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Hey guys my name's Erin, and I love helping people. I know how hard life can be at times, and sometimes you just need some adivse. That's what I'm here for. Whatever the question is, I'll be more than happy to answer it!
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I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and we really love eachother. We've talked about the whole sex thing and agreed that we'd wait until we were together for a longer period of time. My boyfriend said that he's ready whenever I'm ready but he doesn't want to pressure me into anything that I don't want to do. The thing is, I really AM ready. I know that he is the one that I want to lose my virginity to him and he wants to lose his virginity to me. Every time I see him, I get tempted to do more and more with him but I have to stop myself. It's not that I'm scared it's just that I feel that we haven't been together long enough to be doing anything like that. I trust him and I know he won't hurt me. I don't want to become tempted and do that. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can avoid myself from being tempted? I can't have sex with him, it's not the right time for us yet. Thanks so much if you can help! If anyone is in or has been in my situation, tell me how you handled it or how you are handling it.
i haven't been in exactly you're situation, but it's been similar. my boyfriend and i were going out for about 6 months when we both realized that we loved each other, and it was around that time that he told me he wanted to have sex to me. at that point, i knew i wasn't ready, and he told me that he would wait until i was. it turned out that we ended up waiting a whole nother year before we had sex, but that's because we broke up for a little while, and things were a little shaky. but in the end we were in love and we both knew that we were the ones we wanted to lose our virginity to. i told him that, and we decided to wait until prom (i know how cleche), and i had no regrets. in your case, if you truely love and and he truely loves you, and you believe that you're ready, then i don't see why you should wait. but it seems that you're a little ambivilent about it, saying it's not the right time for you two. if you both are ready, then there's no better time. think about it, and make sure you really are ready, and then tell him, and maybe you guys decide to wait a couple weeks or months, or maybe you decide to do it then and there. i hope this helped, and remember, be safe! let me know what happens!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. Great advice.