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Okay I am crying as I write this but I am a Advicenator and I need advice...
My Ex Boyfriend Sam and I went out for 9 months and the relationship went fine and the break up was mutual but lately all we seem to do is fight and the fights are usuaally his doing...weather he talks about his new intrest (I know she is not his girlfriend because I have friends that know more than Sam does) or talk about things that he KNOWS that will upset me and provoke me to hang up on him or cry. Please help me to get to have a better friendship with him and I still like him like I did when we went out.
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If Sam is around your same age, he has a lot of growing up to do. I'm only 19, but I can tell from your description of him that he's WAY too immature for his age. He's acting like a 15 year old boy, which is so not fair to you. I know how hard it can be to try and be friends with an ex, and from my experiences it usually doens't work out, but it is possible. I think Sam is feeling hurt probably the same amount that you are, just from breaking up-as it's hard to do. But guys often have a really hard time expressing that. So he's probably taking his anger out on you, and maybe he thinks that if he gets you mad enough, you'll start to hate him, and that'll make it easier for him to get over you. But I could be completly wrong, because I don't know him-but that's what I would guess. As for getting a better friendship with him, I would give him a little space for some time-maybe like a week or so, and only talk to him occasionally-like if he calls you, only talk for 5 minutes-tell him you're late for an appointment or something. Keep it short and sweet. If things get better with him, then maybe that's all he needed-time to cool down. If not, then you need to talk to him. Tell him what's bothering you, and figure out why he's acting the way he is. Hopefully that'll work things out, but if not, then I'm running low on ideas. Let me know how things go, and maybe I will have thought of something else. good luck!!!
(Rating: 5) Thank you...You have really helped alot.