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My advice motto is LISTEN-CARE-RESPOND! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for!
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me and my bf have this problem see he has watched porn on tv when he knows i dont like him doing that and it hurt me because it feels like im not good enough for him and a long time ago i gave an old bf a hand job i didnt want to but he kinda made he i didnt do it but for like a min at the most and when me and my bf now fool around he told me he cant help but think of what i did with my old bf i told him to forget about it just like how i forgot about what he watched he said he cant then asked me to help him to forget it what should i tell him to do to forget it. i keep telling him to just think that it never happened but im not sure if its working what else can i say to help him forget it ever happened.
Well I can't say that I have any specific advice on how to get him to forget about your experience with another boy, except to tell him that for the rest of his life he's going to be involved with people who have pasts and that dwelling on that is not healthy or productive for his relationship with you or any of his future relationships.
However, more importantly, I want to make sure that he is not using your past sexual experience as a means to pressure you into going farther with him than you are ready to. It wasn't clear from your question, but it sounds like he might be hinting that in order for him to forget about what you did with the other boy that you need to do something more with him. If this is the case, please don't fall for it. I urge you to see this for what it is - a conniving and manipulative act that doesn't deserve rewarding. If you feel that this is not his intention, then I apologize for jumping to that conclusion, but it just sounds a little shady to me.
You should not dwell on the past and should not waste time on guilt or regrets about things that happened in your past. Every experience you have had (good or bad) creates the person you are in the present. You can't change the past, you can only learn from your mistakes, be proud of your accomplishments and live today as the best person you know how to be. If your boyfriend cannot understand that, then he truly is the one with the problem - not you. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
(Rating: 5) thank you soo much for your advice!!
Ashley*