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Q: well my current situation is i'm so interested in this guy, had a crush on him for a little while. and a while ago, i found out he felt the same way. we've been hanging out too, and we've been talking to each other a lot, it's like we flirt almost everytime we talk and some people don't even know and question if we're together or not(we aren't though). anyways, how do i figure out what we are, if we're just friends that like each other, or moving on to going out and becoming bf/gf? we are both REALLY interested in each other, but we are just like stuck in the middle of being friends and dating. how do i find out what he wants to be with me? we are both too shy to admit or talk about it though.. so plz help me, i want to get out of the middle, thank you..
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Your going to have to talk about it that is the only way your going to know for sure. Just ask him what he thinks about you and him as a couple. Or if he'd like to try going on a date sometime. If you know that he likes you, your not going to be rejected. Just put the idea of dating out on the table and see where it goes. Next time you guys are a lone, bring it up. Good luck!
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Q: ok this one is long so please help cause im very confused, ok well theres this guy ron i like hes (21) my mom likes him too she says i should date him rite but he said he likes me but we would have to keep our relation ship on the down low if we were to date n since im not gonna date someone but tell people im single i said no n so a few days later he gave my cell number to his friend named david n hes (20) hes sweet, he listens to when i talk, he really really likes me but he has a girlfriend named melanie who is (17) but he doesnt like her cuz she has tantrums like a 5 year old if she doesnt get her way, so he asked me if he were to break up with her if id date him, n i said i dunno, cause shes pregnant, n so ron found out bout that n now hes mad at me cause im taking to david but he gave david my number. n so now him n melanie are over n he asked me out so i wanna no how too keep ron as a friend but also date david?
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Well honesty, both of these guys sound sketchy but if you want to date David, it's going to be difficult with a pregnant ex in the picture. Also Ron has no right to be mad, he wanted to keep you a secret and pawned you off on his friend. I don't know why you'd want to have him as a friend. If he cared about you, he wouldn't want to keep you as a secret. So decide if you really want to be friends with a guy that doesn't respect you.
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Q: im in love with my friend of the same sex. i have my suspicions that she feels the same but cant bring myself to tell her how i feel. what shall i do?
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You have to think about what you value more - Her as a friend or her as a lover. It could go either way, if you are sure that she might feel the same way and are willing to risk your friendship then go for it. Just be warned that if you do make a move she might feel a bit embarrassed about it.
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Q: I am in primary school and in august I will be going to bording school.I am really excited but in primary school i wasnt very popular so in secondary school I would love to be popular so please can i have some tips coz im really worried i will be rejected again .
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Being popular seems to be a large part of teenagers lives, the secret to being popular is just being nice. If you befriend a few really good mates thats good, but that doesn't mean you can't be nice to everyone else. It's all about being confident about who you are, remember bullies only go for people who seem weak enough not to do anything about it. If you make out like you are a lively, confident and happy person people will love being around you.
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Q: I broke up with my boyfriend and now I realise I've made a huge mistake. I can't imagine life without him and I find myself crying over him all the time. I am so lost without him, my grades are slipping at school and I'm drifting further away from the people I care about. I love him too much to carry on and now I don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to him about it before but I can't bring myself to. This may sound cruel but is there any way I could guilt-trip him into being with me because I think he still loves me. As usual he is worried about what his friends will think becuase they don't really like me after I dumped him. Please help, this is my whole life I'm trying to save.
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well first of all guilt tripping him into it isn't going to solve anything cause its like forcing him into something that he might not want to get into. if you want him back your going to have to talk to him properly, and if he cares about you enough he'll tell his friends how he feels about you and not care if they don't like you and if he wont get back with you then shes going to have to try get over him however much she loves him, and try to concentrate on the more important things like her friends and family and people she cares about, and her school work Let me know how it goes,
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Q: I will be 22 as a freshmen. Will I have trouble connecting with people 4 years younger than myself? I just have this feeling I will be the weird old dude that nobody hangs out with.
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It's possible. It would depend on your maturity level, and if you had similar interests. There are clubs that you may have an interest in which would help. I have a friend who was 22 and a freshman last year. He moved off campus after one semester because he couldn't stand being around immature people. He made a alot of friends with upperclassmen, which suits his personality.
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Q: Im in the 10th grades and my grades are so low. Is there a still a chance of me getting into a good university.
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sure, just get your grades up. You have 2 years to do it. Plus grades aren't all that matter. However your chances of getting into a school like Harvard are probably impossible. But don't get discouraged you can still go to a good school.
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Q: I was thinking about going to college in an undecided major. That way I'm can take general courses and find something I like there and want to pursue. Is that choice a wise one or is it going to mess me up in the end, or be a waste of money?
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You don't need to go as a major right away. Most schools are helpful in allowing you to figure out what you want to do. But smaller schools are better for that.
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Q: I wanna join a sorority when I get into college which will probably be in about 1 or 2 years anyway whats the whole thing with them. like what do they do? and how would one go about joining one?
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Generally you rush which means go around to different sororities or fraternities. You try to meet people and find one you like the people in. Then they decide if you are worthy of receiving a bid which means you are a pledge. You go through several weeks of showing your loyalty and then are finally initiated.
Some girls like sororities and some guys like fraternities. Only you will know if it's right for you.
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Q: do colleges have deadlines on when u have to have ur FAFSA done?
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yes, usually schools do have a deadline. Check with the individual school, you can do this by looking at the application, website, or by calling the office of financial aid.
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Q: Do you think it is ok to wait a year after I graduate from high school to go to college
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Sure it is okay, many people do it. The thing is however that you want to apply while in college...then when you're accepted, let them know you'd like to defer enrollment for a year. Most schools will let you do it. Just do something productive and worthwhile during that gap year.
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Q: I have my period and am using a tampon. Can I have sex?
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As long as neither one of you is uncomfortable about having sex during your period, then, of course, you can get right to it! Since you're a tampon, rather than pad, user, remember to remove the tampon before having sex, or hold on to the string during sex. Otherwise, the tampon can be pushed in enough that it may no longer be easily retrievable. If you were unable to get it out, you would need to visit a health care provider to have the tampon removed and receive treatment, if you need any, for any possible infection that could have occurred.
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Q: My girlfriend and I masturbate and have oral sex every day and we really enjoy it. One thing that concerns me is that although we have not had sex yet, we have frequent genital touch; we use our genitals to rub each other to get excitement. Will this cause some possibility of getting pregnant? Both of us have never had sex before.
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There is a small chance that your girlfriend could get pregnant without intercourse. If the sperm from your ejaculate or pre-ejaculate gets near the lips around her vagina when she is fertile, the sperm can move into the vagina, hook up with an egg, and fertilize it (a.k.a., conception). If you want to make sure that your girlfriend doesn't get pregnant, either use a condom, or make sure both ejaculate and pre-ejaculatory fluids are far from her vagina. Also, if you touch your own semen and then touch your girlfriend's vagina with your hands, these highly motivated swimmers could travel to the egg.
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Q: What does the term "sixty-nine" refer to?
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69 is refers to having oral sex with a partner at the same time they are having oral sex with you.
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Q: I am a female, and a relative newcomer to sex, and just about every time I have sex with my boyfriend (who has a very large appendage) I get really sore. We use a ton of lubricant and we go very slow, and wait till I'm ready, and I don't tense or have pain often with entry, it's just this soreness. It goes away after a while, but lately it's been making things difficult when we try to have sustained sexual activity.
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Painful lovemaking can be the result of several physical situations. You may have a vaginal infection which intercourse friction causes to flare up. Your vaginal canal may be irritated by the specific foam, cream, or lubricant that you are using, or may be a reaction to the type of rubber a condom is made from. The first few times you have intercourse, an unstretched hymen may cause pain. This may be the case especially if you say that your boyfriend's penis is on the large side. If the pain is deep within the pelvis, it is probably a sign of a more serious problem. The soreness you describe does not sound like you're having an internal problem. However, if this continues, please see a provider in Primary Care Medical Services who may have some more suggestions on how to make your lovemaking more pleasurable and less sore.
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Q: I've just had my first condom break ever. I'm on the pill, so I'm not worried about pregnancy, but a couple of days afterwards I had yeast infection-like symptoms — no unusual discharge, just itching. If I pick up some over-the-counter yeast infection medication and the symptoms go away, would I be safe to assume that was the problem? Or should I definitely go in for an STD check?
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Right on with that back-up method of birth control! Not having to worry about an unplanned pregnancy after the condom rupture is probably a big relief. If you don't have any symptoms besides itching, you probably don't have a yeast infection. You may have a sexually transmitted infection (STD) or some other vaginal ailment.
There are various sexually transmitted infections (STDs) and a few common ailments unrelated to sex that include itching as a symptom. The most common STD that causes itching is trichomoniasis. Trichmoniasis (or trich, pronounced "trick") is caused by microscopic protozoa. It usually produces large amounts of discharge and can be treated with medication. Often, herpes also begins as an itch in the vaginal area. Herpes may progress to blistery sores that tingle or burn. Because so many people carry the herpes virus, doctors don't usually test for it unless sores are visible. Pubic lice also make you want to scratch. They come in three forms: nit, nymph, and adult and are diagnosed by looking for the little beasties on your pubes.
In the non-STD category, yeast and bacterial infections are another common cause of vaginal itching and are often accompanied by unusual discharge, burning, and pain. If you don't have these other symptoms, it's probably best not to use yeast medication because the medication itself can upset the bacterial balance in your vagina. Wearing cotton underwear and loose-fitting pants, using mild body soap and laundry detergent, and avoiding douching may help with vaginal itching. If your itching doesn't go away in a week or so, you may want to see a health care provider to help with a diagnosis.
In any case, because many STDs are asymptomatic (meaning you can't see or feel any signs) it's also a good idea to get annual screenings for things like chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HIV if you are having sex with a new partner, and especially if you have reason to believe you may have been exposed to something. You might want to encourage your partners to be tested as well.
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Q: I've recently told a couple of my friends that I'm a lesbian, and they responded with a comment like, they already knew, or that they weren't surprised. I guess I have two questions. First off, is there a stereotype for lesbians, and if it's that obvious that I'm gay and a lot of my friends know, then how come I can't find a girl that I can share pleasurable experiences with?
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There is a stereotype of lesbians that some women fit; however, there are many gay women who don't sit comfortably at all in these generic categories. With stereotypes — of gays, straight men, Jews, African-Americans, Asian-Americans, Minnesotans, New Yorkers, athletes, and almost every other group you can think of — some people fit them, but many do not. The fact that your friends were not surprised when you came out to them may not have anything to do with stereotypes. Could this response have resulted from you being more yourself to them? Perhaps you have been more open than you suspect about who you are: your values, priorities, and what you want and don't want in life.
Your second question ponders the connection between your "obvious" sexual orientation and your search for a partner. Being obviously lesbian has nothing to do with having or not having a partner. Think about the obviously heterosexual people you know who don't have partners. Remember that lesbians are women — women who grew up with suggestions that they be passive, and patient when waiting to be asked out by someone else. If you have two women who are interested in one another, doesn't it follow that each one may be waiting for the other to "make the first move?"
It is important to put yourself in situations where you can meet other lesbians. Some ways that lesbians can meet others are to take a class or attend a group dealing with something they are interested in. For example, on many campuses, there are various gay, lesbian, bisexual, and/or transgender organizations that have discussions, social activities, and events. Additionally, there are many kinds of community groups and events, including Dykes on Bikes, speed dating, and Lesbian Cinema Arts to name a few. Attending or working on events gives you opportunities to meet other lesbians with similar interests who may want to be friends with you or even explore the possibility of something more intimate.
It may feel intimidating, but you have to seek opportunities as well. If there is someone you are interested in getting to know, invite her for coffee, a walk, a museum visit, or a concert. Someone has to make the first move and it very well may be you, not her.
You clearly have the courage to come out to your friends. Continue using that courage and take the next steps to making new friends and much more.
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Q: I've been having this problem with my girlfriend. Whenever we make out, I get the impression that she wants me to do something with her breasts... but I don't have the foggiest what to do.
I'm sure that they aren't there strictly for my enjoyment; so, what can I do with my girlfriend that would offer her some pleasure, as well?
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on breast-play along with this suggestion: go ask your girlfriend how to handle, what is after all, a part of her body, as you so sensitively and respectfully pointed out in your question. As with her ears, lips, shoulders, stomach, hands, feet, you can try the following with breasts — and remember, your partner can help,too:
caress
stroke
kiss
fondle
lick
massage
hold
nibble
suck
How fortunate your girlfriend is to have a companion with the caring and courage to ask such a question. Sex play is something we learn, not a skill-set embedded in our genes that makes us natural-born pleasuring experts.
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Q: I like this guy that I've known for a couple years. The only problem is that I'm 18 and he's a little younger. We're both interested in each other, but I don't think getting involved with a minor would be a good idea. Should I try to wait for him?
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Why not get involved with a minor? He is a little younger so presumably in a little time will be 18 and thus not a minor. Getting involved with him isn't illegal unless you have sex - wouldn't that just be the easiest way around it? Why waste a perfectly good relationship opportunity just because of the figures of an age? Go for it - stop being worried about age numbers.
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Q: my parents are devorced. they have been since i was 3. i ve lived with my dad my whole life. and now i want to live with my mom. My dad said that he is my legal gardian and he will call the cops if i go with my mom. my question is can he make me come back? he said that they would put me in juvie... If i do end up there.... and i tell the judge i dont want to live with my dad. can i go live with my mom... without him being albe to do anything? Or can i leave with my mom,and the cops not be able to take me?
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if he has legal custody, you would be considered a runaway and yes he could call the police.
Why do you suddenly want to live with your mom? If you've been with your dad since you were that young, I can't imagine there has been major custody issues that you could remember. Indeed, I doubt you would really know what living with her is like. If you're fighting with your dad then you gotta work things out. If he's abusing you, you gotta report it. Those are the first two reasons that come to mind for this sudden decision, if neither of those work I want you to really think about things and why you have this desire now to live with your mom.
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Member Since: August 1, 2007 Answers: 140 Last Update: December 24, 2008 Visitors: 2803
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