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Dear Advicenators,
One and a half years ago my brother *Henry* was diagnosed with hemophilia, which means that his blood does not clot normally. If he gets a cut, it's really hard to stop the bleeding. If he loses too much blood, he could die if the blood is not replenished.
Henry and I always liked to spend time together (he's two years older than me). We'd ride bikes to the park and shoot basketball hoops. He couldn't be too active, but he was my best friend and I felt safe around him.
Anyway, he lost a lot of blood one day, and was taken to the doctor for another blood injection. The horrible part was, that the person who had donated that blood was carrying the AIDS virus. The doctor proclaimed that Henry now had AIDS.
Henry is 15 years old, is in diapers, and must be fed through an IV or a tube. He has about 4 months left to live. My entire family is sad, and angry about it. My parents must monitor him all the time, so I always have to get a ride to my volleyball games. All three of us never have extra time, because we are always there for Henry and when he must be hospitalized. I had to drop out of volleyball for him.
Henry has been the butt of the jokes from the kids at school lately. They make fun of the fact that he has been in diapers. They are unaware of the fact that his brain is slowly being devoured, and he can't feed himself. The AIDS is tearing the whole family apart. But luckily, my friends are there to console me, but I always feel resentment towards the cruel kids at school. Can I please have some suggestions on what to do about that?
Anyway, as I am spending my last Christmas with my brother, I have no idea what present to give to him. Could I please have some ideas? I want it to be special and something he'll remember when he goes to Heaven.
Also, how can I comfort / cheer up my parents? They have been having lots of mood swings lately and have been very stressed.
Any input and prayer would be great. Sorry about the length.
First off, BUG HUG AND LOVE to you and all your family. #2. Ignore the assholes who are too immature and frightened of the pain you are going through to show any understanding. It is a sad fact of human nature that we try to make things that frighten or confuse us become the butt of jokes instead of facing our fear and trying to understand the horror around us. Like your parent's mood swings, this is a means of self protection. I know it hurts you to hear what these idiots are saying, but there is really nothing you can do that will not get you in trouble. #3 The gift.... My heart is bleeding for you in this. You don't want to remind him of what he can't do, but you need something that shows him how much he means to you and always will. The only thing I can think of is a photograph. Maybe to two of you on the bikes or playing ball? Tell him this is how you see him when you look at him, not the sick boy you're having to say gooddbye to, but your bestfriend - your big brother.
#4 This is the most difficult time in a parent's life. Their children are not supposed to go first. Having you near, accepting their bad moods and their sorrow is the best you can do right now. Grief is a long hard process that burns through every emotion, love, anger, denial, hatred, self-pity, blaming others, anger at the passing loved one, the world, the doctor the situation that caused the injury, themselves for the genes that placed him in danger from a bad transfusion, themselves and you for living when he cannot. It can take years to go through before a person can reach acceptance and a bit of peace. Only time and lots of couceling will put your parents on a road to recovery. RIght now, just tell them you love them and be there if you can. You need to allow yourself time to grieve also. Don't forget that!
You and your family are in my prayers and I will have you placed on the list for my work and church as well.
Again, BIGG HUGG!!! AND ALL THE LOVE I CAN OFFER!!
(Rating: 5) thank you. you are so kind