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in the movie trainspotting are people speaking english or what? (link)
IMDB says it's in English. If it wasn't, it wouldn't say so.

Hope this helped!


if you think about it, how does kissing make any sense? its like two people swapping spit. i guess its more intimate than holding hands or whatever but you know what i mean? (link)
I know what you mean, and I agree.

Humans are pretty primitive creatures. We enjoy things that are just plain..well..dumb.

It stimulates the pleasure centers of our brains :)


Ok I am asking this guy out that I like tomorrow. I am too scared to ask him face-to-face (b/c if he says no I wouldn't know what to do). Does anyone know any other cute ways to ask a guy out?!
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Just try to make a move on him, try kissing him or holding his hand, if he tries to get away, you didn't say anything, so you can act like you didn't do anything.

Good luck! 2 years later!


ok so there's this guy i like but he's 13 turning 14 sometime. Im almost 15. Do you think this is right or wrong? i mean hes really sweet! and an awesome bball player! plz help! (link)
When you're that young, a year or 2 difference really isn't much to gawk at.

If you really like him, that small difference shouldn't matter, just be sure that he's mature enough to deal with a relationship with you!

Hope it goes well!


ok so there is this guy who is kinda friends w/ me and he has a nick name for me(detective if you were wondering), and is always talking to me, and at school dances he always talks to me and then i ask him to dance he says yes and when we are slow dancing he grabs my ass, and he always brings up times when we had fun together.
i dont know if likes me or not and if he does what should i do should i ask him out or some thing?

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You should probably try to turn that "kinda friends" into a "good friends"

You need to get to know him better, him grabbing your ass means he must think you're attractive, that's a start, but there's more to it than that.

Hope this helped!


Ok... i like my boyfriend. But i have liked his bestfriend longer and i just found out that his bestfriend likes me. Idk if i like my boyfriend more or his bestfriend. Like i said though i have liked his bestfriend longer than i liked him. And his bestfriend likes me and all i just dont know what to do because i like them both i just dont want to hurt either one of them. plez help

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There's no way to get what you want without hurting someone.

His bestfriend shouldn't go out with you if you broke up with your boyfriend.

It's a guy thing, you don't go out with your bestfriend's ex.

And hopefully he respects that rule.

You should probably talk to his best friend about yours and his feelings. And if he is willing to give up his bestfriend for you, you can take that risk.

This is all assuming you like his bestfriend more than your boyfriend.


Well see i'm in class i just over heard someone ask this girl."Why don't u go out with my crush"? & now i was wondering was it true cause now im very sad even though i hated him at 1st please help. i don't know how to heal my heart?


PrinC3$$ hahahahahahaha luv ya (link)
Get him first.

That's all the advice I could give. Hope I understood your question well enough.

Good luck!


Hey!

So i'm graduating in 2008 ( this june) and on my AIM profile i have like "Senior Class of 2008 (link)
"There's nothing older than a high school senior, yet nothing younger than a college freshmen. As we end our journey here, we begin another."

Hope this helped!


do yall think that people have stopped going to real casino's now and are going on the online ones more? also do you think that real casinos will have to shut down in the future because they are being replaced by websites? (link)
Most casino goers go to online casinos and real ones.

Real casinos have a lot more cash and it's a more entertaining environment. If you go to Vegas, you'll see that there is no competition.

And who do you think owns these online casinos?

Hope this helped!


i know that when having sex if its tight, girls make alot of noise, and i was woundering, do guys find that annoying? (link)
I don't find it annoying. If they were to scream maybe...but most guys find it flattering when girls moan, it means we're doing a good job.

And it makes no difference if a girl is tight or not, it will be more uncomfortable for the girl if she's tighter, but the moaning (which I'm guessing you're referring to) is from it feeling good.

Hope this helped!


i'm on the cheer squad this year, and I REALLY want to stay in shape, i'm a bit overweight, not obese, but i have a bit of pudge.
i'm 15 and i weigh 130 and am 5'4.
i need a diet plan to help me loose about ten pounds, and then then maintain that weight.


PLEEEASE help

i also am starting to work out about three times a week for an hour and a half. (link)
There's a cheer camp at most Highschools during the summer. It's like training for a week or so (correct me if I'm wrong), all I know is that that stuff is extreme!

A lot of the practice that cheerleaders do is what gives them their thin physique.

That plus your working out should be more than enough to lose that 10 pounds, and watch your eating too! A 2000 calorie diet is nice and healthy, try not to go anywhere over that.

Avoid especially fatty foods if you're serious.

Hope you do well in cheer! Hope this helped!


can anyone explain to me how to makeout? i mean ive only kissed like on the lips. i know this sounds soooo nerdy and im embarrased for asking but im really curious. everyone thinks i get like all these guys, and that ive done so much. I correct them but they still think of me as some kind of sex queen. :[ but if you could just tell me like how you make out. i would appreciate it...everyone says it comes natural but i just want to know what to do! please help (link)
It really does come natural, your first few times you'll gain your own technique.

Kissing is rather primitive, it's not very skillful, you just don't pucker up your lips like everyone seems to think, that's for pecks. For "make-out" kisses, you sort of open your mouth and close it onto theirs.

Hope this helped! Have fun kissing!



today at dinner i was eating this pasta dish. the pieces of pasta were a tiny bit bigger than a piece of rice. and my dad said something funny and i accidentely inhaled a piece. and i was coughing trying to see if i could get it out. but it didnt. and i was just wondering if this could do any damage or anything serious to me?
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No serious damage. It's the same thing as choking, it will just be pretty uncomfortable for the rest of the night, possibly.

If you cough up blood, then you've got a problem.

I accidently inhaled Tabasco Brand Hot Sauce at Dennys with some friends and it felt terrible. My throat hurt for the rest of the night, but the next morning it was just fine.

Rice wouldn't deal any damage. But going into the severity of it, doctors often put tubes in people's throats to help them to breathe, it goes to the same place and they don't get permanently damaged.

Just avoid choking on knives.

Hope this helped!


my boyfriends going to the movies with her old friend angelina, and angelinas friend who i dont know. he asked me if it was okay and i said yes even though i didn't mean it. i dont want to be stupid and be like no you cant go. the thing is my boyfriend use to have feelings for her, like a year ago and thats what worrys me. can anyone give me advice not to think about it? or something so i dont worry as much? i do trust him im just blah jealous i guess =/ (link)
Well, you can tell him that you're jealous.

But considering he asked you, he thinks it's okay now.

Just don't let him think something is okay when it's not, he'll get confused when you decide that it isn't okay.

Just ask him a series of questions that would convince you that Angelina isn't any sort of threat.

Hope this helped! Good luck!


When volleyball first started i was instantly in love with the sport. That is where i met my 2 BFF's. As we got to 8th grade we rocked at v-b and we where playing for fun and no one EXPECTED us to win, even though we where the "A" team.

Now that highschool started the coaches are like "you better do this or your not gonna play" and "You DON'T PLAY FOR FUN you play to WIN!!!" and "I DON'T WANT ANY LOSES!" she literly makes us run and do sprints(if you miss a ball in a game) by your self in front of everyone else. Then yells in our face if we don't win and points out every single mistake we make and what/who "cost" us the ""precious"" game.

Is it me or am i thinking wrong by wanting to quit? and is it as bad as i think(or am i being to 'wimpy'?) Help! (link)
You can just play the game and not play for the school.

Highschool sports are usually pretty extreme, everyone plays to win. You can still go someplace to play for fun though. Or try to ignore your coach and play the way you want to play.

As long as you're good and you win, it shouldn't matter if you don't do certain things, right? :D

Hope this helped.


during lighting and thunderstorms i know that lighting bolts bounce off rubber, i was randomly wondering if its possible to sit on a trampoline during it, becuase wouldnt the bolts reflect off? haha anyone have any guesses, its killing me (link)
Well for one, a trampoline isn't high enough to be the main conductor of electricity. And I think if lightning does strike the trampoline, it would be the metal parts, considering they conduct electricity. Electricity is attracted to conductors.

But if you were to jump in a trampoline during lightning, that may make you a high enough target. ;)

Hope this helped!


okay i guess this is urgent! my vagina has skin around the hole wear ur fingured. and that skin looks as if its ripped! so i dont no wat to do and if its not a big problem i dont want to take it to my mother so please let me no! thank yous so much (link)
It's really hard to determine based off of your description, is it bleeding? Sore? Does it hurt?

If it hurts, just let try to let it heal, it may take some time, being in such a sensitive area.

I don't really know what to do if it's actually ripped, stitches may be in order. I'm not sure.

If it hurts or bleeds. You should probably tell your mother.

Hope this helps!


i became sick from anesthesia, so i had nothing in my stomach for about a day. the next day i began to eat normally (maybe even a little less then usual). the third day i ate completely normal...how i usually eat. i weighed myself and i am FIVE POUNDS HEAVIER THEN I WAS WHEN I BECAME SICK. why would this happen? will my weight go back down to what it always is? is there an explanation for this? (link)
You may have turned fat into muscle, muscle weighs more than fat.

And be sure to weigh yourself in the mornings, that's when you have no water weight.

If all else fails, just try your regular exercise, 5 pounds ain't a big deal.

Hope this helps!


Okay, so I'm turning 15 in November, and I've had 2 boyfriends, both were my best friends at the time, and in 5/6th grade. Guys just don't seem to like me.

I've been told I'm nice, but I'm definately not pretty. Although I wouldn't say I'm butt ugly:
[this is my myspace, to see the picture:
www.myspace.com/stephanie_elizabeth121a

I would just like to know some tips on getting boys to like me more. (link)
From what I can see, you're quite cute.

By estimation, you're entering Highschool this year, I think.

Highschool is a lot bigger than Middle school.

Just be yourself and try to be outgoing to meet more people and you'll do just fine.

Good luck finding a boyfriend


what does that mean? (link)
Yes, the hymen being the metaphorical "cherry"

Guys may say it to brag.




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