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Q: me and my stepdad fight all the time, my mom always takes his side even though he is unreasonable. he tells my mother how to parent me and raise me even though i am 16 years old. it makes me so mad how he patronizes me and treats me like im 5, my mom pretends not to notice. i hate it..... ive tried talking to her all she does is tells me he loves me and that i should listen to him.
any advice?
thanks

Try talking to your step dad and tell him that you're too old to be treated like a baby.

Q: My gf iss moving, and I also like this other girl at school, and she said she likes me. So when my gf moves away, should I get together with the one that I like?

If your girlfriend is moving away and you don't want to continue the relationship then go ahead.

Q: I'm 16/f and my bf's sixteen too. We've been together for 5 months. I have a best guy friend who I've turned down many times. I used to not like him at all, actually. Now, I think I'm beginning to like him...Like, I suddenly walk into class one day and I feel something for him. And he always tries to make my boyfriend jealous on purpose..Like he'd grab a hold of my arm in front of my bf..and make him go insane. In math class, he caresses my arm and hair..and giggles and stuff. And I don't really have a problem with it. But it's my bf..who, frankly, I like less. And I just don't know what to do. I can't really be sure about my guy friend..him liking me and all. Ive asked him..he said he doesn't. But I don't believe it since the body language proves otherwise. Soo I'm kinda stuck in between..and can't decide. I don't want to be a bad girlfriend either. What would you do?

For starters I'd break up with the boyfriend. Even if the other guy doesn't like you.If you're not going to be committed to being in the relationship. It's best not to lead him on. It will just hurt more later. Next I would talk to the guy you do like and see what's going on whether he likes you or not, and what you both want to do about it.

Q: Ever since I was 5 my Dad got married, giving my a new step mother and step brother to deal with. His mom and my dad knew each other through our church, so I always knew he wasn't my real brother, and even if I didn't; He's Black and I'm Dominican, so it's kind of "apparent". I'm a couple of months older than he is.
He's usually a quiet and calm person, but I feel he goes out of his way to make time if I want to talk or just chill. He's an awesome step-brother; the best, and I thank God for him like everyday.
A couple of years back, I started looking at him...differently. All the traits I like about him, I started to love about him. Things I took for granted started becoming really difficult to do. I feel really self conscious when I'm next to him, and I feel awkward when we're in the same room, just watching TV. I can't even talk to him easily any more because of the secret I'm keeping from him.
It didn't take him long to pick up on it, and he tried to sit me down and talk. I was reluctant, but he got really worried that he'd done something to me and wouldn't let it go. we've talked about a lot of things but nothing as major as this. I wasn't sure how he'd take it, and I lost my temper and shouted at him to back off, and he started walking out the room. And then he said the worst words I'd want to hear. He said "I love you", something he doesn't just say out of the blue, but I can't tell if he loves me loves me, or whether it was just because he thinks I hate him for some reason. It's been three weeks since that incident, and we haven't spoken to each other, which I hate, but it makes living so close to him much more bearable.
I've never felt this way about anyone else before, and I know what I feel is real because of the fact he's my step brother so I know him intimately (platonic, not the other kind), but I'd hate to be rejected...or worse if he takes real bad.
Should I tell him how I really feel, or keep us distant?

I think you should talk to him. Things are only going to get worse. Even if he doesn't like you, at least the silence will be broken, then you can get on to the next faze... whatever that is. If he does like you. I suggest you guys sit down and talk about what you're going to do with your feelings. What your parents might say, what will happen if you divulge in a relationship with someone you have to live with on a daily basis and how you want to deal with it if you start dating and it doesn't work out.

Q: 18 years old, female.
my dad works with a younger guy about 25 or 26. i'll call him brent. so brent some how got my number and started texting me. i thought he was just trying to get on good terms with me so my dad wouldn't dislike him or anything. well now it's got to the point where he is saying i turn him on and how sexy he thinks i am. it's freaking me out a little bit. i usually just write back haha thanks or something like that. but here's the thing, he's engaged! and i have a boyfriend! should i stop all contact with him? i don't want to be disrespectful to his fiance or to my boyfriend. is this wrong being that my dad is his boss??

Hi,

Even if it wasn't someone your dad worked with, I'd still say to cut it off. He has a fiancee. And it's not a good idea to be at the center of a mess that he's trying to create. Also think about your own boyfriend. I don't think you should go behind him like that. This guy sounds shady. I'm not saying that in a different situation an a 26 year old might find you appealing,or that it's wrong to date an older guy, but this guy's going about it all wrong. He's not even free to date anyone. Definitely walk away before things go awry.

PS Being in a relationship with someone who works with your dad might make things awkward. Especially in this case.

Q: 15/female
I don't know what to do really. I met this nice guy through my friend on myspace, and it seems he has a thing for me, and wants to hook up sometime. Well apperantly, he added one of my friends on my top, who can practically get any guy she wants, and she is single now too. And I'm jelous, because i can't get guys that well, like she can. And I don't want her talking to him. What should I do?

My friend had that same problem. I think you should talk to your friend. Otherwise things might become tense and awkward if they become closer friends. Tell her what you feel. If she's insensitive then maybe she wasn't that great of a friend after all.

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