark..anything! And whenever you start to feel ugly, think about that one thing and think of all the people who hate that about themselves! Also, check out this article from spacefem.com. It will help.

http://spacefem.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=21946

Rating: 5

thank you soooo much! i think you helped me out the most. i really needed that. keep up the GREAT work!

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Hiya! I'm dwarp. A crazy 19 year old from Chicago with too much time on her hands.I started this column when I was about 14, I think and I keep coming back. My friends tend to come to me for advice, so I've gotten pretty good at answering most problems. I'm a crazy Greek vegetarian, and yes, I have seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding. It's exactly like my family, so I am really great at answering questions about insane families. I study political science and international studies and I like to learn languages. I speak English, French, German, a bit of Greek, and I'm learning Italian next semester. I've had lots of weirdo love/sex-life experiences, so I'm pretty knowledgeable in that area. Ummm.....ask me anything!
Peace!