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Q: I'm 16, i get told i'm pretty, 5'3, 120lbs, brown hair and eyes, sophmore, friendly, funny, and i love just about everyone... ok well thats the 411 on me but theres a huge problem with it: I'm sick of being single! Ive been single for waaaayyyy too long now. I want a real relationship that lasts! I used to like this one guy who just got out of a really long relationship, so that obviously didnt work out so well... then i started liking this other guy who goes to another school (i still kinda like him now too but things are confusing) and i THINK he likes me too. He's let me drive his car w/o my permit, he's taken me to this romantic park that i really wanted to go to so i metioned it to him and he surprized me, he didnt smoke for a week because i dont like it, he's spontaneously stopped by my house to pick me up, he takes pics of me on his camera and he left a message on my phone last week saying that he was looking through them and seeing me made him happy so he thought he'd call me... basically hes done adorable things like that! but the problem his he has a gf that he got after i started having a thing for him... i heard about it before he talked to me about it and he said "do you think i was sober when i asked her out?? no.." and "youre better than her, thats why i'm more worried about you being mad right now than even being with her" but yet like 3 weeks later he's STILL going out with her. I have a feeling he likes me, but since i'm not a skank i wont do all the things that his "gf" will do with him (i wont do them especially because he has the gf now). I think that he's falling for me and my personality but he's still with her because he wants some.. but i dont want that at all! I want a boyfriend who will love me for me.. i dont want to get played!!! what should I do?? PLEASE

This guy is a player. Point blank. He doesn't want to be with just you because you won't have sex with him. It seems as if he likes you for the conversation, and he loves being around you because of your personality, but he won't make a commitment to you because of your values. (As in, not sleeping with him.) I don't understand how you can like a guy, knowing that he is sleeping with someone else while flirting with you. If he had any respect for you, and liked you half as much as you like him, then he would have already of broken up with his girlfriend to be with you. Since he has not done that, or made any attempts to do that, then he has no intentions of being with anyone besides her for now. If he can go out with a girl while he is drunk, then sobers up and still doesn't break up with her, then what kind of person is he? Focus your attention on a guy that is more worthy. He is not worth your time.

Rating: 5

wow.... thats exactly what i needed to hear... thank you so much

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