hey im 14/f....i realliie lyke this kidd last year i went out with hym ... nd a few weeks ago he called me we talked on the phone for over 2 hours. He said he liked me nd i tolod hym i like hym.... but i kno that i more then lyke hym I LOve Hym nd i mean it . im not the type of person to say i love someone .. we txt each other sometimes but we havnt talk talked in three weeks. i kno he is the type of guy to wait for a person to talk to them soo should i call him nd i should what should i say ..
please help me thanx
Well if you like him then of course you should call him silly! Just talk...everything will be fine. Don't tell him you love him yet..give it some time. You don't wanna scare him away..good luck
Becca
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I just want to start out saying i am 14 years old. okay now to my question. My best friend and her boyfriend broke up in August. She is totally obsessive over the poor guy. Me and him just started to talk again.. and we kind of fooled around a little bit.He is still a virgin, but im not and we have been talking about having sex. I know if i tell my best friend we have been fooling around and we have a thing for each other she will kill us both. She said * if anyone is with him im killing them both* and i believe her because her mom speeded up on him one day when he walked by her car. I wanna have sex with him. We just have this connection. I think its going to be awkward because of him being a virgin and all.. I am afraid of my friend finding out what we have done in the past.. please help and give me advice :)
Well, if you feel that its a real danger to tell your friend that you're fooling around with her ex boyfriend then I wouldn't tell her. But, I don't think she'd really kill you. If you want to tell her, then just be like look, I'm sorry it didn't work out between you and him, but we really like eachother. Something like that. I would never go out with any of my friend's exs just for that reason. Maybe you should stop seeing him?
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okay i have this friend who ive only known for like a year and weve only been good friends for like a couple months but anyways he is going out with my bestfriend ..and i mean i hate when people my age (14) say i love you if you can tell they dont mean it but i KNOW they do and i hangout with them like everyday and i have so much fun with them they are the two people i can honestly say i trust i love them both to death they are my bestfriends... but this kid got charged for raping these two girls..but he didnt do anything like that he would never do that...they are just stupid and try to start shit and thats not something to joke around with and so he was locked up for 2 months until he went to court...and his gf's (my bff) mom found out she said she wanted her to have NOTHING to do with him..he got out and we were over there everyday and she had been lying to her mom but then we got cought the other day and her mom was bullshit and told my mom the whole story and now we cant see him because neither of them want us going over there...my mom says i can talk on the phone with him and stuff and maybe go over in a little while when he gets off house arrest but i feel so bad he is my bestfriend and she loves him and he is the only one she has besides like me and a few others.... please helpp
I don't know what to tell you. You can try telling your mom that he wouldn't do that and you know it, but I don't know if it will work. If it doesn't, then just give it a little time.
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Hi. My bf N I have only been goin out for like 3 days but we really like each other bc weve been talkin a while N stuff. Well last nite I went over to his house N I had to take my friend bc my mom doesnt really trust me to be alone. Well me N bf didnt really talk N we didnt do anything even tho I really wanted to. After we left I got online N he was actin all weird. Then I called him N he said he was mad that I didnt do anything, that I said I was bored(which I do like all the time, I cant help it), that I wanted my one friend to come which he doesnt like her at all, N that I didnt hold his hand when he wanted me to. We were kinda fighting N when we were hangin up all he said was was bye. Usually he says "love ya". I dont kno wut to do. I tried callin him but he wasnt home from vo-tech yet then he worked. Wut do ya think I should do? I tried tellin him that I was shy since it was like the first time we hung out when we were goin out. Even my best friend knows that I get like that. Any advice will help. Thanks!
Well, I don't really think he should be saying "love ya" yet anyways. I mean, it's only been three days. Just call him and tell him that you didn't want to do anything around your friend cause you felt bad or something. Maybe if he gets mad at you because you don't do something it could cause problems in the future. If you didn't do anything, he should respect your decision even if you wanted to.
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this one guy that used to be my best friend is being so mean to me lately and there is so much i wish i could talk to him about cause i really need some help but he doesn't giv a shit about me and it pisses me off cause i need him so much and i care about him. wat do u think i should do? just ignore him or tell him how i feel? (not that that will make a difference) thanx!!!
No difference or not, tell him how it makes you feel when he does this, and ask him why. If he still doesn't respond differently, leave him be for a while. He'll eventually come around. He's probably just going through some things right now. Good luck to you :)
Becca
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me and my now boyfriend were like bestfriends and i kinda liked him but he had a girlfriend then he broke up with her because she cheated on him and asked me out a week later he said he liked me the whole time so i said yes but its really akward and it seems like he doesnt even come near me hes kissed me once and thats it and we barely even talk...a few days ago he got mad because i said something to my friend about how he doesnt even come close to me and stuff and she asked him about it and then shes like well she was just confused and then he was like fuck her and then i apologized and he did too but now we still dont talk and it sucks i wish i never went out with him but i dont know what to do cause i know he wotn wanna be friends with me if i break up with him
Well, if you're not happy then you have to do what you have to do. If breaking up with him is going to make you happier in the sense that you won't have to worry about it anymore, then that's what you should do. It sounds like he is just wanting a girlfriend, you know? A real boyfriend wouldn't be afraid to kiss you and would want to talk to you all the time. You need to find you a man that's gonna treat you right. He's not treating you how you should be treated. He will be friends with you if you break up with him after awhile, if not, then he was never a real friend. You have to think about these things. But I hope I helped you out some, good luck to you!
Becca xoxo
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... What do i do when my boyfriend gives me permission to have sex with one of his friends while he is in the same house as us when i didnt even mention ANYTHING about it?
If your boyfriend says something like that, he obviously doesn't care what happens to your relationship. Or maybe he thought you were flirting with him and was being sarcastic. If not, then that's pretty fucked up that he would give you permission. I think you should ask him what he meant by it and if he really cares about you.
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Ok, well i like this kid but my mom dont kno i have boyfriends or whatver, and the kid lives walking distance from me and i kno she would kill me if she found out i was hookin up wit him because hes kind of a "bad boy" ya kno? well i like really like him and we are goin out and i think im ready to lose my virginity to him, but i kno hes not a virgin ne more hes had sex with a couple people already but hes a little younger than me hes 14 and so am i but ill be 15 like 4 months before him, and im still a virgin but ne ways, i dont kno if i should have sex with him but i really want to and i think i kn im am ready- but if i would get pregant i kno my mom would friggin *kill* me, and ya i kno we will use a condom but wat if i still get pregant? ahh well pleassee help meee
you won't get pregnant if you use a condom and if it doesn't break. I'm sorry for not answering you earlier, I've been busy the last few days. Anyways, you don't have much to worry about. Just make sure he's really the one you want to give your virginity to because it's a special thing. Trust me. Good luck to you
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okay well .. i like this kid* and so does my best friend..and this kid has like a lot of girls that are friends..and hes always with them..and i know i get jealous..and so does she wen i flirt with him..but my friend and him dont flirt as much..i wana just give up on him..b/c i dont know wuts going to happen..and a lot of ppl are saying..time will tell..but i just need some ideas on wat to do .. b/c i cant give up.
Well if you like him then you need to tell him. But you also need to stop and think, "Is a boy worth losing a best friend over?" Never ever choose a boy over your best friend because she will always be there for you, who knows how long that boy will be with you. Talk it out with your friend too..
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wut do ya think is the best way to tell a guy ya like him...I want to but like I dont wanna make our friendship weird...but everyone says that he likes me too so idk...if ya can think of anything plz help!!!...oh N ur advice is great...my best friend prolly couldnt even give me as good as advice as ya give ppl...lol...
Hey thanks. Well I would just tell him to his face. That's always the best way but if you're too nervous then writing a note or telling him on the phone or something would be fine too. It wouldn't make your friendship weird. It might at first but after awhile it would get back to normal if he doesn't like you back. I hope I helped :)
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I just asked the last question...Im 14 now but Ill be 15 soon which my mom said that shell let me do more stuff when Im 15 but I dont think she will...Ive been trying to be patient but like...I like goin over to this one guys house and I cant as much as I want to bc of her...I guess Ill just have to wait and see how things go
Well, my mom said she would too, and she really did. Just have some faith in her, I'm sure things will go your way. Best of luck to you
Becca
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my mom treats me like a lil girl...she wont let me have guys over and she just let me go to a guys house like 2 weeks ago...well she didnt really know I was going to his house bc I knew she would say no...but like I want to be able to go over there without having to worry that she will get mad or something...what do u think I should do...should I talk to her or just show her that she can trust me...thanks
I know exactly how you feel, my mom use to be like that too. It really helps if you tell me how old you are. My mom did that when I was 14 and until i was 15 and a half but now that I'll be 16 in a few days, she's a lot more leniant with me. She's probably doing it for your own good. She doesn't want to see you get hurt and believe me I've learned that. I know you don't want to hear this but appreciate what she's doing. She'll loosen up once she sees that you can handle a heartbreak or at least that you're old enough to understand that most guys just want sex. By doing that, my mom saved me a whooole bunch of heartbreaks but now, she's letting me date a 20 year old and she lets me go over to his house. On weekdays I have to be home at 9 and on weekends I have to be home at midnight. I'm sure your mom will be a lot more leniant, just be patient. Until then, say you're going somewhere else lol thats what i did.
Hope I helped you, if you have anymore questions just ask.
Becca
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i know this may be stupid but im 14 and i never really did anything with a guy except kiss, but theres this one guy and we both like each other and of course i wanna do stuff with him bc i know he wouldnt just be using me, what do you think would be right for like the first time we do something, i dont want to like have sex right away but just something to have fun, lol, hope you can help
thanks
take it to whatever you want to take it to. I can't tell you what to do, it's your decision. If you think you're ready for what you're gonna do then just do it. 14 is a really young age to be doing those sort of things..in my opinion anyways. But if you wanna have fun then go ahead :).
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im the same girl the asked about the "slut" question a lil bit ago...but anyway...today he told me he loved me and it was kinda weird cause it felt like he meant it but i just couldn't be sure and i told him i loved him 2...how do i know if he was telling the truth or does he only like me because i do stuff with only him...
thanks
You can't really tell if he's telling the truth. Don't do stuff with him for a while and see if he still hangs around.
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hey i was just wondering what would be the best way to ask you out?
I want to hang out with you a little more and get to know you more i really like you though so don't get the idea that i don't.. i think you're a really great guy.. i just want to get to know you a little better.. but when you do ask me out or IF you do.. JUST DO IT!:-)
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i had this guy over this weekend and things got pretty hot and heavy...he fingered me and stuff and after that it was kinda awkward and im not sure it should have happened it but it was great fun at the time...i don't want him to think im a slut but he is the only one i trust to do anything with...how do i keep him from thinking im a slut???
thanx
He's not going to think you're a slut just because you did stuff with him. Don't do stuff with him every time you're together or else just tell him if you like him or something.
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Im really close to this one guy...like...I can talk to him bout anything...but we flirt a lot...and a lot of ppl thought we were goin out before but he had a girlfriend...but now he broke up with her and I like him...and it seems like he may like me too...but I dont kno if I should tell him how I feel or just see how things go...plz help
if you've read my other answers, I always tell the same thing to people who ask this question..."Always tell someone how you feel, mean what you say and say what you mean. Opportunities are lost in the blink of an eye but regrets can last a lifetime" Tell him how you feel..
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Im not an advice columnist bitch...I just wanted to tell her that...get over it...
I know you aren't an advice columnist. If you want to tell her something you can tell her to her face. I was asking NICELY if you would not advertise your shit advice on my column. Don't do it again.
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I just wanna give advice to that Kelly girl...Girl, if your the Kelly whos goin out with Don...not to be mean or anything since I dont kno ur ex...but Dons a keeper...so if I were you I would do w/e it takes to keep him...
Um..I don't know but I'd appreciate if you wouldn't advertise on my advice column. This is for people who actually NEED advice. Thank you
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I just asked the question bout bein shy..I would write him a note but he goes to Newport..and I go to Greenwood..so I wouldnt really be able to give it to him and its not that I dont trust his friends its just that I think that would be a little private..I have his sn but he isnt on that much..at least hes not on when I am..hes going to the football game Friday so hopefully I can talk to him there..but how can I talk to him if were in a big group?..bc I hang out with his guy friends and so he would be there but like..I feel weird with everyone around..
Hm..try asking him if he wants to go for a walk with you. Or, if you don't want to be alone with him, just join the conversation he's having. If he's watching the game..well then that would be useless lol.Don't worry though, everything will be fine. Don't worry about what other people think either, if you like him then go for it. I'm sure the conversation will pick up once you get started.
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