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ok my two best friends (we r all 13)used to be best friends b4 i moved here and then they got in a fight and didnt talk for 2 months. but now they r friends again...and my best friend thats a guy would do anything for her and im afraid they r gonna become best friends again and he will forget bout me! but im not sure that hes like that...i told him and he said it would neva happen but how does he know??? this is a gurl he said he'd do ANYTHING for...so im confused and worried. yea i know it sounds kinda selfish but i dont wanna lose him as a friend...or her! should i worry bout it or trust him and believe it wont happen?
You can't trust anyone to say that something will never happen or always. You are right no one knows for sure. I'd trust him in his intentions though. Just make sure you keep talking to him because that's the key to any kind of relationship.
i rele rele miss my bf. well i rele cant miss him bc i never met him b4. weve been dating 5 months and ive been fine w/ him living in a diffrent state but now anything will remind me of him and ill start missing him alot. how can i stop this? thanks for the help
If you really want it to stop you have to keep your mind busy doing other things so it doesn't come to think of him. It's hard to do but if you can do it, I know it'd help you not miss him as much.
hi.i was lookin around at random columns and came across yours. just wondering...who is courtney and why are all these people talking and asking about her? lol sorry to be nosey but it is kind of weird.
- John
Well she's someone that I just to go out with, and yeah.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 days now, and before that we were really close. Well, he's living with me now, and he's taking up the majority of my time. My parents are not okay with him staying here, and I'm grounded for them catching my boyfriend here a few times. So, I don't have much time for my friends, the only time I really have, is with my boyfriend, but that's only because he lives with me. I've tried talking to my friends, but it doesn't get anywhere. What should I do? Please help, I'll rate.
I can understand about being with your boyfriend, espeically being that close. I say try to invite your friends over or plan for a girls night out. Talk to your parents about it too, explain to them if you out with your friends, you won't be around your boyfriend. I can't say it will work for sure but worth a shot.
How can you tell when someone doesn't love you anymore? He gives me affection only when I ask for it, but he doesn't give it himself anymore. He gets mad at me a lot. We've been together for almost a decade. I'm still in love, but how can I know for sure if he loves me anymore? He says he does but I don't think he's telling me the truth. He makes me feel like I'm just in his way. I know it's probably time to move on, but I want this to work because we have a child together. Thanks for help in advance.
Have you tried talking to him about how he makes you feel? I don't know if that is possible but it'd be a good idea. Does he get mad at you for just some little things? That can be hard. I can understand wanting to work it out for the child, but to be honest, if he's making you feel that way and you don't say anything you are not going to be happy. That I think your child would pick up on. I strongly suggest to try to sit down and have a serious talk with him about things between you, might be that he's stressing about something else.
ok so there is this guy in the 12th grade im in the 10th
Everyone thinks i like him and i didnt until people kept saying it over and over again and i guess i started to believe it so know i think i like him but im not sure if i really do
well im not sure if he likes me... like he will do little stuff like always take my order at the snack shack or he will always look me in the eye and just stares at me
today he tried to talk to me he asked me if i had a ride home and im was just like yeah...
cause i dont flirt well i dont even think i know how to like i get all nervous and i turn red...
im fine if i talk to him in a group but not on my own..
anywho its christmas break so ill see him again on jan 3rd then hes coming on the school trip to yosemite and i sorta want to get this cleared so i dont act all weird around him and vice versa.
if it helps ive never had a boyfriend cause i never really needed one
From his point of view, I would say he's at least intersted. If he's going out of his way to talk and then offer you a ride. But as for how you feel toward him, that you can only know for sure. Do you get all nervous when you are talking alone with any guy or just this one? If it's just with this one, I'd say then you feel something for him.
Ok me and my boyfriend have been having some trouble lately and we haven't been talking that much. Well the other day this boy pranked my friend and he got her number off our friend and they called me on 3 way and I started talkin to this boy. I talk to him like every day now and I am falling for him! He's so great. But i dont even know what he looks like but i don't think it would matter to me because he's just the greatest person in the world to talk to. But theres just one thing I HAVE A BOY FRIEND. I don't know what to do I like both of them so much! What should I do??
HELP
Whenever you are in a realationship that starts to have problems of course you're going to open up to other guys. The first thing to consider is, how long have you been with your boyfriend? Have you and your boyfriend had problems before or is this the first time? I think if you sit down and really think about those two things it might clar something up. Honestly though if you continue talking to this new boy and you decide it's not going to work out with your current boyfriend, I'd say you really have to get comfortable and get to know this boy. Take your time with that though because as you said, you don't really know him as it is.
There is this boy..I can't even explain my feelings towards him. When i am with him, i get those cute little puppy love butterflies, but after a few weeks my feelings change for him. It feels like i dont like him anymore..then bout a week later i like him again. I cant handle it when he tells me he has a new gf. My jealous rage kicks in. Then i do anything in my power to break them up..inlcuding saying i will go back out with him. when he asks me back out, that weird undecided feeling comes back and i say no. He is soo perfect. he loves me for me and he tells me everyday, no matter if we are goin out or not, baby you are beautiful. He gives me the greatest and the worst feelings...am I just toying with him or do I truly want to be with him?!
signed,
Confused
Honestly it does seem like you are just toying with him. You need to sit down and really figure out if he's what you really want or just like the thought of being able to influence his decisions. If you keep doing this, you might even lose him as a friend.
My best friend and I dont ever hang out anymore. Her and I got in this really big fight back in November and we didnt speak to eachother for a few weeks. We both kind of brought our parents into our fight so now my mom doesnt like her and she never lets me go over to her house. Its like her and I are only friends in school and not outside of school. And sometimes in school she'll be with her other best friend who is a guy(my ex) and when she is with him, its like I dont exist to her. What do I do? It just seems like her and I have completly drifted apart. What can I do to make our friendship stornger.I havent really hung out with her or had a decent converstion with her in well over 3 months. When we talk on the phone she is always on her computer and I am wathing TV or listening to music and we dont even talk on the phone, we just sit there and it bothers the fuck out of me. We honestly can be on the phone for like 2 hrs and we will only have said maybe 5 mins of a conversation. PLease help me!
Well in that case, I don't think that trying to fix this by talking on the phone is going to help you. I think you two need to find some time alone somewhere to figure it out. I mean face to face that way you know you are really listening to each other and not just being polite. Then at that time discuss that problem you two had and hopefully you guys will be able to look past it and be friends again.
Ok, here's what's going on... My boyfriend, we'll call him bob, has been living with me secretly for about 2 weeks now. My dad, just found out that he was here yesterday morning, and my dad was very mad. Then last night, my dad found out about it and made him leave, bob left and came back, and now my stepmom just saw him leave. So I'm really really really grounded right now. I don't know what to do or tell my parents, I can't kick Bob out because he has nowhere to go, literally. He has a pretty bad story though. Should I tell my parents his story and risk being able to be with him? Or should I lie to my parents more?
I really don't think lies would help your cause here. You are already on shaky ground with your parents as it is. I would suggest to just come clean with the story, I mean that's better than letting them just come up with their own reasons as to why he's there. Who knows, maybe they'll see it differently after they know the whole story.
This isn't a message board you guys. It's an advice site. I don't think he apprecaites all this down talking of his friend and all this doubt you're putting in the air. Why don't you all make a message board or something if you really feel you need to tear every inch of their lives apart and scrutinize it. Or you could always try getting a life of your own.
*~Anette~*
Good point Anette.
I don't kno who J.S. is but I think she's jealous and she's trying to get with you probably to make Courtney mad because she knows how easily Courtney gets jealous. She doesn't know what she is talking about. Ignore her.
Sarah
Thanks for the suggestion Sarah but it would be rude to just ignore anyone. Obviuosly she's expressing her views on things. No one should be told that they can't do that. I would hope that J.S. isn't trying this just to get Courtney mad, that would just be not right.
Aww you guys need to leave her alone! She isnt a bitch shes one of the sweetest girls I ever met! thats probably why Juan likes her and i bet you're just jealous of her because you can never be like her and have all the friends she does and all the fun she has. I know her in person and you probably don't. stop hating on her if you dont even know her and leave Juan alone too! dont you agree?
Anna
Thanks for the support Anna. I just thought it might be kind of good to have some of them questions thoughts that were directed at me on her column in one place for me to read and answer. Glad to see some of Courtney's friends around here though.
yeah well she's a bitch isnt she? to me she seems like it.
*j.s.*
Everyone has their moments where they don't "look" so good. I've had my share too. It's the ability to be able to still talk after someone is like that that helps a trust/friendship/relationship grow.
how can you still talk to her after she broke up with you? if i were you i'd be pissed. but i'm not you. but itz still strange
*j.s.*
No one will ever really understand me, that's just part of who I am. Can't see the point of just not talking to someone, especially when you were and can be good friends. I've been down that road before and nothing good comes of it.
Hey, you and courtney have ben apart 4 a long time already. are you looking for someone else or are you waiting to get back together. everyone thinks you two should get back together already. are you guys having problems or sumthin. do you not trust her cause of how she parties and stuff i herd thats what it is.
sarah
No I'm not looking for someone else. About us getting back together, I guess we'll have to see. I don't think we are having problems. I trust her and her decisions. I guess you heard wrong.
how do you put on a condom? can you get aids from a black man because i heard they have aids?
does it hurt when you have sex the 1st time? i herd that you bleed a lot do you? can i have sex with you to feel how it is the 2nd time?
love ikki
Hey ikki, You unroll it to leave a little room at the tip. Hold the tip with a couple fingers and unroll the rest on the penis to the bottom of it. Yes you can get aids from any man actually. It didn't for me but that might be because I'm a guy. As for the bleeding...can't really be sure of that either sorry. Sure you can.
She doesn't like me :( Now what do I do? I think it's because she still likes you. I hope you are happy with that. I would die for her to like me the way she likes you. Don't take it for granted. You're really lucky.
Jack
What to do now? I really don't know at this point. I try to take nothing for granted, especially people.
I was just asking if it was okay with you if I was to maybe hook up with her somehow. I know it's been said that you too aren't going out. So I was just making sure.
Honestly, you shouldn't be asking me. The only person that has a say as to who would be with Courtney is in fact herself.
You're seriously gonna hook up with that chick that keeps sayin she wants to talk to you? If that's the case, you would get mad if Courtney started talking to me then?? Cause if you're gonna hook up with that chick then I can have Court all to myself ;) Just asking for your permission before some kind of argument starts.
Did I say I was going to hook up with someone else? I don't think so. I believe the question was if I would talk to someone. I'm always open to talking to people. If you would like to talk to Courtney, then by all means go for it. I don't tell her to not talk to anyone. But about being with her, that's something I can't even answer. That much has to be taken up with Courtney.