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Hey, I'm 13/F and I just got my period in January. I had it for 6 days. I haven't gotten it since!! It's the end of March now which means I skipped two months?? I know I'm not pregnant (I have no idea how to spell it)
Is something wrong with me???

Hey, don't worry about it.

When you first start having your period, your body has no idea what it's doing. It's sort of like when you first start learning a dance--you know what you're supposed to do, but you don't have the rhythm or finesse needed to do it right, so you just sort of stumble through. Eventually, with time and practice, you get it right. Your body is doing the same thing right now; it has to synchronize a lot of glands and organs to actually have a period.

For the first few years after you start getting your period, it's very normal for you to skip regularly, or have no pattern to your cycle. I wouldn't worry unless you skip more than two or three months. It takes a few years for your body to figure out what it's supposed to do, ans since you shouldn't be having kids anyway at this point, it's not like it's a problem.

Even after you start to even out, it's still normal for your cycle to change... It's even normal to skip periods sometimes. I regularly miss months when I get stressed out, and I've had my period for over seven years now. The only time you need to worry about skipping is when it goes on for more than a few months, when it's accompanied by weird and extreme symptoms, or you've had sex recently.

Of course, there are a few things you can do, both to ensure that you get your period, and to stay healthy otherwise. If you're worried about not getting it, there are two major causes that might be interefering--stress and diet. If you're under a lot of stress, that can cause it to be late, seem weird, or stop altogehter. Also, if you don't have enough body fat--at least 20%--then that can make you stop menstruating. So if you're on the skinny side, you might want to try to gain a little weight; however, I doubt that's the case.

I could give you some advice here about what to do about sex and your monthly cycle from now on, but you'd probably find that patronizing. However, I will drop a few pearls of wisdom.

I recommend waiting, at the very least, until your cycles even out and stay that wat for a few years before having sex, so there's less chance of a surprise, and so that you'll be more emotionally ready for it. Don't jump into anything, and use protection when you do.

Also, you really should try to keep track of your cycle, whether you're sexually active or not. Just put a little dot on your calender on period days or something, if you don't like keeping track. Also, www.mymonthlycycles.com has a good period tracker, that lets you keep track of your period dates, spotting, and PMS symptoms, and you can find printable calendars and things all over the internet. This way, if something does go wrong, you can trace it.

Lastly, you might want to talk to your mom about seeing a gynecologist. Everything sounds normal, but wouldn't you like someone with a degree in this stuff to tell you that? Plus, an exam after you first get your period can act as a good baseline for later visits when you're an adult, and the doctor can teach you all about self breast exams.

If you need any more advice, feel free to contact me, either at my column, my LJ, or over AIM. I'm sure most of the other girls who replied would be glad to help out, too. Almost all women have been where you've been and most have worried about the same thing, but at this point, there's really no cause for concern.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you sooo much!! That was a huge help!
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