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ok i'm a teenager and least year i almost commited suicide over a guy i really liked and this year i've been thinking about my father (i have never met him andi really want to know more about him and accually meet him) and my mother will not tell me anything and earlyer today i was ready to write a couples of letters to my family and friends saying how much i love them and stuff like that nad i was ready to take a couples of different strong pills and kill myself but then i stopped and called up the guy i almost killed myself over and i asked him what he thinks other people and himself would feel if i killed myself or died and he said that he would be really upset cuz we went out a couple of times and we've been in each others lives for a long time and he said that he wouldn't know what to do with out me but i don't know i just can't handle all this so someone please tell me what i should do cuz i just feel like takin my life (link)
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Seek counseling, or just talk to this friend of yours, you need to talk to people let them know how you feel, you sound like you might have depression, so it's not your fault... you are not worthless! your life matters and people care about you... you need to talk to others so they can help you, whether trusted adults, family, friends, a councilor...even call up a help line... you just have to help yourself learn that you are valuable and you make a difference, and you would be missed terribly if you were dead, because it is true...
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so I got a little drunk at last weekend's halloween party (okay, more than a little, but that's another issue) and did some stupid funny stuff (okay, more stupid than funny but whatever). The problem now is that everyone in my office knows and keeps coming around... "feelin' alright, steph?" and all that. It is so not cool. Is there anything I can do to stop the gossip, or do I never get to live this down? Got any witty comebacks for me for when everyone's making fun of my oh-so-exciting performance? (link)
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a good comeback? when they say something like that get all moral, and say how you were wrong and how it has effected you, and how horrably assamed of yourself you are... what kind of person are you for doing that... that might freak them out and they'll probably feel bad so i think the talking will stop, you could also try just randomly bursting into tears, that might cause new gossip though.....
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How can I keep from flicking little bits of plaque onto the bathroom mirror when I floss my teeth?
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Face downwards, floss away from a mirror, use on of those little floss brush things or a watter pick...
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so i like this guy. teh only problm is that he is an atheist and i am a christian. but we talk all the time n he makes me laugh. i cant explain it we just click. will the whole religion thing be a bg deal? (link)
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It really depends on how strong you are about your beliefs and how "Christian" you are. If you feel very strongly, no doubt in your mind, by the bible, every Sunday type then you will eventually conflict, and my guess is it would be a relationship murdering conflict. If your religion is an important part of you, he might have a hard time respecting that, likewise your morals could be very different and no matter what you think, common beliefs are very important to the well being of a relationship. If your a "I got to church now and then, celebrate religious holidays more so for family, believe but really don't understand, and have beliefs that contradict your religion, then it probably won't matter much. You might have disputes over religion, but it could work... religion does matter, but don't let that stop you, if you like the guy GO FOR IT!! I can be a learning experience and you never know. You could end up really having a good time whether or whether not it weathers ;)
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my dad has this training school where he has this assistant. he is my age and quite to looker. ~_' hehe... anyway. we have gotten close and he calls me his little sister and i call him my big brother. but a part of me wants more than a brother sister relationship. he also goes against all i've ever dreamed of in a guy. :) i feel confused. i mean, i have a boyfriend too. but when i'm with my boyfriend... i'm always thinking of him. my dad's assistant, my big brother. what should i do to take away this confusedness? (link)
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First off if you can't stop thinking about this other guy even when your with your boyfriend, you need to think if your being fair to your boyfriend. If your not satisfied, or don't know if you are in your current relationship, it might be time for a break, some alone time to think and try and figure out what you like, what you want, its fair to your "brother" and your boyfriend as well as yourself, take some time for yourself, no boy's, the only way to help with the confusion is try and limit it and try and think it through... you need some you time...
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Ok, I'm in college and I want the fine ladies to know they are fine and that I know they are fine. How do I go about this? (link)
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things like "damn you're hot" or "get in my pants" risk a good slapping and also make you look like a shovanist pig. a less direct "wow thats a great outfit, very flatterig to you, even though your pretty anyways" things like that make you sound more civilized and polite and it will get you farther...
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What's a good way to pick up chicks? (link)
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not think of it as picking up chicks? you have to seem nice make them laugh, think with the brain in your head... that should do you well...be friendly go out of your way to say hi and flirt...
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Any of you kids play Counter Strike? Or am I the only 1337 fool here? (link)
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If everyone's like me, then yes, yes you are
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Hi, Four month ago I broke up with my boyfriend, and I don't no the causes of the break-up.I saw him change, we used to go out together but he stopped and other many things in general his behaviour change totally, and one day he called me and said I think we should be friends, I did not understand why and I was'nt ready for that because I loved him. Days goes by and the behavior change, I did everything I could to keep him nothing change. Then the days goes buy I decided to keep myself busy and move on.We still call each other sometimes. He forget if I have his email address pass..sometimes I look at the email and I found another girl write to him, and according to the emails he sound he is going out with the girl and never told me.
Why did he do that to me and what should i do, I still thinking about him sometimes but I don't want to go back to a lier. WHAT CAN I DO AND WHY HE DID THAT??
THANK YOU. (link)
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Let it go! The relationship is over, and dwelling on it, and checking his e-mail is spying, and shows me some obsession. Sometimes people change other times its simply you were infatuated with him and you one day took your blinders off and see the real him. Since you broke up, he is entitled to see other people, and I know its hard to except a lose, and deal with a broken heart but in most everyone’s life they will have to deal with the same thing, there are other guys out there, better than him. You need to let him go, stop talking to him for awhile to get your head strait, and go with some girl friends somewhere like a mall to check out and flirt with other guys, your young, the selection is still big, you can let him become a memory and become yourself again, live for yourself rather than for a couple, and enjoy it...
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I really like this guy. He has a great sense of humor and makes me laugh all the time and he is one of those "nice guys". He could go out with any girl and I just don't see how I would be good enough for him, but he flirts with me all the time. I know that that doesn't have to mean anyhing but I'm comfused. How do you tell if he is interested?
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What makes you think your not good enough for him? You’d be surprised, its a common thing to feel like perhaps your not good enough, but always remember its his view, he might very well think he's not worthy of you... as for telling if he's interested, aside from strait up asking him out you can let him know he's interested, flirt you little heart out, pay him complements, 'run into him' ironically more, this will all boost his confidence if he likes you, to perhaps asking you out, but remember there only one way to know for sure, and that’s to ask him out, you only live once might as well...
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I'm dating a guy who's nice, but I'm just not feeling a "spark" or anything. We're comfortable together, that's all. Like really good friends. Is that enough for a lasting relationship? I'm just not the "fall head over heals" type. (link)
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Many people have lived there life out, and had a descent life in a relationship like this, however they while they were fairly happy there was something missing. You could make this work not saying you'd be miserable, but really your cheating yourself and him, if you don't have some spark, your intimate life will be rather dry, one day you could end up cheating, trying to find that extra excitement... you might not be the head over heels type but you should not only be good friends, you should have a deeper emotional and physical connection then you would to just a good friend... If you have an intimate life, you like to get close and do then you could make it last, but if your really just about the same as best friends then you might want to be just that, if not for you then for him...
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how do you know if you're addicted to the internet? (link)
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If you get home from somewhere, and go strait online. If you think about who might have e-mailed you today. If you wish you could go on your aim or check your e-mail or even surf when your doing something else... if you spend a good portion of your free time (I’d say at least 3 hours) online every single day... this is all coming from first hand experience... oh and if the worse punishment you can think of involves and internet ban...
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I'm going on a three day camping trip and want to pack a first aid kit, but it's gotta be really small. What are some of the more important things for me to carry? I really don't get injured much so I'm not that worried, it's mostly that everyone around me is like "you GOTTA have a first aid kit" and all that. (link)
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Gauze, ace bandage, band-aids, anti-bacterial ointment, peroxide. That makes up a pretty descent first aid kit... oh and aspirin… that is pretty small in size… makes for a good little first aid kit just in case you need it… I wouldn’t take any less than that
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do u thinnk beagles are cute? (link)
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They're cute alright, up until the point when there nose takes them off into the wild blue yonder, and they break into your fridge and eat all the food in there reach... yeah I have one... Oh and the howle at everything!
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Ok this guy i like (i kinda already told ya about this) well he's going out with my best friend and he tells me that he loves her and i don't understand why he's telling me this and when i hang around a couple of friends (really close guys) and he gets really mad and when his girlfriend wants to hug him or somehting and he sees me by a close (guy) friend he pushes her away and goes storm out the door. so do you think he still likes me??
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I think he doesn't know what he wants. What he needs in a good week or two just to think. He seems to be at a point where he is confused, unsure if change is better. It's probably safe to assume he's a bit of and emotional wreck in his mind right now. Seems he might like you, but he himself hasn't been able to figure out what he's thinking. Unless you’re prepared to lose your best friend, I'd stay out of it.
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This probably sounds really dumb but oh well. I have dance lessons three times a week(and this is active dance with jumping, not just walking around and moving arms or swaying on the spot) and I have two soccer practices a week and a game. I also have gym class twice a week for an hour and I try my best unlike some people. I walk 3k per day to school and back and according to my friend's mom 'eat like a bird' which I don't think I do. I'm 13 and weigh 110 pounds. I have friends that are my height and weigh about 90 pounds. Their excercise is gym class. That's it. I know for a fact they don't diet and aren't anorexic or bulimic. They eat more than me.
I also know a girl in my dance class who does everything I do plus lacrosse and an extra conditioning practice with her team for soccer. She eats about the same amount as me but is obese. How the hell does that work? I don't really care but I'm just curious! (link)
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Lots of people don't realize things about your height and weight. First let me start by saying, I have one friend 6 foot she weights 130, I have a friend 5'2" and she weights 130, I am 5'4" and it weight 130. Now, non of us are over weight, not even close. You sound like a very active person, muscle weights more than fat, dancers especially have low fat levels and high muscle tone, that would be one of the factors making you weigh more than your friends. Also you have to take into consideration your bone structure. Some people' bones are actually bigger and heavier than other people’s; this is normal, just part of genetics. Also part of genetics is how your metabolism works, your metabolism burns calories and some people just have a lower metabolism there for they have to be careful and they gain weight, exercise can help speed it up but sometimes its not enough to actually not gain, thyroid problems can also cause in weight gain, having a hard time getting or keeping it off... there are so many factures that work to make you who you are, and how much you weigh, you are probably very much so normal, just like all you friends.
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Hey I was wondering if anyone who is on my advice column would answer this:
Ok if i like this guy who i've liked for along time and he's going out with someone what do i do lol
=^..^= ~Pamie~ (link)
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Either move on or wait, It won't feel good should you break up a relationship, and it's certainly not good if you get him to cheat, because who's to say he won't so it to you. If it's meant to be he'll break up with her, give him like a week to be single then make you move. But I wouldn’t hold my breath. I liked one guy for a long time, I waited 2 years for him to break up with his girlfriend but that was it, i never ended up with him, I lost interest moved on, and found someone better that I really connected with.
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I moved away from to go to college, but most of my friends stayed in our hometown to either take community college courses or just slack off and not do much of anything. Now it seems like every weekend they guilt me about not coming home. I can come home some weekends, yeah, but honestly I'm making some new friends here that I like to party with too and don't really want to go home more than once a month. My high school friends are just like, "But it's so-and-so's annual such-and-such party! You've never missed this! are you too good for us now or something?"
Am I a bad person for neglecting my old friends? Should I make more of an effort to go home and salvage these relationships? I want to stay friends, but sometimes I wish phonecalls were enough. (link)
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Unfortunately this is a very well known dance. Come college, people start to go there separate ways, most of the people you know in high school, even your closest friends begin to fade into history. It has been said many times by many people, don't go home every weekend, your missing out, and you'll regret it in the long run. You can do what you can to keep in contact with your old friends if you wish, but you’re not a bad person for moving on and taking the next step in your life.
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Okay, so i REALLY like this guy. But I don't think he would like me back. I'm in 8th grade and i've never gone on a date or "gone out" with anyone before. If I asked out any guy in the school they'd probably rush me to the hospital or ask me if I was joking. I dunno, maybe i just have low self esteem. But the guy I like is pretty quiet and really smart. Please don't tell me to just go for it, cause if he said no, it would haunt me forever!! (i'm sort of a drama queen. shut up.) So I guess my question is: How can you tell if a guy likes you/would go out with you without actually asking him? (link)
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I got an e-mail, it's quite true and i think what your looking for...
>*~*Girls*~* [how guyz flirt]
1. He stares at you alot.
. He hits you alot. (just play hitting )
3. He uses the first thing that pops into his head to start a
converstaion with you
4. He yelled, "Hi!", to your mom that day she picked you up from
school.
5. He blew off his buds to go see "Run Away Bride" with you cuz you
couldn't get another girl pal to go and didn't want to go alone.
6. He tries to make you laugh anyway even if he gets hurt in the
process
7. His voice gets softer ("Hey, you") when ever you two talk.
8. You hung up on him. He called you back.
9. You where invited by him to a group outing.
10. He called you to talk about nothing at all.
11. He imitates your laugh. OK, you do snort sometimes. Which makes
you laugh even harder.
12. He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation.
13. He sometimes stares straight into your eyes.
14. He uses every possible way to touch you (your hair, face, butt,
thighs, ect.)
There you go!
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If you're too shy to ask someone out in person is it creepy to write them a note? (link)
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Depends on your age, if your high school age I'd say so... notes are an indirect way of expressing yourself, and your feelings, but not directly feeling rejection, should that come to play, so its only natural you would find comfort in them, and want to use them as a way to emotionally protect yourself. People fear rejection, its one of our top fears aside from public speaking. You need to however strive to overcome this fear. I know its hard but in the end you'll find it’s more rewarding, or in your case you very well may find the person in question had the same fear. I myself have directly met that fear, face, to face. I've been rejected too, but if you let that stop you then you will have a lot of regrets... there are things you can do to perhaps stir this other to ask you out, like flirt, talk to him or her, let them know your free this weekend, things like that, however nothing guarantees results like taking initiative yourself. Give yourself lots of mental pep talks, practice what you would say, even though you probably wont say it that way. All those things can boost your confidence! Good luck!
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