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OK I'm a 15/f and I'm white.. and my boyfriend's black. It makes no diffrence to me .. I dont care at all but I think my dad does. Eventually he's going to meet my Dad and I'm so afraid of what my Dad's going to say. He doesn't know about my boyfriend yet. My dad's a little bit intimidating and I dont want him to scare my boyfriend or anything because I really like him a lot. I think we're going to last a long time, but I'm so scared of what my Dad's going to do or say. What should I do to make this easier ?
omg i totally understand how you feel. my current boyfriend is half&half, and i'm white. my mom doesn't belive in dating outside your race even half & half.
what i did was:
talked to my mom. i told her that i was becoming really close with this boy from my school & i heard he was considering asking me out. i then told her he was half black. she, expectidly, flipped out, told me she didnt wana hear another word, and i was not going out w him.
so0o..i then talked to the boy. i told him everything. *which if you do this, be careful, remember he is the one your father doesnt want u to date. just explain to him that he doesnt belive in dating outside your race.*
then i went back to my mom. i asked if she would please listen and hear my side. i explained that he is a good kid, makes good grades, has a job, etc.i then askd her if she would meet him, get to know him, and then reconsider. she agreed to it.
i brought my friend around ALOT! =) my mother got to know him, and really got to see why i liked him so much...she also learned to look past the color of someones skin, and judge them by whats on the inside.
it is now a month later, and my *boyfriend* and i are happily together and have been for 4 weeks =) my mother likes him alot and doesn't mind that he is half & half.
so0o my advice to you, is maybe try what i did * remembering that it may be harder, considering the fact that your boy is black, not half and half, and remember it will take time and probablly be alittle harder b/c u 2 already go out.*
whatever you do! talk to your dad. do not just bring your boyfrind over n b like surprise! that'll def. b bad & uncomfortable for your boyfrind. and make sure u talk 2 ur man first!! so he knows what to expect & doesnt take anything that happens too personal.
kk..well if u wana talk, drop one in my inbox,i've been there, i kno how u feel =)
xo`lexi
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(Rating: 5) Thanx so much! I dont think my dad's going to change his mind but he'll at least be nice around him if i do that.. thanks sooo much!