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I’m a brand new freshman in Hs and corona has stopped us from being in person. So we are on zoom all day. In my art class there’s a Junior. His name is Prince and he’s extremely cute. But I can’t talk to him because I have no idea how to look him up on social media or chat with him while on zoom without everyone seeing my business. Homecoming is coming up and I want to go with him though I don’t know how to ask when we aren’t in person nor have met face to face. I’m really stuck. And I know a little bit about him. The more and more I learn the more I like this guy. Please help me :(. Thanks so much. (link)
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You could ask your instructor if it would be possible for him/her to ask the class to make their e-mail and contact info known for study groups, making friends and homework help. That's a legit request and one you'll use for that purpose but also to reach out socially. You can even mention that it would nice to reach out to peers having not spoken to other people outside of the four walls of your home in months.
See what happens there. If you get to know the guy and become a friend you can then see where stuff leads. You need to stop thinking in terms of psyhical attributes and what makes him "cute" to you. You have to figure out if he's a decent person or not and jives with you as that's most important.
If you do get his contact info you could send him an invite for virtual coffee if you can't be in same room and to talk and see what happens. Half of these people in class also probably long for the same thing to be able to interact with peers so harvesting contact information isn't a bad thing provided you show interest in them too and not just this one person.
You mentioned a dance but that you're still not able to see anyone in person. Are you sure even if you were given a date that this thing is going to go off? It might not given the circumstance but you could mention to him "How do you feel about Homecoming if it even happens?" Go from there and see if his receptive of going with anyone if it did.
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Hi. I'm using Wix web builder to make a non-profit website called helpmycity.org where people can go to be connected to organizations and people with ideas, services, projects that will help their city.
Question: I simply wish to link pages with a dropdown menu that contains all 50 States. The idea is that when someone selects a State, that State is linked to its own separate page.
From that individual "State" page, people can look at projects and offerings.
I have already created the States dropdown that lists all 50 States.
Thanks!! (link)
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I love your idea and think you really have something by the tail there. That said, I'm not proficient in Web design butI do have a recommendation. The all around guru behind Advicenators is Dangernerd. He knows a ton about computers and this stuff. If you go to his column directly and ask him there you will likely find the information you need.
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How do I stop going after emotionally unavailable men? They're huge babies, have commitment issues, cowards, do not know how to be themselves or hold a conversation.
I have a terrible habit and I keep hurting myself. Also, I attract creeps- why is that? I attract guys who I am never interested in.
Help! hahaha (link)
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I will be brutally honest with you that it's your attitude that is killing your relationships and preventing you from experiencing a good one. You are closing yourself off from people and being judgmental. Often people who have difficulty conversing are painfully shy and not confident around you at first.
You might be putting out body language or a vibe that intimidates them even if unaware of it. As far as cowards go who are you to judge character or if they are? Yes, there are people who have commitment issues but it usually comes to being extremely hurt by past experiences. Giving yourself over completely to someone else is the ultimate release and trust.
There are also people who can indeed be creepy. It's not you that is attracting them or a magnet for. You just need to trust your gut and walk away if something makes you feel icky or stands out as a real red flag.
You mention guys you don't think you would be interested in like you. That's actually not such a bad thing. Perhaps they aren't who you envision when it comes to look, style etc but quite honestly they make the best partners and are loyal. Don't turn your back on them. Also, don't overlook people under your nose who may make a good partner or could be interested. You really have to drop the attitude and embrace and be open to anyone who treats you right.
You also need to stop seeing guys as cowards, huge babies etc because they could also see you in a negative light too. That hurts. If you approach everything and everyone with positivity and give off that vibe you'll end up attracting the right person. Don't be afraid to give someone who may be different a shot either.
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recently i started liking Bruce Springsteen again and when i turned on music choice i could not find any of his songs no matter where i looked i know they played him before but they haven't recently been doing that how can i get them to do it ? (link)
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It's not a case of them not wanting to play it or getting them to. In all likihood he hasn't licensed his music to their platform. It sounds like a rights issue. The Beatles did the same thing as has Garth Brooks with certain streaming services. Rights expire all the time so that explains why it was there before and then poof.
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I went to a large gathering and someone was there shining a laser and some kind of equipment throughout the crowd. The laser hit me and caused me to temporary lose awareness and part of my vision was damaged. It took a while for me to realize that I was experiencing discomfort and whenever I saw flashing Iights it use to trigger a PSTD attack. The permanent part of it was that when light reflects off of surfaces it hits the sensitive spot in my eyes and puts me in a semi-aware state, like a coma and I mostly can’t do anything when that happened. The best solution that I have right now is wearing sunglasses but it’s really annoying and uncomfortable to wear those all the time and everywhere. Most of the work that I have been doing requires sitting in front of a computer and looking at the screen, what can I do in the workplace for situations like that because it’s changing how I view and experience my environment. (link)
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I would see a doctor about this and perhaps a specialist about your eyes. If they find permanent damage and it's going to be an ongoing problem with vision see a lawyer next and sue the person who shone the laser. If you are having PTSD over this than that's an injury and illness someone caused with their stupidity and negligence. It doesn't matter whether or not you know these people but if you have permanent eye damage go after them.
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I’m 16 and a female and I have had the same three best friends since junior high. In the past, we’ve all been inseparable. But recently, they have been ignoring my texts and hanging out without me. I’ve reached out to them asking if i did anything to offend them, but they’ve all brushed it off by saying “of course not” so I really don’t know what to do. (link)
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How long has this been happening? Have they met a new friend? If they have met someone new they might be spending a lot of time with that person and not others. If this is not the case then it's true that they are mistreating you and not telling you why you're being excluded. Friends don't do that or rather shouldn't.
What would I do? If I were you I would go about your normal life as though they weren't a part of it and give them no mind. Wait and see if they come back around or not. In the meantime spend time with other people and make new friends of your own. True friends always come back but if they don't...
You have done what you can here to figure things out with them. It's an unfortunate part of life that people who were tight for a long time can drift apart as they find new interests or begin not to have anything in common. That may be what is happening here.
They might have chosen for whatever reason that you're out of their circle and hope that you pick up on the fact that this is the case rather than stating it to you. I would adopt a wait and see mode for awhile and then accept that the friendships are over.It says way more about them than you for deserting you in this fashion.
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My dad was robbed a couple of nights ago. They took a lot of irreplaceable items; antiques, family heirlooms, etc.. and that can’t be replaced. But they took something that COULD possibly(Not totally but it’s something within my power) be replaced:, a really special amp that was given to him by his best friend as a baby gift, when I was born. He said it’s the best amp he’s ever played on and he’s devastated. I’m on the fence about finding an amp just like the one That was stolen and giving it to him for his birthday, which is coming up soon. But the ones I’m finding that are similar are pretty pricey, and I’m pretty broke. There was one I found that seemed EXACTLY like the one he had but it’s well over $3,000. That would eat up my entire balance on my credit card and I would spend the next 3 years paying it off. It’s already difficult to swing rent and the stack of bills that I pay every month. OR I was thinking I could call the friend of his and ask him to throw in on it (he’s pretty wealthy.) I’m not comfortable asking for money but I wanna do this for my dad. I’m just not sure if I should spend all that money. What do you guys think? (link)
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I think your dad would be furious if you spent money you didn't have for rent, eating, bills etc. and maxed a credit card out on something like this. He would love you thought of it but wouldn't be happy with you spending 3 years paying it off.
I think you could approach his friend and tell him about the robbery and what was taken. Tell him that you wanted to get an amp like it but cannot afford it and see what he suggests. One idea you may want to do is share the story with people you knew and those who know him and the significance of the iteam. Perhaps you can set up a Go Fund Me to get him a new one with everyone chipping in but not telling him as a surprise. That would be a better way of reaching your goal and you won't have to go broke doing it.
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I meant to say true feelings that was a typo sorry about that . Also the last time we were having sex the condom fell off and I didn't even realize it until he told me that it fell off when we were done . I have had my tubes tied over a year ago. but is there still a possibility that I could get pregnant even though I had my tubes tied. I am freaking out . I had a doctor's appointment today and the routine pregnancy test came back negative,but this happened Monday is it to soon for accurate results when this is only Wednesday and I am not due for my period until the 7th of next month. (link)
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You should see a gynecologist to discuss chances of pregnancy and your reproductive health. They're the ones who will know if you are pregnant or have any chance of becoming. I'm not a doctor but I would have to say it's likely remote if you have had an operation to become infertile. Freaking out isn't going to do you any good except make things worse.
I know it's a tall order not to do that but what you have is a case of AFRAIDS and you really should only worry if and when you receive info that is life changing. You wind up spending energy that you may not need to otherwise to drive yourself bonkers.
I would get an appointment with them but you may want to wait to see if your period comes when it should or not. That's when I would worry. I would like to think if the doctors told you that you weren't and were fine that what they told you was 100% accurate but being male I haven't an idea. I would wait until the period is late and then see a gynecoligist about it. You can also take home tests again if you feel you need to before hand. I wouldn't worry until you have to. I would go about life normally as possible.
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I have a huge problem . I have been having sex with this this guy for quite some time we are not dating at all we are just friends who are having sex well supposed to be just friends. The problem is I didn't plan on falling in love the first time I have intercourse with him. I don't want to tell him and lose his friendship completely and I think it's only fair for me to tell my true fee. What should I do ? Please help! (link)
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I think you need to have a discussion with him about the status of your relationship and find out how he truly views you and what he's looking for. This way you aren't confused about it and aren't going to get hurt.
You have to figure out if there's anything there other than sex and whether or not he or both of you are only interested in each other for that. While you may think you're in love you need to step back and see if there actually is any from him. There's nothing wrong with having sex regularly as long as you set the boundaries and know the extent of your relationship. I would pump the breaks on this until you have a discussion about what you are to eachother.
The thing is if you lose him completely over talking to him about this than he's not the right person. In that case you may be getting used for sex and he's someone who doesn't want commitment or emotional attachment to you or anyone. It may be a trait he's had with other partners.
I'm not sure what you mean about a "true fee" If you mean that his love is the term for sex you're going to find yourself unhappy and feeling used unless you both benefit from physical intimacy. You shouldn't put a price on anything or tell people "if you don't love me than forget it." You have to never have a price but know when sex or a relationship shouldn't be taking place. Anyway, you have a conversation or conversations that needs to happen to figure out your relationship. I think that unless you do you're going to get used and severely hurt. Be very cautious .
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Okay, so my mom blames me for every mess she finds in the kitchen whether I was in the kitchen that day or not she still blames it on me. Today she started bitching at me because the freezer was dirty (apparently from a mess I made)Even though I haven't opened the freezer in days and we've had people in an out of this house for two weeks. I'm just sick of hearing how every mess she finds is my fault. And when I try to tell her it isn't me she doesn't listen. Sometimes I just go along with it and accept responsibility even though I know it wasn't me because that's easier than trying to convince her otherwise. So how can I get her to stop blaming me for every mess she finds? (link)
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This isn't about a dirty fridge or sink. Do you have a habit of lying to her about anything or often? That may be why she's irritated at you and making something out of nothing that is unrelated. If there is an issue there you need to talk it out. If that isn't the problem all you can do is what you have done already in telling her it's not your mess. I would try and prove to her who did it so she will know. Believe me your issue isn't about a freezer or mess in a sink it's about a lack of trust. You need to figure out where it stems from and work this issue out with her.
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My story started when I took my high school GPA. I think i got a good GPA (3.68 from 4.0), but it is not very good in my country (in our country, if you do not study medicine or engineering, or you come with a GPA that can't qualifies you for their studies, you are a failure and we don't have a good education system or SAT or ACT our system measures your ability to memorize, not comprehend ). I can study architecture in another country or study computer science in my country, but I never thought In studying computer science before, and because i did not think about it. I am thinking of giving it a chance, but the people around me look at me as a failure just because I have not reached the engineering or medicine GPA makes me very sad (I do not care about them, but I cannot ignore my sadness and their bad influence on me and look at me as if I am less than others). I tell myself: Are you going to another country just to get revenge from people who will forget you after a while or to study? So I have two options. As for studying architecture , I think I like it a little and I know about it in another country or studying computer science in my country, and that I have to endure the sadness and the inferior view of those around me and their bad influence on my psychological health (besides that I have never thought about studying computer science, I am afraid that taking a step may miss a part From my age studying something, it may turn out that I do not like). I know that my story is long and perhaps boring and trivial to some. And I know that university major is not the end of the world and that society’s view of me is not important. But I'm on the verge of crazy overthinking; sometimes i calm my self and almost time I feel so sad. I know that i writed very much , but I cannot find anyone to talk to, and I may find here advice from someone with life experience and older than me that eases my confusion and help me to choose .and i will be thankfull for all your advices♥️♥️my problem is not a big one but I just want to express what I fell. (link)
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If I were you I would stop making yourself feel miserable over something you can see you have no control over and don't have an aptitude for. Don't make the mistake and regret it forever after of going to school for something you have no interest or passion in. You'll never be happy that way and resenting the people who pushed it upon you.
You're an adult and this is your life to lead and not anyone else's. While there may be a major thrust in your country to be an engineer it doesn't mean no matter what anyone tells you to the contrary that you're a failure if you don't become one. Also, a 3.6 is pretty good if you look at what the adverage American or Canadian student gets. A lot would be very happy to have that.
I would take a year off school and travel and do things you have always wanted to do or try and spend the time figuring out what you truly want to do. You have tons to offer the world and once you find where to channel your talent and career you'll do very well. It's your future and nobody else's so making your own choices about your life is the right thing to do.
I know your parents are married to the cultural thing of engineer or bust so what you need to do is enlist some help. Find an adult you trust such as one of your teachers or a relative and tell them "I have a 3.6 GPA and I'm not a colossol failure, It's evident I'm not talented enough to be an engineer and I accept this fact. I do have talent and can impact society even if I am not. I need time to figure out where to focus my talent, energy and life." Then try and relax and ignore any pressure. Sooner or later what is right for you will end up bonking you on the head. Heck, you may even know deep down where you want to be but haven't had the confidence to say it.
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F/24. This is kind of between love and work. One of my coworkers has been acting a little strange, and I didn't even think he might've been interested in me until recently, so now I'm micro-analyzing all our interactions. For example, I was working by myself, and he popped up out of nowhere and just sort of stayed there for a while. We talked for a bit but I noticed he was quieter than usual. I wasn't really paying attention to his body language because I had my attention on working.
This other time he was talking about a funny little comic taped to a door that I hadn't noticed. When I went to it to read it, he came up behind me to read it as well. I think I've seen him get that close to other coworkers as well so I didn't really think anything of it.
I realized the last few days that he's been a little quieter in general. I think he's just concerned about something in his life or maybe just not feeling too talkative. I feel like I'm just overthinking things and I'm way off base but I want to be sure to avoid an uncomfortable/awkward situation. (link)
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This is definitely a look before you leap situation. He might be interested in you and behaving like he has for that reason or he could be overly friendly. You might be reading his body language correctly and then again misinterpreting it.
The problem here is that you have to go to work with this guy every day. If you get this wrong and think he's likes you and it ends terribly that entire office is going to think differently of you. It could get very awkward and even messy. Your employment and how your boss sees you is very important.
I think what you can do is politely ask him for a drink after work. This doesn't mean a romantic thing but as you get talking to him outside the office you'll get a sense of what he thinks of you or his intentions were. If he doesn't want to join you no problem. It's a way of guaging his interest with no risk. If he doesn't want to go than he's not in to you because someone who is would be right on it.
If you do it this way it doesn't have the ability to become something everyone knows about especially if you misjudged his behavior around you. There's nothing messy here because people go have drinks all the time. It's a no pressure way of sizing things up.
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Was making average 500 a week at an aerospace co. Covid hit and we slowly ran out of work. June 12 I began receiving $600 per wk aid+$349 from ca edd. Total $1826 every 2 wks. Now extra $600 is gone, might become 3 or $400 if new relief bill is passed. Now my old job is asking me to go back. Making $500 - gas and lunch leaves me about $380 a wk. Im married wife is working from home but will probably lose job due to company downsizing. Have a 9 and 3 yr old. We are currently living with her parents because they needed the extra $ and they have a big 4 bdrm house. My daily routine is making breakfast for everyone, watch my girls play with them but mostly im helping father in law with projects around the house. Most of which I pay for or at least help pay for. New kitchen sink & faucet, new stove and microwave, painting, new mower and weed eater and a ton of small stuff in between. So do I go back to make less money or continue helping in laws and spending time with kids (link)
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Unemployment is meant to be a temporary thing to keep people afloat until they can work again and not a long term thing. I can understand thatit sounds tempting to stay on it because it's paying out more than the job you had. However, sooner or later a case worker could notice that here's this guy who has the ability to work but is still unemployed X length of time longer than usual. That's my fear there.
It sounds as though your work values what you have been doing to invite you back. In these times having a full-time gig and security is essential to survival. Even though it doesn't pay what you wanted it to I would take it because it's financial security that you don't have for long term.
Explain to them that you want to go back but were hoping for higher wages and explain what your family situation is. You may find that they could increase your pay. Even if they didn't a job when millions of others haven't got one right now is a luxury you ought to hang on to and run with it.
When it comes to your parents and helping with projects that's a good thing as is them taking you in. You'll need to stay there. You having a job and guarenteed income will come as a huge relief to them regardless of pay scale because right now they're propping up everyone and that's tough if they are seniors.
The other thing about gas and travel is to park the car somewhere and take the subway or bus to your job as much as possible. A bus/subway pass will cost less than driving the car per month and get you where you need to be. You can make it work for yourself and everyone else.
I would go back to work and enjoy your family. This sounds like the right opportunity as you can't stay on unemployment for long as that's not a permanent situation.
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My 18 Year old sister at this point wants me to hate her she constantly leaves the house everyday to do stupid shit, she says she’s going to the store but is really going to other people’s house to smoke or other stuff that idk. She walks out with a mask but takes it off once she’s outside, she doesn’t believe that corona virus is real and is being an ignorant fuck, me and my mom have to see her ass still since her college campus isn’t letting anyone on yet until a few months, I was counting down to this month in hopes that she could leave but now that she can’t I have trouble bearing with her being around me, especially with her putting our health at stake everyday over idiotic shit. What is there to do about this? She’s not a great listener so telling her anything wouldn’t be effective honestly. (link)
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She needs to have her cage rattled and get a dose of reality. She's not going to listen to you or your mother. I think what she needs is for a doctor to lay it out for her that Covid-19 is real and prove it. I think your mom should call patient relations at the nearest hospital and tell them that you have a really inconsiderate brat on your hands that doesn't believe Covid-19 is real and is putting herself and others at risk every single day.
Maybe they can take her through the hospital or to meet a doctor from the frontlines that can tell her where ignorance will get her or they can introduce her to families that have been affected so she can see reality.
You shouldn't have to put up with this. You also have every right exuse my language to tell her she's being a self-centered asshole risking your life and your mom's and tell her to wear a mask if she's going out and when she's coming back as you don't need the virus nor her around if she can't put herself second to you and your mother.
If I were your mom I would tell her to start observing Covid-19 protocols and not hang out with people or forego masks and that if she can't do that go live with someone else ie relatives etc and follow suit if you have to.
She has to see the conseequences of what she is doing and where she and your family could end up. You need to find someone other than you and your mother to lay into her about this and then maybe she'll get it.
Why does she believe Covid-19 isn't real? Who has convinced her? Find out why she fels she's indistructable and why she can't wear a mask or obey rules? She's getting this shit from somewhere and in order to counter it you have to figure out why she believes nonsense in the first place. If she has several people lay into her about her behavior it may embarass her enough to make changes.
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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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What you really need to do is get a grip on the depression and anxiety first. Tell your doctor what you are feeling and that it's not going away. They will refer you to a psychiatrist for treatment.
Also, if you have only had three relationships that failed than you're doing fine. Many people have way more. What I would do is stop counting failure and take lessons from each and move on. These men were not right for you and it's not your fault. You probably dodged a major bullet by not marrying the person who ditched you.
32 is just a number and still young for kids. It may be hard to see your friends getting married but I'm confident it will happen for you when you are ready.
As far as finding friends go ask yourself what you are interested in and join clubs or if you like certain sports find co-ed classes for parks and rec. You can also meet people volunteering for the same cause. One of the best things to look into is drama courses or improv because it forces people who ordinarily wouldn't mix together in real life to problem solve together.
The most important thing is to never settle for anyone who isn't right. Also, make sure you never overlook people who may be under your nose and not on your radar. Often the best matches are made from people who don't meet your type physically or may appear a bit bland on the surface.
It's key with friends as well as potential suitors to be completely open to anyone who would treat you well. Always look for the awkward ones as they make the best friends.
I think things will start looking up once you handle the anxiety and depression with a doctor. It really will change your perception of yourself and the world and make it easier to get on with people. You have a lot to offer people but need to believe it.
People may like you but could be scared to approach or see that you are anxious and depressed. If they read body language and see you're unhappy they may back off a bit. Always be aware of that and what you migh inadvertently be projecting.
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I used to have this raised freckle in the middle of my stomach. I picked it off all the way but now there is a big round scab instead. Once the scab goes away will there be regular skin or will the freckle come back? (link)
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I'm not sure. That may not be the answer you are looking for but there's another issue you need to look into. Any time there is a raised mole, freckle or bump that didn't exist before but does now you ought to point it out to a doctor.
Have a dermatologist look at it because it could be a problem that isn't normal and needs to be looked at. I'm not out to scare you but if you have something raised like that and if it turns color or looks bigger than it's not right for it to be on your body.
You may have picked off part of it and it could have a scab or return to looking the exact same way as before and be a problem. It may well be benign but if it continues to look the same ask a doctor about it and whether or not it's just a freckle. Feckles and moles tend to be flat and not raised. You can get them on any body part. Hopefully, that's all you are dealing with.
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I'm an 18 year old girl from the UK- but I don't wear makeup or anything, I don't drink, I rarely ever wear dresses, and I don't do anything to my eyebrows either- so I kind of feel left out when conversations about makeup, fashion or partying comes up.
My friends find it really strange- they're like 'how can you be confident enough not to wear makeup?'- but it's nothing to do with confidence why I don't wear it, it's just something that's never appealed to me. I'm not a very confident person full stop, I'm very shy- so it annoys me when people confuse the two.
And they've also all, since becoming 18, transformed into massive extroverts who drink regularly- whilst they were previously very introverted like myself, and I don't know why they've suddenly changed. 18 is the legal drinking age in the United Kingdom, but they're too much of party animals for my liking these days- do you think I should stop hanging around with them? They often wonder how I can have fun at parties without drinking, and I just find that a sad mindset and am kind of sad to see that they've changed so much. (link)
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You really have to separate their behavior from whether or not they are decent friends despite it. If you have doubts about whether they are good friends or worth your time odds are you need to move forward if you no longer have anything in common. If they are good friends to you despite the behavior than you can look past that provided they check the boxes so to speak aside from when they go to parties.
There's nothing wrong with you at all. If you don't want to wear makeup, dresses or dress like everyone else that's fine. You don't have to. It's about what you feel comfortable with and not what anyone else does. For you this is what works. It has nothing to do with confidence either but more about what you like and what you don't and that's fine. You aren't out to satisfy others but rather yourself.
You're actually quite smart to realize that getting drunk all the time or stoned and partying constantly is not a good lifestyle. There are many people who don't drink at your age or older. They just don't do it nor talk about that choice. You don't have to justify it to them or anyone else.
There's a lot of great reasons not to drink or do drugs. The most important one is always being in control and able to make sound decisions and not to become dependent on it. A lot of people don't drink because addiction is common in their family or for religous reasons see Christian Scientists for example. Whatever your reason it'sa personal one and totally fine. Again you need not justify that choice to anyone. It's what works for you and that's all that matters.
You don't need to wear makeup, dress differently or drink to be accepted by anyone. If they don't accept you because of your choices than they aren't worth your time. Never compromise for other people. You can easily find other friends who accept you for who you are.
The fact of the matter is that these girls are still introverts and not seure in who they are or sure of themselves. They take to drinking, partying and whatever else because they feel it's the only way to fit in with people. Odds are they hate what they are doing and don't feel good inside.
If they raise this topic again with you point out that you don't have to do any of this stuff to feel good about yourself or have friends and that for you drinking, partying and wearing makeup just doesn't appeal to you. That's all their is to it.
You can meet people who like you for you and don't care if you drink or not just about anywhere. Try joining drama, student council or clubs at school and outside of it and look to those who aren't making friends easily as more often than not they're the best people to align with. Drama and improv in particular forces people who ordinarily have nothing in common to have to work together to problem solve. It would be very good for you.
You may not be religious nor have to be to attend church and join youth groups because the kids in them usually don't drink nor party like the people you mentioned do.
Even better you could volunteer at MADD and meet people who share your views on partying and alcohol there and make a difference while you are at it. While not an alcoholic or someone that has addiction try Al-Anon for teens and ask people who run it in your area about not fitting in with anyone because you don't drink and ask how do you meet and support people your age that feel the same way.
They may have ideas for meeting more wholesome people and helping others in process. It's worth a phone call and it's always anonymous. See what happens when you reach out to both organizations. Just be you and if anyone has an issue with that then they're not worth your time and effort.
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Some say it is wrong to be glad she is there because she could get beat up or be miserable there. What do you think" I like to think they will try to prevent violence and being miserable could probably help my daughter improve her character
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Those things are always a possibility. I wouldn't feel glad over it but rather relief that she now has to tackle this head on and that it's being forced. You would like to think they try to prevent violence in prison but reality may be different. It's NOT the being miserable part that matters. You can learn absolutely nothing from that. She needs to learn character in there and be helped with addiction or there won't be a heck of a lot learned unless she grasps the reason she's in there and what she must do to straighten out.
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In short, I had a really stressful junior year of college. I was so stressed out between school, work studies, being a resident assistant for the university, a break up that past summer, the death of my lifelong cat, and everything else related to personal family ties. I got next to no sleep during this time, and when I did sleep, I was met with horrific sleep paralysis which resulted in drastic and unfortunate mental consequences. The consequences were so intense that I had what psychiatrists called a “brief psychotic break”. Before the holiday break, I had reached out to some friends and told them what was going on and what I was experiencing. It was during the time when I was still pretty unwell, so I probably shared too much, and assumed it would be information kept with some respect or at least secrecy out of concern for my obvious unwellness. Over the holiday break, I was sent to a psych ward for four days. Thanks to my work with counselors and the use of other resources, I have recovered and am well, and I am very thankful.
For some reason though, something came to my mind yesterday, despite it happening last year, closer to my break. A guy I barely knew messaged me on Snapchat when I still had the app and asked me “are you really psychic?“ to which I responded, “who’s telling you this?” And he said, “oh -the person in question- told me you think you’re psychic.” I want to say something to -the person in question-, but am curious if I should.
The issue is old, and I was in a different space during the time of the Snapchat message, hence why this wasn’t addressed earlier. However, I am really frustrated about this. I feel that the darkest point of my life was exposed and exaggerated for the sake of gossip, which is something the person in question is known for loving. I want to at the least have a conversation with them saying that now I know what they did was wrong and that I don’t appreciate them sharing something so private about my personal timeline. I just don’t even know how I’d bring it up. I could say it came up in a photo memory, but no doubt they’d ask for a screenshot. I literally just thought of it all yesterday and I really do not know why. A few people in my life are saying that I should simply use this event to serve me in a guiding sense to “be more careful” around this individual. I usually am particularly careful, as I am not super into dramatics. I do, however, want to advocate for myself, not really expose anyone. If I want to be petty, I can use it as a yu-gi-oh card style talking point in the event of a need for a desperate measure, but that of course sounds childish to me.
I feel silly writing an advice request for an old issue, but it truly has been irritating me for the past 24 hours. If anything, validation and guidance are appreciated. Advice on whether or not I confront, leave it in my back pocket, or move on also greatly welcomed. Thank you for your time and for reading a brief overview of my largest obstacle. Stay well, all!
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Psychiatric issues are yours alone to disclose or keep close to the vest. I will tell you based on experience that young people aren't like adults when it comes to understanding and more often than not will talk about it to others and or treat you like shit afterward.
The lesson is you have to be very careful what you tell people. It's really none of their business and if they want to cause grief or drama about it than move on. If they want to know where you have been come up with some excuse. It's better in my view to keep this close to the vest and on a need to know basis.
The majority of the time you'll need to asay nothing because with proper treatment you are as normal as anyone else is. That's how you need to approach daily life.
You'll find out from this who your real friends are when you have had a mental health issue. It's because they don't understand or are fearful. It's the ultimate betrayal when you tell someone something so intimate that they tell someone else they had no business to.
In this case it's obviously upset you to the point you even have disturbing dreams about it. You should confront the person privately and tell them that they had no permission to talk and that you resent what they did. Give them benefit of doubt before dumping them but tell them this doesn't happen again and never disclose anything you wouldn't want repeated to people.
As far as the person causing drama they'll always be a headache and out to gossip about anyone. I would cut them lose because this not what a friend does over and over. They have a bad history of the behavior and aren't about to break it.
Dreams are thought pictures. When you go to bed at night you don't escape your own thinking be it ambitions, fears or anything else. In a dream we see moving pictures. It's all it is and nothing to be scared of. It's just an indicator that something is coming to the surface constantly and needs dealing with. Give this person the boot and the other a chance.
In fact, you mention a group of people knowing the same details you don't want to be discussed. Confront all of them and then see how the dust settles. You have a right to privacy and to being pissed over their carelessness with a sensitive issue that should be secret.
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I recently moved and i'm getting bit by something I can't see. There was an old carpet and I first believed that dust mites were infested in the carpet. I replaced the rugs and thought that would be the end of it but I'm still getting bit. As soon as I turn off all lights they attack. I KNOW it's not bed bugs or roaches (unfortunately I have experienced both). How can I get rid of these monsters? They're driving me crazy. (link)
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Here is a list of potential suspects that could be biting you. The leading cause is bed bugs but it could be anything on the list as they all attack the same way. I'm not an expert but it appears you'll need pest control help. https://www.vulcantermite.com/home-pest-control/bugs-that-bite-at-night/
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