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Hecka random pic from sadies... that my gang signBASICS:
name: Andrew
ht: 6'0
wt: eh 145
build: athletic
age: 16
eyes: blue-ish green
hair: dark brown
my style: laid back and casual dress, i like to look good though
interesting fact: i can do the Rubik's Cube in one minute 20 seconds.
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Ok, I am kindof too shy to ask this to the "pool" because people I know are here... you understand? Thanks in advance.. sorry it's so long..
Ok, I'm 14/f, and I know that's really young, but I have "guy problems". Two guys, one girl, and myself are involved. My best friend "sister", Jacki*, liked my best friend that's a guy, Nate*. Nate also liked Jacki, for a while. I liked this guy, Pete*, for a while, and he liked me. All well and good, eh? Not so. You see, Jacki doesn't like Nate anymore, nor does Nate like Jacki. Pete still likes me, and I suppose I like him a bit still. But, I've always had underlying feelings for Nate, but I'd put them in the back of my mind 'cause it was Jacki's turn to shine. But now, Nate likes me, and so does Pete. Problem is, Nate and Pete are still friends. I don't know what to do, 'cause I know - and love - Nate very well.. and I like Pete. But I sortof see Pete as a "brother". I don't want to do something dumb that would make everyone mad.. and I don't want Jacki's feelings hurt. (we all know that a little piece of your heart stays with every guy until you find the right one..)
Thing is, I really, really know that I love Nate. I've known him since fifth grade, and we're best friends. I know stuff about him that no one else knows, and he knows stuff about me that no one else knows. We have alot in common, and love to hang out. Every night when we're on Instant Messanger, when we have to go, we say "I love you, sleep well, sweet dreams." This means alot to both of us.. Sometimes I think, maybe, he's the one? But I'm still so young, it's hard to tell. Nate's almost two years older than me, Pete's a few months older than me, and Jacki's a few months older than me.
I'm just really confused, if you have any advice what so ever, please lend me some! Thank you so much!
Ok good question and I understand whats goin on. Since both Pete and Nate like you, rather than hurting feelings, I say you should not date either of them. i know you have these feelings for Pete with the "I love you, goodnight" but I think you have to just put it to the side. You and Pete seem like the perfect couple, not for a relationship, but for a friendship. Best friends is always better, than chancing a relationship. Last year, I had this amazing friend named Person*(lol). Person and I had all these classes together and we were the greatest of friends. But secretly, since the day I met her, I had tremendous feelings for her. But I thought to myself "Hey Andrew... these feelings and these great conversations and all this private stuff you knwo each other seems like a perfect foundation for a great friendship." And so it began... I told Person that as much as I liked her, I realized being friends was best. To this day, almost a year and a half later, we are great friends who tell each other everything. It's not that you are too young, or confused, or an age differance. It is your motive. You want a boyfriend figure badly, just as I wanted a girlfriend figure. Relationships will come and go, but friendships will last a lifetime.
(Rating: 5) yeh.. I suppose. Well, I mean, guys aren't that important to me 'cause ... well, things that have happened pretty much turn me off around them, I'm sortof afriad of them. It takes someone special.. thanks