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Hi I'm 19/f and my boyfriend is 20/m. We've been going out for 2.5 years now and like every couple, we have our share of arguments.
The problem with my boyfriend is that he's beginning to develop a short fuse. The reason I say develop is because his anger has never been this bad, not until recently. Fortunately, he doesn't get violent, but he does say a lot of mean and hurtful things that he admits that he regrets later.
When I talk to him about it, he sincerely apologizes, and tells me that when he gets angry now, it's hard to control his anger. It's really bothering me that he's like this because it seems like he gets irritable more often over the silliest of things and his hurtful words are taking its toll on me and our relationship.
We've decided long ago to keep our disagreements and conflicts civil to the best of our ability, and it was working for the most part, but now I'm the only one putting in any real effort.
I know he doesn't mean it, and my question is if there is anything I can really do to help him? I'm usually good at giving myself advice on how to handle situations like these, but I feel I've tried everything. I've confronted him about it, when we fight I hardly raise my voice and I tell him to calm down, I've proposed taking breaks, just anything you can really imagine. Some say that I should threaten to leave him or something along those lines, but trust me, it only makes him more angry.
It's like male PMS or something, he gets more irritable than me sometimes!
And no, it's not because he's sexually frustrated. How I know it's not a problem is because we are very honest and open about sex and everything for that matter; our communication and sex life are great.
So really I need advice on if there is anything I can do (that I haven't tried) and if anyone knows where this sudden bad temperment could have come from? Thanks so much! (link)
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Hes stressed about SOMETHING. I know you say he isn't. But it's the root of most problems. If he's not stressed,then it could be his brain blew some kind of anger fuse lately and he may need anger management(make time,he could be angry enough to belt you one day). It could be about sports. Guys do get out of control when shit like March Madness is on.
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Yea, I've considered stress myself, but it doesn't fit into the puzzle. Our fights happen usually when he's all fine and happy but I unintentionally push one of his buttons to trigger the anger. Like I stated, it's over the silliest of things and it resembles PMS unfortunately. Like us women we get moody for no damn reason and he goes through the same. Like I may call for him on the phone in case his phone went dead like "Hunni, hunni, are you there?" and he just rudely says "HOLD ON!!! SHEESH I'M TRYING TO DO SOMETHING!" It's just spontaneous like that you know? Then it escalates for really no particular reason. He wouldn't abuse me, he's not like that at all. I'm not being ignorant or naive, I know how a lot of guys are, but my boyfriend isn't like that. He's had many opportunities and has never taken them. He respects me to the very point if someone casually (today's slang is awful) refers to me as "Hey, how come you're bitch isn't coming with us?" where bitch means girlfriend, although it's just casual talk, he gets defensive to his buddy and really sets him straight. He himself never calls me a bitch, only rarely when he's reached his limit (he's only called me it 3 times throughout the 2.5 years we've been together, and I don't blame him because it was a probable thing to do because of something I was indeed guilty of). You may say name-calling isn't acceptable in any situation, but it's human nature to do sometimes when you get so angry that your brain is too fried to express yourself in a better way. Almost everyone is guilty of saying things they don't mean. But thanks for the advice.
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