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Hey y'all! Im Laura (my middle name is Ashanti) and I live in Texas, in a town about 20 minutes away from Houston! =) I love it so much - Texas is my home! I guess, you can say I've been through a lot. Ive grown up in a strong Christian home & had to adjust my life to that. But, although I am very, very religious, I have definitely done some stupid things in my life. When I was 8, my older sister Kira got pregnant with her long time boyfriend, but she was only 15 going on 16 and she was forced to give the baby up for adoption. I grew up in the shadow of my sister because my parents had no time to deal with me or my problems. I have never been to rich either. I grew up in my sister's hand-me-downs from cheap places we could afford clothes. I've had lots of peer pressure in my life. I have smoked cigarettes and pot, drank alcohol & cheated on a very good boyfriend. My parents never found out about this, but then again, they have a lot of other problems to deal with. Last year, my best friend Juliette died of alcohol poising - a sad way to die. Ive had many boyfriends who have come and gone, but now Im in a relationship (As of last week =) hehe Love you Mike! Enjoying my senior year before college. When I finish college, I really want to be a teacher or go off to live in a great city, Like New York or Chicago. I love to give advice and help people with any problems (except for sex - I never have had sex but I have thought about doing it alot.) So, if you need an answer or guidance or just someone to talk to, leave one in my inbox & I'll get back to you A.S.A.P (usually 2 days tops) ♥ always, Laura

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I just finished crying, letting it all out. All because of my parents. I'm making 14 very soon now, but when I was 12, I broke my virginity with this guy, and my parents told him not to call at all and not to come over. I admit, he was a bad influence, and he didn't care about me. But I learned so much from that. After that happened, I have been through numerous realationships, lasting anywhere from a week to 10 months. I matured very, very fast too. I have learned about all kinds of guys during that time, and I don't trust ANYONE now.I am currently in a serious relationship with a guy in his late 20s. He treats me so good. Never says a bad word to me. He says he's still shocked at how I am so mature for my age and says he's never met anyone as "real" as me before. The thing is, we can't go anywhere together. And I'm tired of letting good guys who're interested have to pass me up because my parents don't know me and think I don't know anything. I'm not saying I know it all, but I have been a street girl, and I know what it's like. i don't want that. I'm ready to settle down with one person. No cheating. And my age is what everyone looks at. Tonight I couldn't even go to a fair because "I'm too young to be out at night with 3 other girls." My parents don't know me. They don't know ANY of the things I have been through. I want to know how I can tell my parents that I feel too sheltered? It's not just that. My parents don't seem to understand that if they get me a cell phone, then they can stay in touch with me no matter where I am. They always try to keep me home. They won't even let me go to a high school dance, and I'm going there now. How can i tell them that age is anything but a number, and it's my maturity that counts? I'm sorry you had to read all that, but my life is getting very miserable, and I don't know what to do. I'm thinking a counselor...but I don't know. Please help and thank you.


Oh, and sorry if you misunderstand the part where I say i can't go anywhere with the guy in his 20s. I know why I can't go anywhere with him, it's illegal, but I can't go ANYWHERE with any boy, no matter what age. Many, many, endless scores of boys have asked me out to skating rinks and bowling alleys and three asked me out to the fair tonight. But I can't go because I'm "13".
Thanks again.

Hey. I am really sorry about everything. By the way you talk, you dont sound like a 13 year old at all. You are extremely mature for your age, which is a good thing but might have been caused by much pain and suffering which Im sorry for. Your parents are definitely over-protective of you. To them, when you lost your virginity at such a young age - that was breaking a huge trust barrier, which is hard to get back from them, although I know it wasnt your fault. There are many pressures I feel and have felt with past boyfriends to have sex. Reassure them of that - tell them thats NOT you, you would not just go out and have sex with some random guy. But, you were possibly in love at the time? Or it just felt right. They have a right to be concerned with you, but let them know that YOU know you made a big mistake & you know you can never get your virginity back, but you really want the trust that goes with it. It hasnt been too long since you lost your virginity and all of that, so you should give it some time. Time heals lots of hard things in life. And, maybe it will heal this. Unfortunatly, your parents can do whatever they want with you (meaning not let you go to the fair, bowling alley, etc.) and theres nothing you can do about it until your 18 and can move out. Start earning your trust back by being very nice, helpful around the house, tell them you love them instead of yelling at them for not letting you go out, if they do let you go out carry a cell phone with you, let them know where you are @ all times and who youre with, try not to hang out around boys so much around them so that they dont get the wrong idea, and maybe you could try counseling. Because a counselor might be able to talk to your parents about this also and let them see YOUR point of view. God Bless ♥ Laura

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