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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..
1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.

Got some love life issues? Need a quick self-esteem boost? Confused in a relationship? .... Just ask Venzuela!

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I'm sure you're sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course i don't stay completely silent the entire time, but i feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do?

Don't be too harsh on yourself. Just figure out what you like talking about, something general, not like about your hair or something, that would be too specific. Ask him if he has any pets, and if he likes animals.... Strange topic, but at least there is a conversation! The fact that you're comfortable enough to talk about silly things like animals OR cheese! It doesn't matter. So just talk about anything that pops to mind. I know quite a few girls that start a really nice relationship with a guy they like, but starting off as friends, some of them are comfortable enough to talk about sex and positions, whereas some are comfortable just talking about sports, whatever interests you, talk about it! He will get to know you better, plus that s who you are, and comfidence is what is really admired! Be comfortable of who you are.

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(Rating: 5) I really appreciate you giving me the confidence to get myself talking to him. I followed your advice and it worked just wonderfully we are going out now thanks to you! I hope you never leave this site so I always know where to go with my problems. :-)
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