5'7 and 105 ... yes, you are definately below the healthy wieght for that height! I don't know exactly your situation, whether you were intentionally trying to lose weight, whether you are scared of gaining some weight back or whether it is a biological phenomenon. I'll give you an idea of what's "normal" for weight. I'm five foot four and wiegh 115 pounds and am considered on the bringe of being on the lower side of healthy ... the fact that you have not had your period for seven months is a definate sign of severe anorexia, and I truly advise that you see the nutritionist your mom wants to take you to and perhaps maybe talk to some one about fears of gaining weight back.

Anorexia is a disease in which you love and obsess about food, but are scared of the consequences of enjoying it. This is a dilemma and I understand you might be frustrated ... it's easy to say eat the right foods and excerise but I know it's a little more difficult than that. You first have to want to help yourself ... realize the lack of nutrients may be distorting some perceptions you have about weight. Lack of nutrients also makes it hard to focus on life, work and being happy. I have a question to ask you ... when are you most happy? Celebrities, whom people look to for fashion, lifestyle, and other choices (twins from Full House) ... they are not happy. You can not truly be happy if your obsessing about weight, or looks, or whatever it is your trying to achieve by cutting back on food. I bet your happiest when these sort of thoughts are not paramount and your laughing and giggling with friends or some fantastic comedy on television, or perhaps when your lost in reverie while watching the waves at the ocean. The point is, there is way much more to life than conforming your body to some standard that is not only physically unhealthy, but effects your well being as well. Find people who love you for you ... I think that's important. You'll feel more comfortable. I'm not sure the extent of your weight loss, but I also advise you to talk to some adult you trust, a counsellor, parent, friend ... whomever you most trust and really lay out your feelings... just pour it out. I gaurantee you this release, although hard (especially if you have a hard time asking for help, and I can vouch for you on this, sometimes I do ...) but you have to realize everyone on this planet relies on someone else at one point in their life to help them and in return I'm sure you'll help someone else out ... This is rather a random answer ... it's because I really do want you to see that your value is much more than your physical body!!!!! 10 million people can tell you the same thing, but when it comes down to it, it really has to come from within. So I really hope you see this within yourself

As to whether or not you have jeapordized your body ... you still have a chance! However if you continue to deprive your body of needed nutrients, I can no longer gaurantee that ... If your truly worried I hope you really hope you cherish youself eneough to get the help you need .. trust me, I understand how hard that is ...but it's for you, and your number 1!!!!

I truly would like to know how things go, if you don't mind posting an e-mail ... aly_boschee@yahoo.com .. the greatest of luck .. have a great day, enjoy the sun, rain whathaveyou .. and please if you need someone to talk to ... don't hesitate to e-mail ..

Alyssa

Thank you, that helped a lot! And thanks for the support. I'll try to remember to e-mail as things progress.

I grew up in Calgary Canada mostly, recieved a degree in psychology, moved around a lot as a child and recently just made a move to Oceanside California. I've had my ups and downs, some caused externally, some that I caused myself .. and am still in the learning life 101 class I was placed in 23 years ago, but having fun at it at the same time! I truly believe everyone has one fundamental thing in common, we all want happiness ... and as gullible as it may sound I believe everyone needs someone to believe in them or help them believe in themselves ... if you have a question, and your scared to post it publically feel free to e-mail me at aly_boschee@yahoo.com. I'll answer to every each one of you! Hey if you just want a friend to chat with ... feel free! ;) Look forward to hearing from all of you ...

" An unfortunate past is never an excuse to continue negative thinking in the present." - We've all had some sort of struggle in our past, we can not let these events control us ... it's in you to do with what you have!

" The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for." - we all deserve happiness, what is happiness to you? Just remember the golden rule, what you undo to others will be undone to you. To be happy treat others as you want to be treated. In addition, you'll just feel great knowing your making a postive print in this lifetime!

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