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Q: a lot of people keep coming up to me and asking me if i'm anorexic. i'm starting to thing i am now. people always tell me how skinny i am, but i think i'm fat. and i'm obsessive over what i eat, and i always weigh myself.
it's my stomach i don't like. when i stand up and squeeze my stomach there's like 2 inches of fat! is that normal?! =(.. i feel so fat. i want to try to have NO fat there. does anyone know any good exercises to get rid of that fat?
so i have 3 questions:
-do you think i might be anorexic?
-is all that fat normal? you can compare me to a normalish stomach or whatever, i don't care.
-what are some good exercises to get rid of that fat?
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Hi there,
I'm not sure of your exact circumstances but the fact that others are saying your skinny and that your obsessed about food tells me that you are indeed either on the road to becoming anorexic or are anorexic.
As females we all seem to base our self worth on the size of our stomach. I don't think any of us escapes this to a lesser or greater extent. This creates much unhappiness, for we're constantly unhappy with our self image.
The best advice I can offer you with the information you've provided is first off ... look at yourself in the mirror and say "I'm beautiful." I'm positive that you are. Keep this in mind, about 90 percent of your friends are likely feeling fat or not beautiful in some other way and suffering from the same insecurities as you are. Next imagine all the things that really do matter in life to you, what ever they may be and engage in them, focus on them. If you enjoy reading, writing, going to the beach, the mall allow some time to do these things ... schedule it in as if it's as important as completing your homework assignments.
Next ... don't extract anything from your diet. Eat what you love but in moderation and excercise ... no not the boring going to the gym excercises that everyone drops off once the routine gets boring ... engage in activities you like, perhaps swimming, snowboarding, skiing, surfing, running, basketball, walking, and do it with a group of friends (as that's way more fun!!!!).
Basically enjoy what this life has to offer and try to focus less on your self image and work more on your confidence. The fact that you had courage to ask this question tells me you have what it takes to do this!
Tell me, when you meet someone you really like, I mean connect with, does their physcial appearance remain a part of the influence of why you like them? No, it's probably what they give to the relationship, or that your personalites are a good match.
If your really eager to tone your stomach crunches, lying on your back and rising your legs straight up and to each side and alas yes even pushups help build core and inner muscle strenght .. do as much as you can about three times a week, but please do not make this an obsession ... play your favorite music and try to make it fun, as a part of "your time" ...
All in all, I honestly do not think you have to worry being fat, but I do worry that your obsessed about it so please if I can do anything else to help, don't hesitate to e-mail me ...
aly_boschee@yahoo.com.
I hope you have a terrific week and wish you well and lots of happiness and good fortune!
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You give the best advice ever!
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I grew up in Calgary Canada mostly, recieved a degree in psychology, moved around a lot as a child and recently just made a move to Oceanside California. I've had my ups and downs, some caused externally, some that I caused myself .. and am still in the learning life 101 class I was placed in 23 years ago, but having fun at it at the same time! I truly believe everyone has one fundamental thing in common, we all want happiness ... and as gullible as it may sound I believe everyone needs someone to believe in them or help them believe in themselves ... if you have a question, and your scared to post it publically feel free to e-mail me at aly_boschee@yahoo.com. I'll answer to every each one of you! Hey if you just want a friend to chat with ... feel free! ;) Look forward to hearing from all of you ...
" An unfortunate past is never an excuse to continue negative thinking in the present." - We've all had some sort of struggle in our past, we can not let these events control us ... it's in you to do with what you have!
" The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for." - we all deserve happiness, what is happiness to you? Just remember the golden rule, what you undo to others will be undone to you. To be happy treat others as you want to be treated. In addition, you'll just feel great knowing your making a postive print in this lifetime!
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Oceanside, CA Occupation: Public Relations Age: 23 Yahoo: Member Since: March 10, 2005 Answers: 36 Last Update: December 21, 2005 Visitors: 4586
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