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ok i just saw my boyfriend last night and i wont be able to see him til next friday if that an i really wanna go to his football game!! on friday night but im not sure if he wants me to go i mean his cousin asked if he wanted us to go and she said no he didnt but then she dont rly wanna but i miss him soo much!! last night i was with him for like 5-5 1/2 hours and it was grreat and i just really wanna be with him bcz we dont go to the same schools...what should i do and or how should i ask him ...its not as easy as it sounds..
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Just go! It'll be fun! and it's just another way of being supportive of the person you love!
Best of luck
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Me n my friend have been best friends for a few years now but then she met this girl and shes a really bad influence on her-drinking smoking and cutting herself. now me n my friend arent really best friends nemore and shes lost a lot of her friends because no1 really likes the other girl and she's really mean to me. My friend's been cutting herself fer about a year and i don't know what to do to get her to stop but she's going to start drinking too cuz she thinks it will help and she wont really listen to anyone. she told me she's turning into a person she never wanted to be-doing the things she does and ruining her life b4 she's even 13 but she still doesnt stop. theres a lot of crap going on in her life right now but still.. i dont know what to do anymore please help me! (link)
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Someone who has some influence on her HAS to be told. One of those (cutting, drinking, smoking) can be dealt with easier, but all three needs adult intervention, and soon. Really, I think both girls should see someone, and possibly be kept apart (yes, it sounds mean), but perhaps if you can get your friend away from this other girl, then the infulence might drop. There is the possiblility of the fact that your friend may be scared of this other girl, or may want to be like her, and so she feels compelled to copy her, no matter what.
Also, see if you can help out with whatever's going on other than this.
If you tell an adult, your friend may or may not come running to you later to say thank you. She may call your friendship off, but it's a risk you may have to take.
Best of luck.
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hello.. im 14, and i've been having a lot of problems lately.. my parents have been fighting a lot for a while now and its mostly about me and my sister.. i always get yelled at for nothing and my dad gets mad so easily.. most of their fights r my fault cuz i always seem to do things to make them mad.. they yell at me for being on here too much but when i go by them they start fighting over something i say or just about anything.. also my sister has won herself the reputation of a whore.. and it bothers me because, arent u supposed to look up to ur sister? how am i supposed to look up to mine if she makes all these bad choices and lies all the time.. on top of all that my best friend found out i said something about her and shes pissed, i'm so stressed out over all this and when i get stressed i cut my wrists (any of u that read this.. dont start, i have sucha bad habit of cutting and it makes u emotionally depressed and it just makes everything worse) i no cutting is wrong but its sucha bad habit now i cant stop.. my head says it makes everything better but inside i because more depressed.. i think about suicide a lot but luckily i'm too chicken right now, i hate my life and sometimes i think that it would be easier to just pay someone to kill me.. my friends help me out and this guy that really likes me and i like is so worried about me and he said next time i cut hes telling my parents so the puts a lot of stress on me too.. its hard to quit such bad habits
i guess my question for u is.. what do i do with myself.. i need ur help.. please (link)
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First of all, just because she's your sister doesn't mean you HAVE to look up to her. I can see where that'd be really hard, and I can tell that you know what she's doing is wrong. You also admit that your cutting is a problem. "First step to stopping and recovering is admitting it." This sounds a lot like what happened with my friend, the whole parents fighting over/with siblings and you gettting caught in the middle. My best advice there is to simply stay out of your parent's way, especially if they seem at all mad. Go to a friend's house after school, go out in the evenings, be with people who DON'T stress you out, and who know that you're cutting, and can be there for you. If you can, try to talk to your parents about how they make you feel. Maybe it's best if your parents find out, perhaps you should let him tell. If you parents learn how you feel, it may change them, and they may stop blaming you for everything.
I won't promise anything I told you will help for sure, but I'm hoping it'll at least give you an idea of where to go. Best of luck.
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ok, don't say my friend is a fag or anything just because he cut.. i don't wanna hear it... but i've been really mad because, i was talking to him, and he quit cuttin for about 3months, but then while i was talkin to him, i told him something, and he said "brb" then when he got back, he told me that he had cut himself because of me.He said he was just looking for a reason to do it, but now i feel really guilty. IDK what to do, hes not online a lot so i haven't talked to him, so my guilty concious grows each day. I'm mad at myself because 3 months ago, i was the reason he stopped cutting, now im the reason he started. Can anyone give me advice on what to do right now? i don't like the feeling of being guilty, but i can't talk to him...i need a way to clear most of my concious about this, cuz its really disturbing my sleep and life in general.. (link)
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Ok. I've had at least 3 friends that have been/currently are cutters. Often as not, cutting is a cry to help, or attention, or both. There's all kinds of reasons people do it, within the categories of attention and cries for help. There is of course the possibility that you friend may be clinically depressed, in which case, there's not a whole lot you can do. Some people cut because they get adrineline (sp?) from it. Those are usually people who want the attention. If you can, and this will involve confronting your friend, find out why he's cutting. Also, find out who else knows. From what you say, it sounds like he wants attention, but I don't know him, and you do, so I could be wrong. It may be that some sort of family problems could factor into this.
The only thing for sure is that your friend does need help, even if it's just other friends knowing and being there for him. If you do choose to take action, confront him, tell an adult, whatever you choose, know that doing that is one of the best things you can do for him, and possibly one of the worst things for you. If you tell, it is very likely to put a huge strain on your friendship, or possibly end it. Sometimes it's better to tell and lose a friend and know that they're still alive than not to tell, and lose a friend to death because the cutting was linked to more serious things.
Good luck.
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