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Im only 15 and skiiny 100 pounds!
And im female
and i have stretch marks on my theighs?
How do i get rid of them?
I'm 15 and skinny, too, and I have them. You probably got them from growing. There's nothing you can do to stop them, since they're a natural part of growing, but cocoa butter can help to fade them. It works well for me. ;D Just be sure to put it on once a day and keep putting it on; it can take a while to work.
I am going to massachusetts wensday, and im coming back monday.
Its like a full week. Tuesday night im sleeping over my nanas to go to massachusetts real early in the morning, like 7.
I am going with my sisters and staying with my aunt.
I am really going to miss my mom and dad and brother and dogs.
what can i do , to become less sad when i leave them.
I know how you feel. I just went on a two week long trip without my parents.
The best thing you can do is call you family once at night and talk to them. This way, you won't really have to go without them for a week, because you will still be able to hear their voice and talk about things with them every day, just not as much.
Another thing you can do is take things that remind you of your family. Maybe there is a picture of all of you that you could keep in your pocket, or even one of your dogs' favorite toys? It sounds weird, but it really does help. Take lots of things that remind you of home, like your favorite stuffed animal or blanket or picture, and look at them and touch them whenever you start to feel homesick.
I hope this helps. Have fun on your trip!
I'm thirteen and I guess you could say i'm Catholic. My family goes to church every week, but I don't even feel good when I go. I feel like it's all a big lie, God and Jesus and Heaven and Hell. I mean, I think to myself, it seems kind of unreal that when you die you go to this wonderful place with God and if you don't follow all the exact rules of christianity, you go to hell with evil Satan. So you are telling me if I tell a little lie, or say "Oh my god" once, I have to burn in the depths of hell in my after life, if I don't go tell some priest all of my business and ask god to forgive me? Don't tell me that isn't true, because the 10 comandments say that. That brings me to hell. Out of the billions of people on earth, a fiery, hot place may not be scary to some. Maybe sitting in a white room with a set of rainbow blocks infront of you for eternity is hell, not being able to do anything else. But then, all of a sudden out of nowhere I get scared that that might be real, and all of a sudden I believe in god again. Can anyone help me out here? What should I believe in my situation. OH! And if you give me some quote from the bible to explain your answer, I swear I will ignore it because I can't stand that.
I can understand your situation, because mine is pretty much identical. Both my parents are Christian (Baptist, not Catholic), but I'm not sure about how true the religion is either. I'm not going to try to convince you that Christianity isn't true and why I don't think it is, but hopefully I can help you make up your mind a little better.
First off, if the only thing keeping you faithful to God is a fear of Hell being real, then you may never truly believe no matter what you do. Many would disagree with me, but I say that that's ok. There are hundreds of thousands of religions in the world; Christianity is just the most popular right now. Do some research into other religions and see if there is one that seems to feel right to you. In the end, you may not find one that fits. Christianity may turn out to be what you choose to believe in after all. But don't worry too much about it right now. You are 13; you have plenty of time to think about what you believe and what religion you are. It may take years for you to find faith in God or find another religion for yourself. Just keep searching.
Most important, don't force a religion upon yourself or let someone else force it on you. This is a decision which concerns not only your life, but also your soul, and only you can make this choice.
i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly.
First off, this is NOT YOUR FAULT and you should never even begin to think that. You did not choose this and if you could go back in time you would do anything to keep this from happening, so why should anyone blame you? Also, you are not alone. There and thousands, maybe millions of others just like you who suffer in silence because they are afraid to speak up. Speaking up is more than hard; it probably seems impossible! But you can do this. Stay strong and life will eventually get better for you.
The thing you need to do is talk to someone you trust. It may be a good friend, a parent, or even a teacher. It doesn't matter. Just tell them. If you talk about this, you wont have to feel the burden of keeping the secret alone any more. Also, talking to someone will be the first step in making this guy face what he's done. He has probably done this to others in the past, and he might still be hurting other people, and you could help stop him by bringing HIS little secret out into the open. If anyone is to blame, it is him.
People can be truly evil, disgusting creatures a lot of the time. It may be hard to imagine dealing with them for a lifetime, and it is definitely hard to live with something like this hanging over your head. But whenever you feel like death would be better, just think of all the things you would miss if you gave up. People are capable of horrible things, but we can do amazing things, too. You've seem the worst that humans can do, but if you keep fighting for your place in this world, you will get to see some of the best things that humans can do. If you give up, you may never know what you could have accomplished in life.
okay. my friend lora has been getting really close to another friend who is also openly gay. including going to the beach with her. well the gay friend has told me that she likes lora, but she doesnt kno if she is gay or not. so my job is suppose to be, to find out if lora is gay or not. wat is the best way to do that. i dont want to be just like, are you gay?. so help please?
Ask her a few discrete questions like, " Have you ever wondered what it would be like to make out with another girl" or " Have you ever thought about what it would be like to date a girl instead of a guy?" Questions like that won't give anything away, but you should be able to tell by your friend's reaction whether she is gay or straight.
i feel like im nto havign as good of a summer as i should i believe i deserve to have the best times and go out and have a lot of fun and share new experiances but this summeris boring and i feel liek its going by to fast an im not getting as much out of it as i should its not fun what can i do to have the best rest of the summer
The list of things you can do is endless!
First off, you should try hanging out with your friends more. Call them, email them, text them, whatever it takes to get back in touch. Invite them to do stuff with you; otherwise they might not think to invite you.
Also, you could try volunteering. It may not sound like a good way to spend summer, but if there is something you really like doing, you could volunteer to do just that. If you like animals, volunteer to walk dogs at an animal shelter or something.
Get out of the house more. Don't just sit around watching t.v. or surfing the net. Get out of the house as much as you can, even if that means you have to go do stuff with your parents sometimes. You might enjoy doing something with them every once in a while.
Lastly, you could try picking up a new talent. Try photography or guitar or something else that interests you. If you really want to, you could even learn a language online.
Hopefully you've got a few more ideas now. ;D
My best friend f/16 told me she cut her wrist yesterday and I started crying.
She came over and showed me, it's a diagonal cross on her left wrist about 3 finger widths down from the start of her wrist on the left hand side. The cross is only about 1cm long and it isn't very deep. How come she didn't die? Is it because she didn't lose much blood or because she didn't cut deep enough or didn't cut the vein?
I don't want her to do it again. And I just want to know why she didn't die?
Thanks
Injuries to the wrist aren't always deadly. If she didn't even cover it with a bandage, then it probably isn't very deep. Getting cut on the wrist is just like getting cut on the top of the arm or leg. The only thing different about the wrist is that it has larger veins and arteries in it and if your friend had cut through those she could have bled to death. But she obviously wasn't trying to kill herself, and if you aren't used to the pain of cutting then you aren't in too much danger of accidentally cutting too deep. So basically, she didn't die because she didn't cut deep enough.
But you shouldn't focus on why she didn't die too much. What you need to focus on is getting her to tell you more about why she cut herself and if she has done it before. Hopefully, this was just a one-time thing and she will never feel the need to hurt herself again. But if she has cut before or plans to in the future, you really need to help her through this. Like I said, find out WHY she cut herself. It could have been a cry for attention, but it could also be from a problem in her life or just from stress. Talk to her and let her know that if she ever gets upset like she did and feels like cutting herself, you will be there to listen to her.
well me and my bf were making out and he was feeling me up and he was shaking like a lot and he was shaking before too why was he shaking ?
He's probably nervous. As your boyfriend, he wants to please you and make you happy, so he may be feeling pressure to do things right for you. Next time you notice him shaking, ask him about it. If he is nervous, then you can talk to him about it and calm him down so he wont be so scared anymore. Also, he could be excited and a little overwhelmed. I know that when I get really happy or excited, I start to shiver a bit. Either way, just asking him should answer you question. ;D
I'm dating a guy right now. he's really smart. i'm not just saying that because i'm dating him. he really is quite intelligent. he has a sore on the inside of his lip. he says it's herpes, but that oral herpes isn't contageous. that doesn't sound right to me. i always thought it was contageous. i looked at the sore and it looked nothing like herpes, at least not like the pictures i've seen in school. i don't know much about herpes, but i know i don't want to get it. i really don't know what to do.
Your boyfriend could have one of three things:
1) he could have Herpes, but it usually occurs on the outside of the mouth. Usually. Very rarely does it occur inside the mouth. Also, most people have Herpes and don't really know it. Once you get it, it lies dormant in your body and you only realize it is there when the sores come up.
2) He could also have canker sores. Canker sores are what usually occur inside the mouth. They aren't contagious, just unpleasant for whoever has them.
3) Also, bumps can rise up in a person's mouth that are neither Herpes or canker sores. I didn't know this, but I was having the same problem so I asked my doctor, and she said that what I had could have been caused by a variety of things. But she said it was not contagious.
I can't say for sure what your boyfriend has, and neither can he. To be really careful, make him get a doctor's opinion. If the doctor says he isn't contagious, then don't worry! If you still aren't sure or he doesn't want to go to a doctor, then don't kiss him or drink after him until the bumps go away. Sometimes it's better to be safe than sorry. ;D
its almost impossible for me to be open, so its hard to post this. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for about five years id say. i NEED help. i dont know what to say to my mom, who has blown me off in the past, about this. i have a sever anxiety disorder and need treatment. i dont know how to go about getting this.
17/f
please help. thanks
If you see a doctor for a physical checkup once yearly, you can talk to your doctor about it and he or she should help. Even though you don't like to open up to people, explain to your doctor how you have been feeling and maybe ask them to talk to your mom.
If you don't go to a doctor for checkups or you don't want to wait that long, talk to another adult or authority figure in your life that you trust not to blow you off. Maybe there is a teacher, another relative, an older sibling, or some other person. Explain your situation and get them to talk to your mom. She may listen to an adult when she would not listen to you.
You really need to get your mom to understand before you can get treatment. If you're 17, she's still paying the bills, so she needs to understand that treatment is necessary. Get her to understand that this is a real problem and not some teenage phase.