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16/f ok so there is this guy that i have dated( 18 in college) for a year and a half and we ended up breaking up over a dumb reason but the thing is i still love him
he has a new girlfriend( 16 in 10th grade) and everything
and i dont know what to do. he tells me he still loves me and crap and he cheated on his current gf with me so it gave me hope that he still loved me. i asked him he said yes but he loves her too. she she ims me and we start talking and she accidently tells me they had sex and he took her v.. and they only been going out for 2 months! they had sex the first month.. and my heart dropped to the ground. and i was like well he had sex with me 2 months ago too.. and she was like what the hell we were going out and i was like well so were we! and now he told me he hates me for telling her.. i fucked up their relationship and im a hoe. but i never had sex with anyone but him. he told me to stay out their relationship and i was his bitch for a year and a half. she told me and it just slipped out. was i wrong.. idk why i still love him.. idk why she still loves him either HE CHEATED on both of us what should i do. SORRY SO LONG (link)
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You should NOT be blaming yourself for this. He is the one that did something wrong... not you. You were being honest and both you and this other girl have the right to know when you are being deceived.
You are not a hoe either. You thought that you were in a committed relationship when you made your decision and it's not your fault if you were lied to. It's normal to still have feeling about an ex, especially one that you had an intimate relationship with.
I don't think you have to do anything at this point. You don't owe this guy anything. If anything I would tell him that you have nothing to be sorry for and that he is the one that made the mistake. Tell him you don't want him back anyways because he is a liar and a cheater. If he is having problems with this new girl it is because he himself put himself in the situation.
Don't let this guy make you feel like you are not worthy of being loved and respected. Good Luck and take care of yourself before any guy!
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Well first off- I'm 13 and so is my boyfriend Logan*(both turning 14 soon). Well me & Logan will be going out for two months next friday and that weekend I'm going to the beach with him and his family. He really wants to have sex & I do too- but..I'm kind've scared because what if the condom breaks? I really don't want to be pregnant. & I'm not sure if it will hurt or not. Like will I be sore the next day? But I do want to do it & plus if I say no he'll probably get upset. Ahh. Help me please (link)
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If you are having any doubts about this you should not do it. You are young and have plenty of time to make these decisions and experience these things. You want your first time to be special and with someone you know you care about and feel safe with. Plus, if you say you aren't ready and your boyfriend gets mad then he isn't a very good boyfriend anyway. If he really cares about you he will respect your decision and not pressure you to do anything you aren't ready for.
However, if you still insist on going through with this you should go talk to a doctor about getting on birth control. Look up a Planned Parenthood in your neighborhood. They can help you make this decision and be safe about it. They also provide gynocological services and birth control at low cost. You can find a location near you here...
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Lastly, when you eventually do have sex it may hurt a little, but if you with someone loving it won't be too bad. If you are nervous and stressed out about it, it will only make it more painful.
Please think about this and make sure you are ready for all the responsibilities that come with this territory. You don't want to regret anything later.
Good Luck and Stay Safe!
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i want 2 get str8 2 the point i like 2 guys let me explain them both 2 u..... not the looks but the personality thats what i want
Jeremy
phsyco(but i love it)
examples brung a steak knife 2 school
(i told him not 2 bring it any more) he stopped.
put boot protector on his hand and set it on fire (what a wierdo i still luv it)
i asked him did he have a girlfriend he said no i like the single life 4 rite now (he needs me in his life)
always sits with me on the bus (even when there are empty seats) he sits pretty close
always waves at me and tells me hey
gave me a hug(once because i got this jacket from this girl for him)
Hakim
he is younger than me (by like 1 year)
he is in a lower grade than me
he said that last week he had three girlfriend in a row but the broke up with all of them because they are childish
gave me a hug (once i guess because he wanted 2)
told his cousin he likes me i just have 2 tell him i like him myself(thats not my style)
talks a whole lot(its not a problem with me but dang he can talk)
well thats it plezzzzz help
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The first guy might be fun and exciting to date at first, but after a while your relationship would be just as dramatic and crazy as it sounds like he is. Besides, if a guy says he isn't ready for a girlfriend, you should listen because they usually aren't and won't be good to you.
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okay well i ahve like this guy for 2 years and i sware he is like the only guy i wnat and i have been through a lot just for him to notice me and he is on my mind 24/7 well not literally but you gt the point i kd what tothink am i obseesed or do i really like him....my friends say i'm obsessed but idk (link)
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It sounds like you have a pretty big crush. I wouldn't say you're obsessed unless you are letting it run your life. It's ok to crush but don't let it stop you from meeting other people. Maybe you are so focused on this guy that you are missing all the other great guys around you. You might be building this guy into something much greater than he is.
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My boyfriend has to work on Valentine's day so we're celebrating it the night before but I was thinking of maybe buying or baking something to bring in to his work. I am not that great of a baker, but I can do it if needed. Does anyone have any ideas as to what I should bring to him? He's not a huge fan of chocolate and he likes various candy, I just don't want to buy him something and give it to him, some thought should be put into it... (link)
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If you don't want to try anything too difficult you could always get a package of pre-made sugar cookie dough. All you have to do is form the cookies and bake but they still taste good. The fun part is decorating them after and you can personalize them. You could put pink frosting on them and some sprikles or candy hearts... or put his name on with icing.
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On the Awesome Town episode of the Lonely Island or w/e. When Jorma, Akive, and Andy are dancing with their "moms" (haha) (right after the intro) what song is playing?
Here's the link (incase you haven't seen it):
http://thelonelyisland.com/awesometown/
Thanks. (link)
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That song is Shake a Lil' Somethin' by 2 Live Crew.
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I have this friend and she is constantly calling me and wanting to have sleep overs. She is also really annoying a rude to me. I feel like i cant breath!
How can i tell her i need a break from her (link)
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I have had several friends like this so I know how it feels. You don't want to be mean because she is obviously your friend but you should really just be honest. Tell her that it's nothing personal but you just need some time to yourself some times. Everyone deserves that. Besides, if you are around each other too much, you may fight more.
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How old do u have to be to get ur belly button pierced & how bad does it hurt?
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Like a shot or any other piercing, when you get your belly button pierced it does hurt, but it's VERY quick. Just don't look at it and have someone go with you so you can squeeze their hand or talk to them to take your mind off of it. It may ache a little afterwards, but if you take really good care of it and make sure you clean it like they tell you, you shouldn't have too much pain. Also, don't take the piercing out before you are suppossed to because then it could close up and you'd have to do it all over again!
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