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Hey guys my name's Erin, and I love helping people. I know how hard life can be at times, and sometimes you just need some adivse. That's what I'm here for. Whatever the question is, I'll be more than happy to answer it!
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okay... I'm a fourteen year-old female in my freshman year of high school. I'm also an advicenator, but I suck at giving good rational advice to myself. Now here's the problem: I have trouble talking on the phone, even with friends, but especially with guys I like. I have lots of self confidence and I'm really talkative online and in person... but the phone? I will admit that since I've moved I've become more shy, but I've always had this phone issue. I know that often in conversations I use things around me and improvise... so it's harder on the phone. What should I talk about? Why am I *nervous*? Any advice at all would be much appreciated because I have no clue how to not to be like this and I know this guy is going to call my sometime... I'll rate or comment if you want... thanks!
wow you sound just like me 2 years ago when i was a sophmore in highschool! i had a HUGE phone phobia, except with my two best girlfriends. other than that, i couldn't speak on the phone for the life of me. when my boyfriend and i started dating, we would talk on the phone occassionally, and it would always only be about 5 minutes long, and mostly silence. i hated it, and wanted to get better at it. so what i did was i made a bet with my best friend. i said that if i talked, like actually talked on the phone to my bf for 15 minutes, she would do something embarassing at school the next day. and it worked! i got up the nerve to call him, and was able to talk for 15 minutes. what i did was just pretended that i was talking face to face with the person. talk about your day, ask him how his was, talk about random stuff that happened. if you don't know him well, talk about movies, books, music, school, stuff like that. once the conversation gets started, it should be easy! just don't worry about it, and say whatever comes to mind. good luck, and i hope this helped!
(Rating: 5) thanks a lot... awesome ideas... I got this comment after he called, lol so I ended up talking about what i talk about to people i really know well *cough* sex *cough* is that bad? lol... but thanks for your advice! :)