so im 17 and my bf is 21 i thought i would end up having a happy life with hin but 4weeks ago he got arrested and he told me it was because he violated probation. even though he was locked up he called me every day and he asked me would i wait for him and i said i will because he is my future husband. so one day i wanted to see his mug shot so i googled his name and i found out the real reason why he was locked up was because he's a drug dealer.... now im feeling like i dont really know him any more and is this what i really want in my life. he dont know that i know the real reason why he's locked up im just waiting till he gets out to confront him. should i try to help him change or should i move on. i really dont want to leave him. i love him soooo much.
You know the answer to this question without asking it. If you are asking it in order to confirm what you know in your heart...that's okay. This guy has no future for himself and cannot offer you one either. He was on probation, which is the courts way of giving him a second chance and he screwed that up already. On top of that, he hasn't been honest with you. And last but not least, you are under age! I realize you are only one itty bitty little year away from 18, but that isn't the point. The point is that this guy doesn't respect the law, himself, or you. You don't need to stick around to comfort him. What you need to do is stay in school, figure out where you are going to college, get your degree, and then know that you will never be dependent on a man for anything. That way, down the road when a loser comes into your life, you can look at them and smile knowingly, and leave them in your dust. You are worth so much more than what this guy can ever give you... please don't sell yourself short!
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19/F. This is the third time this week I'm crying myself to sleep :/ If it weren't for work or school...I'd have nothing to do! I just feel really sad. I have some friends and they're all nice people, but none of them "get me". I just don't feel a connection with any of them. I'm a friendly person and I'm not socially awkward (promise). However, I'm not a super social person. I'd much rather hang around with a few people I already know then continuously meet random people. What can I do to change my situation?
You may or may not have a social disorder...that's something we can't tell you over the internet. The only way to know for sure is to seek medical attention. It sounds to me like you may be a little bit shy around new people, which can be normal for some people. Either way, here is my suggestion for you. You have work and school. Your current friends are quite cutting it. Sometimes that's just what happens as we grow up. You may have simply outgrown the friends you have at the moment and that's okay too. Find something that you have a passion for and volunteer in that area. It could be working with underprivileged children, terminal patients, the elderly, the homeless, an animal shelter, abused women...you get my drift. Find something new that you can really put something into of yourself and I believe you'll make some new friends along the way. Friends that do 'get' you and share some of the same ideas and passions in life. The easiest way to get over feeling sad, depressed, or sorry for yourself is to find someone who is worse off and make it your mission to figure out how to help them. Making new friends in the process is an added benefit.
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Just wondering to see people's opinions... If a man doesnt hit a woman back after she hits him, the next time they argue, she will try to fight and hit him, some women are vicious catty fighters..Im not saying she she get beaten If a woman doesnt want to get hit by a man like Mike tyson, then she shouldnt hit him because shes mad, or over something stupid. i'm a woman lol, just asking. My cousin used to hit her ex. and he would never hit her back. the one time he did though, she never hit him again after that. Shes Grown up since then. If I was a man, I would treat her the same way as I would treat a man who comes up to me and hits me, I do not practice gender discrimination. but the point is everyone deserves to learn that lesson if theyre askin for it. Im not saying men should beat women, Im just saying she should get hit back.everyone who believes in genuine equality and responsibility should agree.. Men: if she comes up to you and hits you multiple times are you going to hit her back? cause that would be self-defense right? for someone strong like her. Women: Do you think if that woman attacked a man he has the right to hit her back?
No... a man never has the right to hit a woman. He has the right to stop her from hitting him, and most men are stronger than women and can hold them back. If not, a real man will walk away. If necessary, he needs to call the police and charge her with assault. Now, to get to the heart of the matter...the woman in question needs anger management. She has the problem and if allowed to continue is only going to get more out of control. It's a simple matter of setting boundaries. In the case of physical abuse...your rights stop about 12 inches from my body.
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My boyfriend pre cumed on the outside of my butt, my cherry hasnt been poped and he wasnt near my vagina. I also went and washed off and changed pants and underwear. Could I be pregnant?
Highly unlikely but the bottom line is that you are engaging in high risk behavior and need to change that. Unprotected sex of any kind, is high risk. Tell the boyfriend to wrap it if he plans on getting it anywhere near you...every time! You could not only have an unwanted pregnancy, you could get an unwanted STD. Remember... if you're going to take it out and play with it...put a wrapper on it!
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we are from texas. my family and i live on a piece of land and my mom and bro live next door. every year or so he gets my mom in some kind of financial mess. this time he's communicated with a love interest in Nigeria on the internet,got a car title loan and sent them 800.00 .he's been using my mom's debit card spending $ she don't have. we've kicked him out bcuz we r tired of constant drama/problems.he has mental problems,but will not admit it,unable to keep a job,won't listen to anybody.i hate to see him homeless but my plate is full w/family and work.
Call your local Social Services and see what they can do to help. They offer mental health and can assess your brother and hopefully get him what he needs, whether it's therapy, medication, or both. He may be an adult but if he's your brother and this is causing you guilt, you need to try to obtain some help for his mental health issues. He may not be mentally healthy enough to take care of this on his own. By the way, if he's stealing from your mom...don't feel guilty for stopping it. That's what you had to do to protect the family.
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Is it okay for a guy to finger a girl while she has a yeast infection? Has anyone done this? Would the guy know the girl had the yeast infection??
Anything you can tell me about this will help! :)
My question for you is why are you even asking this? Get your hormones in check, make an appointment with your doctor, get treated, and get your body healthy before you worry about some guy (or your boyfriend) getting anywhere near it! Respect yourself and the guy...and yes, guys can get yeast infections. In response to your comment back to me, if you have had the yeast infection treated "about 100 times and nothing happened, ".then it's probably not a yeast infection. It's possible that it is and you need aggressive treatment but if I were you, I would see another doctor ASAP. This would clear up right away if you were treated properly. Go back to the doctor and tell him that you want Diflucan. It's a one day pill that will treat it if that's in fact the problem. Don't have ANY kind of sex until it's cleared up! If it doesn't clear up right away... go back to the doctor for tests.
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I am a 26 year old black male and I've been married for almost 2 years. My wife has 3 kids. I love our children but I don't have any biological children and we can't have kids together because she has had an hysterectomy. I take care of my house hole, wife and kids. My wife is a stay home mom. She gets every thing she wants and need. All I want is a biological child. We can't afford a surrogate mother and last night she told me that I can sleep with another woman so I can have a child. What should I do and where can I find a woman just for that reason?
Look, if you want to figure out a way to screw up a good relationship with your wife, just continue along this path. You will find yourself down the road divorced, paying your EX-wife child support, and NOT seeing the children she currently has, and you haven't even given thought to the fact that your wife may well resent the child for this. There's a lot more to being a man and a father than donating the sperm. You will lose your wife's respect and eventually the respect of the child if all of this goes south, the way I suspect it will. And somewhere in there, you will also lose self respect. Play the hand you were dealt. You married your wife knowing that she couldn't have more children. THAT was the time to think about your wants and needs, BEFORE you got married. I understand that people change, but you are really being selfish. I can assure you that your wife has offered this 'gift' to you because she feels guilty about not being able to provide you with a child of your very own. Don't take advantage of that. If you really want a child of your own, wait until you can afford the surrogate. PERIOD. Anything else is wrong.
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i am 5'1, thin but not anorexic, but i have 32-DD, sometimes there E's it depends on the bra.
unlike most women i dont like having big breast. i have no back pain but they just dont fit me. i cant wear tankt ops and i am so embaressed to wear a bikini. there oversized and i dont know where to get the confidence to floant them and ultimetly wear a bikini. i know people pay for my breast but im just so uncomfortable in them and they make me feel so top heavy. and i hate BRA bikinis there so grandma like and not me at all. i dotn know how to even shop for my breast/figure.
Here are a couple of links for bras in your size. I think the problem right now is that you need to start with clothes that fit you well in order for you to gain confidence. And 32DDD or E has to be next to impossible to find! See if you can find anything here that you like and then try them one at time. Personally, I think you'll relax once you get into the right bra/ swimwear for you.
http://www.biggerbras.com/by-size/32ddd-bra-size.cfm
http://www.bravissimo.com/default.aspx
https://www.undiebox.com/index.php?
Start there and I hope that helps.
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So i am 18 years old i liked this guy i worked with since the first time i saw him. We flirted a lot and he made it known he was in to me. I soon found out he was married and had two kids. He took it to the next level and gave me his number but was casual about it. I knew where it was going. We texted a lot and he told me everything a girl would want to hear. he seemed so sincere. I truly believed him. He wont respond to my text or calls. What do i do? I think i love him. I told him once that i didnt want to talk anymore but then told him i didnt mean that. do you think he may be sincerely hurt by the things i said or does he just care? Please give me advice.
Oh good God... of all the available men out there, you're going to latch on to a married one...and with kids to boot? You texted a lot... you think you love him? Girl...come on and get a grip here. Leave this guy alone. He has a wife and two small children to take care of. Find a guy who is AVAILABLE. I don't want to hear how wonderful he is or how much you think you love him. Move on. He isn't available to you or anyone else.
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Okay well they have that prank dial thing on the internet where you can prank call someone for free and leave a funny message, well i have sent a few out to my ex just to play around, but can i get in trouble if i send to many?
Okay... here's my best advice. STOP IT. You're going to end up looking like a fool. Is that what you want? Let it go. It was fun but it's time to stop now. Keep your dignity and stop before he figures out what you're doing. I assure you you're going to feel really foolish if that happens.
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Ok well here's the problem first I don't have any friends I don't hang out and my dog is my best friend .and you are probably thinking what the hell .but I think I am antisocial .I don't have nothing in comon with people .actualy people eritate me its like what people do doesn't make any since. So I just keep to myself I can't say that I'm happy but its just the way that I am so does this make me antisocial ? No clue !!
I don't think you're necessarily antisocial... particular maybe. I think once you have a 'better' variety of people to select from, you may feel differently. It sounds like most of the people you currently know simply don't have the same interests as you. It would be great if you could meet some people who do share your interests. If you have certain hobbies, entertain the idea of meeting up with others who share that interest. You don't say your age. I'm assuming that you are young and just haven't had many opportunities with like-minded people. There's a whole big world out here. I hope you find your niche. We all need friends sooner or later.
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My boyfriend REALLY wants to have anal sex with me and I told him he could next time we're alone but I'm so scared it will hurt. He said he heard it hurt a lot for girls to get anal their first time. My friend said butt sex is gross and so we don't talk about it and I can't ask for advice. How can I not be so scared of having anal sex? Will it REALLY hurt? And does it feel good? I don't know anything about it really except I can't get pregnant doing it.
If you do decide to participate, make sure you use a condom and to not go from anal sex to vaginal sex without disposing of that condom and having your boyfriend wash well. The anus is full of bacteria and you should not transfer anything from that area to the vagina. Having sex in the anus often results in anal tears, which allows bacteria to enter the body, increasing your risk of health problems. Only you can decide this... but here's something for you to ponder on while making up your own mind. Your boyfriend has heard that it hurts a lot for the receiving party in reference to having anal sex, and yet he still wants you to try it. What does that say about how he really feels about you? believe you should tell him this... here's the deal big boy. I'll pick up a nice vibrator and some lube and we'll try it on YOU first. If you love it... I'll try it. My guess is...that'll shut him up lol... You do what you want but ONLY if you are wanting to and are comfortable with it. Just be very careful and safe about whatever you decide.
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I'm 18 and a girl. I've been having irritation 'down there' for about 2 weeks now. At first I thought I just didn't rinse the soap off good enough in the shower, but now since all this time has gone by and it's still irritated, I have no idea what it is. It hurts and itches down there, but it doesn't burn when I pee. I'm a virgin also. Could I have an infection? Is it just an irritation that will go away with time? Any ideas what it could be and/or what I should do about this? Should I be seeing a doctor or gynecologist? Thanks
It sounds very much like a yeast infection but you really should make an appointment with your OB/GYN for a check up. That takes all of the guesswork out of it and will relieve any concerns you have.
If it is a yeast infection, they can give you a one day pill to clear it up.
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If you give head to a guy at a party while your boyfriend is not there does that mean you cheated on your boyfriend? Yeah, the guy was really hot but it's not like we had sex or anything. I didn't even let him finger me! My boyfriend is really pissed and won't talk to me now but I really can't see his reasoning or point of view. I've done this a few times before but I haven't told him about it and regret telling him this time. Do you think giving a blow job is REALLY cheating? I mean, come on...it's like...kissing...sort of...I don't see a problem.
I hate to tell you this but oral sex is cheating. Were you raised by wolves? Seriously... you're just going around giving random blow jobs to random guys and you don't know why in the world your boyfriend is upset? Come on now...sell that one to someone who's buying it, because I'm not! There is a reason why you're behaving this way and the best thing you can do is try to find out what it is. Any self-respecting female doesn't do that so I'm going to speculate here that you start there. What is it that you don't like about yourself? What are you trying to prove here? Here's a tip for you... cheating doesn't even have to involve ANY physical contact. There is such a thing as emotional cheating. I will advise you to work on your own self esteem. I think that is what is lacking here. Start with that, and then consider working on setting good boundaries. If your boyfriend has any sense at all he'll step out of this relationship. You don't need to be in a relationship with anyone until you can get to the bottom of your behavior.
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Ok well i had sex like monday and saturday and i wuz wondering if i wuz pregnant. My nipples and around my nipples are darker than they normally are and they have occasional hurting flashes. like it hurts for 3 seconds then doesnt hurt anymore. I wuz wondering if it wuz normal for the boobs to switch color? Also if i could very well be pregnant.-
Any time you have unprotected sex, you take the chance of being pregnant. If you had sex on Monday, it's extremely unlikely that you would feel anything by Saturday. Is this wishful thinking? Are you trying to get pregnant?
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Okay, so my mom just saw me publicly swear in a comment of a picture I was tagged in and now she's all up in my grill because I said the f word on Facebook. Aside from this, it's really annoying how all my family members are friends with me on Facebook. I seriously don't know what to do. I feel like I'm choking. I'm thinking about making a new account and just add family members there, but that'd be too obvious. What's the right thing to do?? Please help! I'd appreciate it big time.
Because Facebook is a public site, I would suggest that you behave in there the same way you do anywhere else publicly. You never know who's watching! My father always told me, 'If you don't want it seen, read, or repeated... don't write it down!' That's very old but very good advice in today's world where everything we say and do is recorded somewhere on the internet! You should be able to converse with others without swearing... especially in print. As much as you want that freedom, I suggest that you curb your behavior in public forums. Your family will thank you and someday, you'll be glad that you did. Everyone from college professors to future employers can view your FB... think about what you say on there BEFORE you say it!
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my underarm hairs grow really fast and i have to shave them like every day or they will be stubble and you can notice the hairs because they're dark. i really dont mind shaving them often to be honest. i'm just curious if this is normal. is it normal to shave your underarm area every day to keep it smooth and hairless or am i weird?
Yes, I agree. I shave my arm pits and legs every day. Perfectly normal, unfortunately!
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what are the warning signs, that someone is cutting them-self?
the warnings when someone is cutting or signals, is when, they wear long selves clothing to hide up the cuttings on their arms or wrist. to get help for people who cut is.. a person from a therapist office and someone with specialized training and experience from this behavior.
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i have a friend that is bulimic, how can i help her?
the only help that you can get your friend, is to take them to doctors or counseling.
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i've heard that 3 of my friends might be doing "ecstasy" can you please tell me what that is and can it be harmful?
Yes ecstasy can be harmful, depends how much you take, and it can effect the body very badly, the harmful effects of the drug will increase exponentially. short term effects: heart rate, blood pressure and body temperature, dehydration, sweating, nausea, blurred vision, faintness, dizziness, confusion. long term effects: liver damage, brain damage, paralysis.
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