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Q: I recently found out that my boyfriend drinks. Every fiber of my bones is completely and utterly against drinking and alcohol. I hate it like you would not believe. My dad was an alcoholic and my best friend died from drinking and driving a few years ago.

I love him. I really do. I care about him and beg him not to drink. But he tells me he knows his limits. He says he doesnt get drunk just "tipsy". The other night he went out with a few of his friends and they played drinking games. He didnt tell me about it but his friend did.

I feel lied to. I feel betrayed. I know it's his life and he can do as he pleases. I dont want him to think Im trying to control him. But I dont want him to die either.

Help me. Should I leave? Should I stay? How can I look past his drinking habits?

If it really bothers you that much, give him an ultimatum.

Tell him if he continues drinking, even to the point of getting "tipsy" it's over.

You might want to allow him to drink occaisionally not to the point of getting tipsy, but like... ONE drink. Not in your presence of course. If even that bothers you, that's ok. Set your limits.

When you set the ultimatum... STICK TO IT, or he'll walk allll over you.

You also need to talk to him about his deception and broken promises. Maybe he only had a drink or so at the party?

If he refuses to change his habits for you, at least partially, or he continues lying, you've got to have some self respect and leave.

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