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My best friend does REALLY bad stuff. she has sex with guys that she barely knows, gets drunk all the time, sneaks out, and even got her innocent friends started in all this gay drama. im not like that tho and i dont want her to be. what do i say to her to let her know shes doing bad things because she wont listen to me.
Wow! I think you need to sit your friend down and have a very serious conversation (face-to-face) and let her know that shes hurting herself by doing these things and you dont want that to happen! I have the same problem with one of my friends and I tell her all the time that shes doing things that are wrong, and well shes trying harder not to hang out with those people every weekend and she is also missing the big Fourth of July parties. Good luck with your friend!
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What is the point of fingering a girl? I heard it was to 'stretch them out' for sex. What is fingering supposed to do? Bring them to orgasm?
Also are handjobs supposed to be done to bring your partner to orgasm?
I am 13, female, and I just wanted to know why you do these things (orgasm, pleasure, stretching, etc.). Thanks!
You sound very smart for a 13 year old girl. Fingering is usually done to stretch girls out but for other girls it is pleasure and could bring them to orgasm.
Hand jobs usually always bring a guy to orgasm (when he cums) and if it doesnt, then it will most likely give him something called blue balls. It really hurts guys balls because the sperm didnt come out. It hurts them to walk and even move. Good luck!
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me and jenny and ruth have been best mates since september when we met. ruth and jenny knew each other from junior school so they were alredy quite close. recently they've been going off a lot together and everyone thinks they're best mates and that i'm just a tag a long. they'll be in the same class next year and they both do a lot of sport together but i hate sport. also they lvie close to each other but i live on the other side of town. i thought it was getting better but today i found out that jenny dumped her boyfriend ages ago with ruth but i didnt know and i thought she would've told me something like that. i tried talking to them but i hasnt helped. what can i do?
Sounds to me like you dont have two very trustworthy best friends, if talking doesnt help than I dont know what will! You really need to make sure they understand they hurt your feelings and maybe you should find some new friends! I'm really sorry about that! Good luck hun!
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hey i wanna hang out with my friend but i cant tell if shes busy? im afraid she has a new online best friend? shes always callin me a loser and a dork? do i deserve this treatment?? after all i have done for her? she wants a pink cat instead of me?! should i die my hair pink for her? this i is tufff.... please help meee u seem coool ;)
your best friend wants to hang out with you too because her boyfriend is done being stubborn and is going to play bball WITH RYAN HELL YEAH
it's my boyfriend's birthday in a couple of weeks and i have no idea what to get him! does anyone have any ideas? it can't be rude or too adult we're only 13. Thanks!
For Christmas, I bought my boyfriend a hat and cologne from Pacific Sunwear. It smells so good and he loves the hat! I spent about 40 bucks. For his birthday, which is in a few weeks, I got him a DVD he really wanted, his favorite candy, and a new bottle of cologne. Good luck!!
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Hey all my friends think im a total weirdo cuz i love country music ! i dont think i am i only like the new stuff like keith urban and gretchen wilson i hate the oldies tho ! whos with me does ne one else like country music !
AwWw!! I love country too!! I love Tim McGraw! Hes my absolute favorite! Oldies country is so weird, I dont like it much either!!
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Everytime i a guy likes me, and i like him...i back off even though i like him!! idk why! i'll like go out with them, then break up...agghh idk what to do!:-/
You sound scared to be in a committed relationship, and there is NO reason to be scared!! Being in a relationship, whether or not its long term, is so much fun! You dont have to fall in love and marry him, just have fun! Go on dates, hang out, kiss, and feel good about yourself! Thats what boys are here for =) Good luck sweetie!!
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ok my last two g/f i have met through my other friend chris and i went out with one of them, now i kinda like one of his other friends would it be a bad idea if i went out with her?
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I say it depends on how good of friends she is with your ex-girlfriend and your friend Chris (I wanst quite sure which one she was friends with) Maybe you should even ask the friend and say I kinda like her, would you be upset or would you mind if I asked her out? Good luck hun!!
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Oh man.. oh man.. I just met this guy 3 days ago and he told me today he was in love with me.. and I even have a boyfriend!! What am I supposed to say to him?!
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WoW!! How does this guy know he loves you already especially when he could barely even know you!! You need to be honest with him and tell him he cant say stuff like that and you have a boyfriend!! First off, if your boyfriend doesnt know about this guy, you should tell him that yall are just good friends and there are no feelings (dont say that if you do have feelings though) Honesty is the best policy! *Just like Hannah told me*
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hey
i'm a natural red head i was wondering how people felt about..um..us!
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HeY! Red heads are just as AWESOME as blondes, brunettes, and even black haired people! There are so many types of hair colors and it doesnt put you in a specific group! The way people feel about you is through your attitude not hair color!!
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my mom is SO super duper gay.she wont let me stay up late.she says every night i have to be in bed at 10.but i sneak on the internet to chat with boys.she doenst know of course.if i get caugh tho im in trobule.what do i say to let her let me stay up later.
Maybe you and your mom should make a deal. You can stay up a little bit later, but not TOO much and that way you can have the extra time you want and she gets to have you in bed early! You both get exactly what you want... if that doesn't work, I think sneaking on the internet or just going to bed at 10 will have to do! Good luck with your mom sweetie!
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OMG i just realized one of my boobs is bigger than the other, WHAT DOES TAHT MEAN am i an alien? i must have a disease how do i tell my mom? what do i do?
HeY hUn! Dont fret, most girls boobs are two different sizes and its completely NORMAL! You arent an alien and you dont have a disease! Trust me!! And dont worry about people noticing because usually a padded bra hides it! Good luck cute stuff!
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ok theres this one guyz that ive liked for a long time and when skool was goin on most of my friends said that he liked me cuz we were in the one class together and he sat behind me and we talked like all the time and my friend to me we flirt way to much so she said that i should tell him i like him and so i did a few days ago online and he acted cool about it but then he wouldnt talk to me except he said bye to me when he had to go so then i talked to him like yesterday and we talked for a loong time and then when he had to go he said lyl which means luv ya lotz but i think he was kidding or something but i dont know cuz he says he doesnt like me? wut do u guyz think does he like me and hes hiding it or not?
It sounds to me like hes scared to really tell you how he feels. It's not very often you get a guy to say "lyl" is it? Especially when he knows that you like him! I think for a few days you shouldnt be too pushy into making him tell you he likes you or anything, just let him come to you and tell you how he feels. I bet he feels the same way! =) Good luck hun!!
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ok, i hav this friend whos acne is kinda bad, not totally but kinda. she has used a whole bunch of different products from stores but after a while she has an immunity to them or something cuz they stop working. so do you kno any things you can use at home like something like the old toothepaste way or sumtin?
She should make an appointment with a dermatologist! They can prescribe special creams, pills, ect. Maybe even something like ProActiv... make sure shes washing her face twice and day and probably using an astrigent! Good luck!!
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my best friend and i were spray painting our bikes. Her father comes out in a rage. He starts hitting her and she was screaming for him to stop. She used a bit of foul language towards him, but he was really hitting her. the mom had to try and calm him down.SHould I get help, tell someone or just leave it alone? I don't want it to seem like i'm in their family's business, then again that is my best friend she was crying histerically but i couldn't see her because he told me to leave.
TELL SOMEONE! Thats so wrong and terrible! You need to get involved but be anonymous!! Good luck hun!!
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What do you all think about people posting up a "question" for people to check out their column and ask them questions? I don't really like it, but it's not like there's a rule against it or anything that I remember. Just askn for your opinions...
I would rather people put their questions up on the main page instead of asking people specifically.. but I dont mind checking out everyones advice pages!!
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I'm 15 and I'm 5 ft. How much is the average weight?
I'm 15, 5'4 and weigh around 103 pounds! I dont there is a specific weight but maybe a little less than 100 pounds! It really depends if you are muscular or if you have more fat... Ask your doctor next time you visit!
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I really just want to meet some new people and hang out with a new "clique or crowd" Where do you meet people?
The best way to meet new people is join new, fun clubs or start talking to the people you never thought you could be friends with online or in school, maybe if you met one new person you can be friends with their friends too!! Good luck hun!! =)
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